FET - February 2023

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Hi!
Looking to find some friends who are going to be going through a FET in February.

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Hi @Megan1591 congratulations on your scan - that’s great news you could see the heart beat. I haven’t had any bleeding. Still not much in the way of symptoms. I talked to the GP today she said lack of symptoms could be due to the amount of meds I’m taking. However, I do get some bloating as well, but only later in the day.
The waiting is killing me!

Is anyone else struggling with foods they want to eat? All I want is fruit at the moment and protein shakes.

Not had a hot meal since Friday.

Any suggestions?

@BronteGirl1985 yes, me! I have weird cravings and full cooked meals are a no-go for two weeks now. I went through the fruit stage :) which was nice, was in salad stage, am in risotto stage now and anything yoghurt/cheese. I can only eat very small portions so my regular meal would be split to two-three portions. I have to eat every 2h or else my nausea is horrible. I literally spend whole day planning what I'll eat. Have checked with several medical practitioners and they all confirmed this is all right. Just eat what feels good and small portions, don't worry too much as the baby is getting everything it needs from you (I asked my GP this again two days ago because I worry that I don't eat enough).

@peonygirl Thank you so much for your response, it is so nice to hear I'm not the only one feeling this way.

I just can't stand the smell of cooking at the moment and literally have zero appetite.

Hopefully it will improve over next few weeks.

Hi all. Had our scan this morning. I’m 7 weeks today but was only measuring at 6+3. There was a heartbeat and everything is in the right place but I’ve to go back in a week for another scan. I’ve been crying in bed since we got home at 10am. This is what happened in October but I was measuring only 6+1 then.
I asked if all our embryos could have defects or if there’s more tests I need in case I’m deficient in something but was ignored.
I'm 40 next and this isn’t how I thought I’d be spending it. X

@LittleAm don't worry too much, you cannot really influence the embryo and its growth but you can impose stress on it and rising adrenaline in your body that will be detrimental to the embryo. Try and pamper yourself. If possible try and speak to someone. I have continuous support from psychologist to maintain my anxiety levels because I know if they spike it will be bad for the baby.

@BronteGirl1985 happy to help :) with the hormone beta rising you will likely feel worse in the coming weeks (sorry). I have every week worse response to the food and cannot stand my own fridge, yet alone a restaurant smell. Try to drink if you have no appetite (it is easier said than done, I know - I have horrible time getting any liquids down).

Sorry for all the questions everyone, but how many weeks were you when you had your scan?

My clinic are making me wait till I am 8w4d.

Just feeling so anxious, I am not sure it it is worth asking for an earlier scan.

@LittleAm at my scan on Tuesday I was measuring anywhere between 6 +1 to 6 +3. I should of been 6+4. My consultant didn't seem concerned at this stage, he said I see everything that I would expect and measuring at the fetus at this size is never correct because it's so small. He put my mind at ease 😊

@BronteGirl1985 my clinic suggested to have the first scan between 7 and 8 weeks. They sayd there should be a heartbeat at this stage

@BronteGirl1985 my scan was meant to be at 7+5 but I had an earlier one at 6+4 because I had some bleeding.
It's worth asking for an earlier scan but be prepared that they might say no.

Thank you @Maya34 and @ingkir for you response.

I have just sent a message to say that I am feeling incredibly anxious. I know 2 weeks doesn't seem far away but I am literally riddled with anxiety everyday worrying something is wrong.

I want to be able to take each day as it comes but my thoughts wonder.

Maybe it's because I have always had bad luck and to have good luck for a change, I am seeking the bad stuff because that's what I used.

Sorry to rant. Just wondered if anyone felt the same.

@BronteGirl1985 I felt just as you do, lots of anxiety and stress. Everyone was trying to tell me to calm down but bleeding and spotting set my stress levels too high to be able to take their advice. I only calmed down after I saw the heartbeat so if you can, go do the scan. But be advised that you shouldn't do further scans if possible until weeks 10-14 because too much ultrasound waves are not good on the embryo. I had my scan at week 6 and waiting for another scan that will likely be weeks 12-14. I would love to see that the bud is fine but so far my nausea is excruciating so this keeps me occupied. Just know everything you feel is normal and you can send a private message if you need to chat. I had someone from this page who helped me tremendously from FET transfer up to my first scan because she was there when I needed to vent. Rest assured, we all go through the same crazy roller coaster.

@Megan1591 thank you. I’m worried because I’m 3-4 days behind and last time I miscarried. I’ve convinced myself it’ll be the same outcome this time 😫

@BronteGirl1985 my scan is 7 weeks. Well done for asking for an earlier one, it’s a good idea if you’re worried.
@peonygirl i didn’t consider the ultrasound waves being bad for the embryo! I was planning on having weekly ultrasounds after week 7. But now I’m scrapping that idea.

I’m now officially week 6 and nausea is kicking in - seems to be the worst at night and manageable during the day. But not actually vomiting - just sick feeling. I too am very anxious and think I will be until week 12. April is going to be a loooooong month.
also I’ve stopped with HCG testing now - just going to wait it out for my scan next week.

@Stillhoping1990 seems like you are doing everything right. Once you see the heartbeat you know the embryo is fighting in there to survive. I was told the best I can do is to rest to give the body the energy it needs to grow the little buddy in there. So that's what I am doing.

About the waves - I was told this twice at my clinic. If you want, check with the sonographer at your scan. I was also told that I should literally see heartbeat for a flicker or two, more is too detrimental to the embryo. I did my week 6 at Ultrasound Direct and they were fab.

I too have evening nausea worse than the rest of the day but now experience nausea throughout the day and some days are rough. I am approaching week 9 so I expect it to be tough. Eat small meals, graze and nibble - that's all I do. You got this - you came this far, just a bit longer :)

@LittleAm I completely understand. I've had 3 miscarriages too. All you can do is hope. Remember that it's different sperm and different egg this time. So can't be the same as last time 😊

@peonygirl @Stillhoping1990 I haven't heard from my clinic about the ultrasound being bad for the baby. My clinic gave me an ultrasound at 6-7 weeks and because of prior miscarriage, a follow up scan the next week to confirm development is ok. Hope that helps.

How’s everyone doing this week?
I have my first scan on Thursday - both excited and nervous.

Hi @Stillhoping1990 good luck with your scan! I’ve got my follow up scan tomorrow (I’ll be 8 weeks) x

@LittleAm I hope it all goes well today and you see some progress! Let us know xxx

Unfortunately I have miscarried. Health and happiness to all xxxx

@LittleAm I am so so sorry for your loss 💐 Please don’t give up hope xxx

@LittleAm I am so sorry to read this, it is very hard to grasp with the reality of a loss. Be strong and don't give up. xx

So so sorry @LittleAm . Please take some time and be kind to yourself xxx

Thanks everyone. I kind of expected it, not that it’s any easier but it’s our 2nd miscarriage in 6 months. My embryos are running low now! I’m 40 on Saturday so I’m throwing myself into making it a brilliant weekend so I have some good memories with family and friends.
I wish everyone all the best in their journeys. If anyone ever needs a friendly ear then please reach out xxx