IVF/ICSI May/June 1000 posts plus :)

[Cauliflower82]

Hi peeps :)

I’ll hyperlink this to our old thread so we can continue bitching about crystal82 😂

I can’t believe we’ve almost got to 1000 posts. I didn’t even know that was a thing - thank you @kittykatsmile because I had no idea it would just max out and I can NOT go on without you all. That’s not even an option.

@Zest11 yes before transfer I had a week without insta and Facebook. It's definitely made me feel worse being on Instagram so much. I know I shouldn't care what people think but I really do.

What time is transfer tomorrow?

@Zest11 and when people create those videos it's all a show and geared for the camera. I didn't even think I want to film this romantic moment!!

As an example of insta. I was out with my family for a meal last weekend. Two guys who I think were together were sat opposite each other and on their own phones not speaking. One ordered lobster that was £30. When it came the other guy filled/photographed him smiling from ear to ear, wiggling the lobster and drinking prosecco. They then spent the rest of the meal on their phones picking at their food not talking. You can bet that video went on insta. To viewers they're having the perfect meal. To us they weren't. I do feel a bit guilty I spent transfer worrying if it was a mistake as I will forever remember it being that way but it was how it was. I can't change my feelings.

@Ginandtonic31 I don't use Insta much but that just has loads of really nice, positive pictures so I can imagine that's the worst for people staging things. All being well transfer is at 2 but I'm a bit worried I'm going to get a call tomorrow morning with bad news. However if it is I would like to think they could look through the time lapse monitoring to help explain our "unexplained" diagnosis as we were clearly above their criteria for a 5dt. Who knows, this time tomorrow it will all be over...or just beginning!

@Ginandtonic31 that is so ridiculous about the lobster! Just goes to show. Ahh don't dwell on those feelings. If it works they will soon be forgotten and replaced by joy.

I I didn’t have a mock either. It just worried me at the time as they all looked a bit concerned and I thought they were going to say we can’t do it. Maybe I’m overthinking it and it’s normal but comparing it to my first it was very odd to me. I will speak to them as I don’t want the same ordeal next time x

Quick question - I had a scan on Friday and they reckon I’ll have EC on Wednesday. Have a rescan tomorrow morning, but if I’m likely to do my trigger injection tomorrow night, do I still do my fyremadel in the morning as usual? Can’t remember what the nurse said!

@AliciaWhiskers yes you will do. I was on different drugs but I imagine it's same.

@Ginandtonic31 I think everyone else can really just fuck right off. Social media can be so bloody damaging and we don't need additional shit or stress. The lobster story is very interesting. I was once with a friend in Sweden and he was always on his phone rather than speaking to me (weird huh?!) so I posted a photo of him on Facebook saying how rude I found it that he wasn't enjoying our weekend together and that this was the only way to get his attention. He wasn't happy. But I made my point.

Try not to beat yourself up. You're doing so well.

@Zest11 best of luck tomorrow. My clinic specifically told me they wouldn't call on ET day and then gave me an update when I got there. I was also really worried but try to just be excited. Let us know how you get on and good luck with the full bladder 

@Mrbay yes, think that was my error. Not everyone is as kind to Keith as you ladies

@zest11 - good luck for later, I'll be thinking of you.

@Cauliflower82 - hope your toilet is still fully operational this morning - sorry I had to ask!

@KittyKatSmile - we've just accepted you as who you want to identity as and it's sweet :)

@Ginandtonic31 - social media is everyone's rose tinted view of their world.
Personally I think it's sad that the phone was developed for us to talk to each other more easily but over the last 200+-years we've developed it so that we will only send text or boast about how perfect we are or how much money we've spent.
Over the last 12-months I have realised, life is not a competition, no -one is going to hand you a prize for having the cleanest house, the most interesting holiday, the best group of friends - heck I cannot remember the last time 3 of the 4 childhood 'friends' actually asked if I was ok.
Once I stopped playing in this so called competition, I have never felt better - they only person I compete against is my previous self, the only person who really cares about what I do. Of course my family do and that is where I am extremely lucky, my parents have supported me with everything I wanted to do and have never judged me - PS that sounds like I was spoilt - I wasn't, honest I grew up on a council estate and my parents had sod all cash but had time for me.

@kittykatsmiles - I hate when people do that! However both my DH and I are very guilty of this!

Ok, the other thing I have picked up from you all is diet, I think mine is rubbish compared to you all! I mean I did ask the consultant and mine sounds either 1) rubbish or 2) way too chilled - as he said not to worry about diet until after the ET and then I would have to follow the pregnancy rules.
Last night I treated myself to a very tasty rare filet steak (oh my, it was sooooooo good, I am never going anywhere else to buy steak now. Sorry if anyone is veggie/vegan). I am going to miss rare red meat more than alcohol if I manage to get preggers.

Sorry for the very long post!

G&T - keep your chin up and make sure you either talk to us or someone f2f if you are feeling low.

@Zest11 good luck today, hope all goes well.

@Mrbay my Dr didn’t mention anything about diet either. I’ve upped my protein thanks to this thread but wish I’d known that earlier!

@Ginandtonic31 thanks for the advice about the fyremadel. Did that one (for the last time - whoop!) this morning

EC on Wednesday for me. Still very few follies, and one has grown 7mm since Friday and is now too big . I am really hoping the others down grown between now and then - I’ve got 2 on about 22cn so if they grow too much I don’t think they will get anything useful at all (as some if the others are much smaller). Kind of wish they had put me in for EC today as they scanned me on Friday and the nurse didn’t know what to do (whether to do EC today or Wednesday) and they chose Wednesday. Do follicles grow much between trigger and EC???

@Mrbay my logical head knows this but I am still always thinking I'm not 'right' because I don't conform to the 'norm'. I know my parents are proud. They tell me all the time. That should be enough but I still tell myself I could be better.

I love a rare fillet (and the best I've ever had is always in America) so that would kill me too! And my diet has been pretty relaxed too. Hence why I've gained so much. In fact I'm just debating buying a toasted tea cake at work.

I've had none of these pulling sensations or anything people talk about so I'm not sure if anything is happening in there. Wish there was a window to have a look.

My test was again BFN this morning. I was really nervous taking another test maybe just a little hope! I had pulling pains my breasts were really veiny, sore and big. I had the same with my successful ivf so you can never tell. Would be lovely if you had a little window to see what’s going on! X

@becsharry sorry to hear the test was BFN this morning. It's so cruel the way our bodies can have symptoms like that and give us some hope. Do you have to stop the progesterone now?

@Ginandtonic31 hang on in there lovely. There is SO MUCH stress associated with this, you are doing great. I have deleted FB and insta (and MN) before, and it's so much better for my mental health. Also it means I don't waste so much time checking them all multiple times a day. I'm back on at the moment (I've needed to go back on FB for work purposes as I'm hoping to start my own business and a lot of that will be finding clients via FB), but I wish I didn't have to use it as a means to get work. And I can't delete MN now as these threads are so helpful! Double edged sword, for sure.

@AliciaWhiskers - at least i'm not the only one!
Sorry can't help you on your EC question.

@ginandtonic31 - a toasted tea cake sounds amazing!! Don't worry I've gained a good stone and a half over the past 12-months or so, still in my jeans (just) but I now need to buy a bigger size in my breeches annoyingly. Not great timing to worry about losing weight tho.
The piece I had last night, is the best I have ever had - could have cut it with a butter knife! However, as my DH will only have his steak well done (ruined in my eyes), he only gets rump! No way am I cooking a fillet well done!
When is your EC gin?

@AliciaWhiskers Thank you. Yes stopped all medication now and planing the next transfer for aug/sep x

@Becsharry I am so sorry to hear this. The progesterone symptoms sound so cruel into tricking us what's going on :(

Thank you @KittyKatSmile @mrbay and @AliciaWhiskers

Re diet. My clinic also didn't say anything about diet...I think trying to choose certain foods just makes us feel a bit more in control (doubt it actually does anything though!)

Alicia, please don't worry about follicles. I didn't have many of a decent size either but all but 1 of them had eggs in them and a v good amount fertilised. @kittykatsmile is the best to seek reassurance with here as she's similar and has her little cutie!

@AliciaWhiskers sorry can’t help on your question about EC. Have the nurses said that waiting longer will help them? I’m sure they know what they are doing is best if they’ve said they’ll wait. Fingers crossed you you x

The follicles I think they have let me stim for too long. I think by Wednesday the 3-4 largest will be too big (post mature) and I feel gutted that I’ve “wasted” 3-4 eggs when I’ve only got about 8 in the first place.

@Zest11 Thank you. I hate it that the medication can give you the same symptoms, just drives our minds bonkers! Positive thoughts for the next go and wishing you all get your BFP. I’m rooting for all of you x

@AliciaWhiskers I know It’s so hard at that stage because all your thinking about is numbers and how many you’ll have. But just remember it only takes one to be your lucky little bean x

@AliciaWhiskers reassurance en route for you! It is horrible second guessing what they are thinking but agree that we just have to trust that they know what they're doing (and they do it so freaking often, while for us it's the biggest thing in our lives!)

I had not very many and all but one fertilised and then a very good number of those turned into Cutie or Mr Frosty babies. Keep the faith.

I think I’m worried because the nurse that scanned me on Friday wasn’t sure what to do, so she phoned the doctor who wasn’t in clinic that day. So the decision was made by someone who didn’t see me, and was goodness knows where at the time of the phone call. What if they made the wrong decision?

@AliciaWhiskers totally understandable that you’re feeling this way as when you feel them doubt you start overthinking. But I’m sure it will be fine and she just wanted to double check with your dr x

@AliciaWhiskers I was left for ages stimming and afraid of losing them but i didn't. In fact more appeared so loads must have caught up. Just try and go with the flow and trust them as the expert.

I also deleted mumsnet as it was making me so depressed. Every post is Marty or telling people to leave their husbands and I got so down. I only got it back to come here for support.

@Becsharry I'm sorry it's another negative 😞 try and focus on your break in the sun!

@Ginandtonic31 I’m back to the gym tonight and enjoying a cold coffee in the sun! Thank you x