IVF in Feb/March 2020?

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Hello! I'm just wondering whether there are others starting their IVF journey in Feb/March 2020.

I am dealing with secondary infertility (male factor) and we have been TTC#2 for 16 months. We conceived naturally by some miracle back in July, but sadly had an early miscarriage (my third in total). We're now waiting to start ICSI IVF in early February.

Would love to hear from others doing the same. x

@Rumtopf yep next scan in the morning. I had an Indian takeaway last night 🙈. The corona virus thing has really raised my anxiety so I needed to comfort eat. I'm sure we'll be fine. I also have will be testing right around my Birthday. I hope we get the best gift ever!

@Rumtopf and @luby89k try not to focus too much on the dates. Most of us on here have had them move. I was advised to take it day by day and that was good advice as it's so changeable. It's hard, I'm someone who likes a plan, I don't cope well with the unknown.

The cyclogest sounds fun! When do you start those? It just says start when the embryologist tells you on my plan.

@PickleKid I did not realise they put stuff up there whilst we're asleep 🙈. Gosh this process is not for the faint hearted is it.

@SpyroC yep and I totally forgot. I only looked in the bowl to make sure there wasn't blood and I realised it because it looked like cotton or something.

The cyclogest starts the night of EC (1x before bed) and by the ET becomes 2x a day until you get a result. Keeps your lining thick and ready.

If pregnant, you stay on 2x a day until the 12 week mark. If not, you stop and get a very very heavy period. And start again.

My new friend from that day (we were all batched together) messaged me in panic that night because she thought she was supposed to take stuff and I had to tell her it was already up there job done.

Nope not for the faint hearted at all!

Hey guys, i duno if it's the hormones or i'm a psycho but one of my best friends just told me she's pregnant after coming straight off the pill. I can't stop crying. What the hell is wrong with me 😢 i feel like the worst friend in the world.

Oh @luby89k that’s tough. You’re not the worst friend in the world at all, feeling hurt/angry is totally normal in the circumstances. I still have a really hard time with friends / family getting pregnant too and have realised I’ve started to pre-emptively push people away who I’m expecting to announce.

There is nothing wrong with you @luby89k. When you've been trying for a baby for years and have to go through the wrench of IVF it is completely understandable to feel upset when someone else gets pregnant. Especially when they have just come off the pill. Infertility is horrible, we mourn every negative pregnancy test/period as a loss. Be compassionate with yourself, you are upset for you not unhappy for your friend and that's ok.

thanks @Pinktruffle @Youngatheart00 i'm just so frustrated. She said she was guna start trying at the end of the year so i didn't see it coming. Maybes that's why i'm so sad. I hate crying at home cause my poor husband blames himself. It's just awful. Maybe i should just self isolate for life till i get pregnant haha x

@luby89k I don't think you are alone in feeling that way. A few weeks back I spent a whole evening sobbing when a girl in my team at work announced her pregnancy. We are not even friends really. She told me had been worried that it wouldn't happen as she had been off the pill for 3 months before she fell pregnant. I had actual rage!! But thinking about it I suppose the struggle is relative to everyone and as nobody knows we are struggling then I can't expect her to be considerate

My clinic said that I had to use the pessaries vaginaly. I didn't know there was another option so thanks for that. I've been on the steroids since Wednesday and I'm struggling with the side effects already. They are not fun. Also super nervous about our call from the clinic tomorrow. Praying that one of the three left is good enough to go back in on Tuesday

@luby89k you're not a bad friend at all, the way you feel is totally understandable and a good cry is probably the best thing to do this evening. It just seems so unfair doesn't it?! I've really struggled at times too, my sil has 4 girls and the last 3 have been painful for me, the last one in particular. I had to drive away round the corner and then pull over to have a snotty wail on my dh.

I cried once when a women at work who seemed to hate kids got pregnant by accident, but I generally have this box I put it all in. It's been so long that if I didn't, I couldn't cope.

I say, a baby is not like a liquor license when there's a capped number on a high street- and once they are gone, no one else gets one.

No one else's baby affects my chances of having one. We can all end up with a baby, they don't run out.

That's what I've been telling myself the last six years. And if I think about it that way it hurts me less and means I can still find happiness for someone else.

Hugs to you all! And hope for many, many babies! 💜

Thanks everyone

@Rumtopf i'm cd14. i hate the difference between long and short protocol 🤣 I'm 30 but my amh was low for my age but not horrendous. Maybe that's why i'm on Menopur.

Annoyingly if all goes to plan i'll be testing the day my sister in law is due 🤦🏼‍♀️ life sucks

@PickleKid that's generally how I deal with it too. Their baby is not my baby so I can be happy for them, just sometimes the wanting and the not fairs catch you by surprise and beat the breath from your body. Here's hoping to a lot more sticky BFP's for the lot of us!

@luby89k the long v short protocol is so confusing. Here's hoping to a good week for us both!

Just out of curiosity, how many people are having long protocol and how many are having short?

I'm short, due to PCOS I was told I'm not a candidate for long protocol

Thanks @PickleKid can't wait for that fun but essential stage then!

Sorry for the the pregnancy bomb @luby89k . It's a totally normal reaction probably made worse by the hormones. I just tell myself I don't won't their baby I only want mine. Also, I try to feel happy that people I care about don't have to go through this 💩. The only pregnancy announcements I feel really happy about are the ones from people on threads like these!

I hope you get good news tomorrow @confused107.

@Pinktruffle I'm long protocol.

I've realised I've run out of synarel. I hope this is easy to acquire tomorrow!

Good luck to everyone tomorrow. There's a lot going on this week xx

Morning all - just checking in from you egg collection waiting area! More info later! Thinking of everyone working towards this stage and those who have been there just before us!

Good luck @granddesigns! Let us know how you get on!

Best of luck @granddesigns, hope it all goes smoothly x

Good luck @granddesigns

Not great news for us. They are not sure if any of the three will be good enough to go back in tomorrow. They will call before 9am and tomorrow if they are not. All the emotions this morning. Can't understand how we can go from 11 eggs to nothing and how we have done so much worse than last time. Also devastated to have gone through all of this for nothing. We are also out of money so this is the end of the road for us. Feel like we are facing a future that neither of us planned for

Just a quick one in between appointments...

I hope it goes well @granddesigns x

Oh @confused107 I am so sorry to hear that. I have everything crossed for you. I hope they at least offer some sort of explanation as it seems really strange given that you had better success last time. X

My scan went well from 6 to at least 8 so the extra 2 days was worth it. Trigger tonight and Ec on Wednesday .

Sorry to hear that @confused107, there is still hope though so hold onto that for now. It is such a rollercoaster of emotions, I really do hope it works out for you and they can at least put one in 🤞

All done - 7 eggs. Lots of smaller follicles but 7 to ICSI this afternoon. Fingers crossed the numbers are enough to get through to transfer on hopefully sat.

Sorry to hear your update @confused107 - thinking of you.

@granddesigns that’s a great number! I had 6 originally and ended up with 4 blastocysts, fingers crossed all goes well over the next few days x

Thanks @Twins2girls - felt a bit confused as there were loads of follicles so it seemed like not many but they said they only went into. 8 of them as others were too small. They seemed happy with it so I'm fine with that. Now to see how the numbers map out this week.

@granddesigns that's great, now fingers crossed lots of them do well at the next stage.

@confused107 I'm so sorry to read your update. I hope they improve overnight for you. It's so difficult to understand when you feel you've done everything by the book.