IVF sibling round support

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Just wondered if there would be any interest in setting up a support thread for those of us thinking about a sibling round. This could very much be a 'me' issue but I feel a bit awkward sometimes posting in other threads, it's a bit like being stuck between being very lucky and fortunate having had a successful round, but also struggling with the challenges of having to go through it all over again. I've found it difficult to know my place in this community now.

So yeah, is anyone else trying or thinking about trying for their sibling round yet? Ill post a comment with our story.

Hi everyone, it’s been a while since I posted I think I was 8 weeks then and I debated if I should as it’s really shitty news from my end. I lost my baby at 15 weeks 😞 It’s been well…devastating. It’s been three weeks now since I said goodbye and the days are getting a little easier, without my son I’m not sure how I would have coped he’s kept me going on some very dark days! I wish I was posting a happy update but it just was not meant for me this time. Welcome everyone that is new on this thread and hope everyone else is doing well. Lotsa luv xx

I’m waiting for my body to return to normal and then we will try again, my head is getting there but I need a bit of time not being pregnant a 7 week miscarriage then 15 weeks over the last 9 months has floored me! But I am still determined to carry on, three Frosties left 🙏 hopefully one of them will be our 2nd baby, I effing hope so as I’m 41 now so not sure I could go through another full cycle especially with the added pgd we have to do for my husbands translocation. Jeez this shit is hard isn’t it 🥴

@LT103 Welcome to the thread. Wishing you the best of luck that one of your remaining frosties works :)

@Bobbin83 I'm so so sorry to hear your news. I can't imagine how difficult and unexpected that must have been. I think its important to never feel like you can't post difficult news - its the reality of what you've been through, and I'm sure everyone will be sending you support in our thoughts. Hope your son continues to bring you light during this difficult time, and that you find success with one of your remaining frosties when you're ready

@Bobbin83 I'm so sorry and as @2mumlife said it's always fine to share bad news. Sounds like such a tough year for you. Are they able to provide any information on what happened through testing to help you in future (I don't know if they do that for later miscarriages)? Sending you hugs and luck for your remaining Frosties.

@LT103 welcome. How are you feeling about it all?

Welcome @Jaffa1989 best of luck for starting. I've seen lots about people being successful with their not as good Frosties so keeping everything crossed for you

@2mumlife hope you can have your home birth and glad all is looking good. Can't believe you're 28 weeks

Thanks @2mumlife @Overlyanxious for your words ❤️

@Overlyanxious The first miscarriage was 7 weeks and unexplained they said that there was a sac but no embryo had grown at the first scan, more than likely not viable embryo as none of ours are tested our clinic don’t believe in PGS we had PGD for our known translation that my husband carries and it didn’t have that. This one we have had the genetics back and the baby had a rare syndrome, both my husband and I were tested alongside the baby and we don’t carry the gene thankfully and have been told it’s a complete random spelling mistake in one of the genes and not something that will happen to us again as I was worried about that. There are loads of other things that can go wrong obviously but with this one it was random really really shit luck, hard to accept but at least we know why 😥

Our embryos were made when I was 35 so I’m really hoping the 3 we have left we have another viable embryo in there as we had 8 to start with and one live birth my lovely son ❤️

@Overlyanxious Honestly can't really believe it either. Been telling partner we need to start having some proper conversations about names, sort out the room that will eventually be used as a bedroom etc etc

@Bobbin83 I hope there has been some comfort in knowing your baby had a rare issue that you couldn't have changed, and that is very unlikely to affect you again. 3 embryos remaining should give you good odds hopefully x

Thanks all! Start my injections next week so it's all becoming very real again @Bobbin83 I'm so so sorry to hear about your loss. It's so heartbreaking and I hope you're doing ok ❤️

GTT results back already - all normal 😁

However my ferritin level has tanked (which to be honest I kind of expected) so assuming someone is going to call me tomorrow and tell me I need more iron tablets (despite already taken iron in multivitamin) 😣

@Bobbin83 so sorry to hear your news

@Overlyanxious mixed feelings just now. I fee like now I’ve made the call and sorted the first steps it all seems very real all of a sudden. Plan was for transfer later in year but if scan is all ok I’m not sure how long I’ll be able to wait.

@LT103 I had my scan in February with the plan to transfer in June as I wanted to wait till I had moved house and it felt like forever waiting. It's like the scan kickstarted my urgent need to go for it (even though it all feels quite scary with having a toddler to look after as well).

@Bobbin83 my heart breaks for you, I'm so, so sorry for what you're going through 💔 I can't imagine how hard it must have been to come back and write all that down, so thank you so much for sharing. Such terribly shitty luck with a rare syndrome showing up randomly... it's unbelievable how these things ahppen sometimes... 3 frosties from 35yo definitely gives you a good chance, so I really hope your luck turns and the next transfer is the one for you xxx sending hugs xxx

@LT103 welcome and best of luck! Congrats on your son and I'm sorry about your previous miscarriage... that's a great number of frosties there 🤞🏼 totally agree with @Overlyanxious having the OK to proceed made it feel a lot more urgent so I can imagine wanting to proceed asap!

@2mumlife congrats on making 28w and normal GTT results! so glad to hear you're on track for a nice, healthy-sized baby 😅and a home birth! ugh I had terrible iron liquid supplements that stained my teeth last time round, so I hope you don't need those! But things must suddenly be feeling so real now... exciting!

@Jaffa1989 good luck getting started next week!

@2mumlife @Jaffa1989 I can't remember where I read the study into boy/girl embryo development rates, but I do remember reading it... although the differences are not huge (less than 60/40 if I recall). It may be pure coincidence, but our Day5 was a boy and our Day6 was a girl, exactly the same grade 🤷🏻‍♀️

@2mumlife @Overlyanxious Thanks again for your support. Yd's scan confirmed what we saw at the previous one: the missing duct still can't be found but everything else looks good. Always so relieved not to have any more nasty surprises... The consultant said she wasn't worried to, to be safe, we have an appointment with the geneticist on Tuesday to talk about a potential amnio the week after. The more time passes, the more I feel like we have to do that to avoid doubts and stress up until baby is born or even after, but it's still a pretty scary thought!

@Bobbin83 3 remaining embryos is definitely a good number. I'm sorry to hear it was due to a rare genetic condition. That is good that you both don't carry the gene. I hope you're taking care of yourself x

@beachbum85 glad to hear everything else is looking good and that the consultant isn't worried. Yes I can imagine the amnio is a big decision, but you will know what's best for you x

@beachbum85 Need to pick up something from the pharmacy today - not sure exactly what's been prescribed as when GP called they said it was only something I needed to take 3 times a week, and I suspect its liquid not tablets. Will find out later today.

So pleased to hear baby is looking well other than the duct. It sounds like the amnio would help put your minds at rest. Hope the meeting the the geneticist goes ok. Will you need any extra scans to keep an eye on babies growth etc?

So I had some blood tests with the doctor as part of this new patient thing and the doctor rang today to say I have a slightly overactive thyroid and next steps are to check it again in a month. I'm now really worried and he wasn't particularly helpful. Just said to speak to my IVF clinic and midwife but I don't have a midwife yet.

@Overlyanxious I think this is something they can just treat with medication? I think elevated TSH is associated with infertility / miscarriage, but its really not something I know anything about to be honest. Its good they are re-checking it. Maybe reach out to your fertility clinic?

@2mumlife I've emailed them and waiting for a response. I had seen about miscarriage and infertility so back to massively panicking again.

@Overlyanxious Hope your clinic get back to you. I would try not to worry if the result is borderline high x

@2mumlife they weren't helpful. Just said to talk to my gp to see if I need medication.

@Overlyanxious That's really frustrating your clinic didn't help, as normally they check your TSH level before beginning treatment and put you on medication then if necessary. Has your GP made an appointment for doing the retest?

@2mumlife they didn't seem to this time. I just got the test result - was 0.23 for tsh so waiting to see if the clinic has any concerns.