Anyone else just starting their journey ?

[TTC73]

DH is going for his sperm sample to be tested today and hes so nervous and the GP wants me to have some blood tests done and swabs at a later date. So nervous of what to expect and terrified of the possibility of IVF I've heard its so painful ?
We've been trying to have a baby for over 3yrs with 2 chemical pregnancies so far

@TTC73 I’ve has same as you back on 14th May. Swabs for HPV HIV Chlymidia and cervix check. DH had his results back from his doctor but I havent had mine yet. Think they are waiting for DH next sample in July. I know STI swabs will come back fine I’m waiting on repeated blood tests too.

I’m so impatient. If this TTC lark is teaching me anything it’s patience haha!

Hello all can I join?

Age 33 nearly 34, been TTC no2 for 16 months and 19 cycles due to some super short cycles at the beginning.

We’ve finally decided to start looking at IVF, we’ve had tests with the GP and all were fine. So we are in the unexplained secondary infertility group which is so frustrating. Had a MC last October as well, really didn’t think it would take us this long.

@lopey sorry to see you over here lovely, I know exactly what you mean about the conception boards and everyone coming and going with BFP’s and still being there.

Has anyone had a HyCoSy? I've booked a private one because I'm so bloody impatient. It will be interesting to know if my tubes are blocked.

Hi @mynameisjune welcome although sorry to see you here I also recognise you from the conception boards 😕

@lillyleaf how much was it to go private if you don’t mind me asking

It's £450. I really should wait because the following day we have our first appointment with NHS fertility clinic but I know there will be more waiting.

Hi everyone.
Can I join?
Been TTC#2 for 16 months.
Totally understand what you're saying with the conception boards, they make me feel very low sometimes.
DH SA results are due back today and I'm worrying about that. We went to our GP a few months ago which wasn't all that helpful. Fobbed me off with the day 21 blood test which I had to guess as my periods weren't regular, so i received a phone call from the receptionist saying I hadn't ovulated and that was that. However, I've been using OPKs and charting BBT and it seems I am ovulating but who knows. I'm just so tired of this all consuming need to have another baby. And I know we are so lucky to have DD. I just feel like I'm letting her down as I know she would be an amazing sister.
Sorry, just a bit of a rant I guess. I do talk to DH about it and he's so good, but I can see he's getting bored by it all. He's so laid back he's practically horizontal!
Really sorry we are all going through this. Really hope we all get the news we are so desperate for.

DH got a text yesterday to say his test results are back but he wants to wait till the 2nd so they are altogether. I still think its me though his tests will be fine whereas i know theres something wrong with me

Hi @Mellp sorry to hear ur having a hard time aswell. I know they dnt mean it guys have a different way of coping i think but it is frustrating. Well ive done it ladies ive booked my docs appt for nxt tues dnt know if i should b happy ive plucked up the courage or depressed that its all come to this. My heads all over the place at the min i keep crying at the stupidiest of things i guess i just cant believe this is really happening. The fact im 34 soon is hitting me hard feel like time is against me😢

@mellp are you me?!? We’ve also been TTC #2 for 16 months and DH is so laid back he is horizontal. He has basically told me to chose the IVF clinic I want and we’ll go there.

I also feel like I’m letting DD down not giving her a sibling as she loves babies and she’d love a sibling.

@thisisouryrfx18 well done for taking the plunge. I was also hesitant to go to the GP initially, but now I figure that whatever the outcome, is rather know what (if any) the issue is so I can either attempt to rectify it, or gain some closure. But I totally understand, it's tough

@MynameisJune sorry you're going through this as well, it's hard isn't it? As if the longing for a baby wasn't hard enough to cope with, the overwhelming feeling that I'm letting DD down is too much to cope with sometimes. Don't get me wrong, I know how lucky I am to have at least one! I'm a massive worrier so DH compliments me well with his laid-back-ness but on the other hand, I wish he'd have a bit more 'get up and go about him'! Nothing phases him at all!

thanks @Mellp x

@TTC73 you sound just like me 😂 you say congrats on these boards but inside you're like 💔💔💔 and also with the MIL... argh butt out already! The only nice thing MIL has prob ever said to me is "I really don't know why you're not a mum" (when nephew was sat on my knee) this was recently but I'm not about to divulge our personal things to her!
Anywho... picked up hubby's SA form from the GP this afternoon and asked him how he feels about making an appointment. Say he feels weird, which is fine, but it's pretty much the only thing he'll have to do at this stage. I had an internal scan 2 weeks ago, while on a heavy period, fun! Showed a 23mm endometriod cyst. Background of endo unfortunately and my cycles have been between 26-38 days since we've been ttc. Blood work also showed no ovulation... could be due to my cycle lengths so tested at the wrong time, or cycle lengths could be all over the place because I'm not ovulating 💔
Anywho, hugs to all who are desp trying x

DH broke my heart today when he woke up and said he wishes he had a baby to snuggle the house is super quiet and lonely on mornings like this

I’m pretty near the start too. DH has had SA, count was fine and motility was great but they don’t test for morphology unless there’s something up with the other 2. Had day 21 test and progesterone was at 34 which is ok. Had transvaginal ultrasound which showed no problems. On waiting list for an HSG or hycosy which should be before August when our next appointment with the consultant is.

Right now we are unexplained. Been TTC 18 months with one very early miscarriage 10 months ago. Will need to wait another 6 months before referred for ivf.

If my tubes are fine I’m going to push for a lap as I have most of the symptoms of endo. If that is ruled out then we will be truly unexplained. In some ways I wish we had a diagnosis, something to treat. I have far too high levels of hope each month and I’m utterly devastated when my period comes and they are dashed.

@TTC73- my DH occasionally says things like that. Both heartbreaking and heartwarming at the same time as it means you’re in this together and want the same thing.

Our house is not very quiet right now as my DH is playing a loud shooter type Xbox game and the cat was running about but yeah it does seem quiet sometimes especially when I can hear neighbours children playing outside.

@spugymonster sorry about your cyst and the problems detecting ovulation. Are you getting a lap to try and remove the cyst?

@LillyLeaf not had my hycosy yet but will post when I have, yours might be sooner though if you’re doing it privately.

@kikisparksu hope u get some answers soon unexplained must b soo tough❤i totally get what u mean u just wish there was some pill they could give and it would just happen..@TTC73 it is soo quiet without kids its especially hard when u c all ur friends kids gettin older and kids on the street feels like times running away

If ours all come back fine im asking for Clomid and further testing i don't want to have to go to the hospital for a referral till we've tried Clomid

@kikisparks gp didn't mention anything about having it removed. I'm not sure exactly where it is, forgot to ask if it's in or on the ovary but she did say the cyst would link in with no ovulation etc so I guess it's in. I had a lap 12 or so years ago to remove endo on the right and it took me three weeks to recover. Does anyone know if lasering off endo/cyst removal can affect fertility? Worried that it could and then I'd be even worse off.
I really had to push for the lap last time, gp was rubbish (with a diff surgery now) I guess because there's still this misunderstanding that endo only affects older women but mine was there causing me problems, well always had painful periods from almost the word go but worse 17 years old onwards and got the lap at 20, begrudgingly referred by gp.
Thanks for replying to me. I'm new around here! X

Waves at Mynameis and Lopey. I also seem to remember MrsJones from the conception boards as well.

I’m very glad to have found this thread as after 22 utterly unsuccessful cycles of ttc I’ve grown fed up of the conception boards, and the constant BFPs in Cycle 1.

Currently battling secondary infertility (we’ve been ttc #2 for 19 months or 22 cycles, with my latest AF arriving yesterday, so far we’ve had nothing other than BFNs). Issue appears to be predominantly male factor (poor morphology and DNA fragmentation), but I also only have one fallopian tube after a ruptured ectopic whilst ttc #1, and at 36 I’m hardly a spring chicken.

Aiming to do our first round of IVF in July/ August although DH is getting incredibly fed up of the low alcohol/ caffeine and healthy eating regime he’s been following since April, so is threatening not to do more than one round of IVF, so I’ll have to keep everything crossed that we end up with some Frosties... Feeling very much stuck in a rut at the moment.

@Cariad2017 hi! Feel as if we re in this weird grey area we re not infertile but conception boards are way too depressing uuugggh..im tryin to build myself up to tell my family im ttc i dnt want the added pressure but im soo tired of the secrecy and lies and feel guilty now. Im pretty sure they must know by now especially after telling my mum ive got the docs for womens stuff lol

Hey @cariad and @mynameis! Yes, sorry to see you both here too....it is shit, isn't it?!

Well I've got my nurse appointment today to kick off the ivf process. Had my internal scan on Tuesday... "a perfect uterus!" Was the sonographer's comment, so that went well!

Hoping to start ivf Isci either this month or next....this month might be too rushed as I start my next cycle (18! 😞) on Sunday, and I don't know if they can get the drugs sorted and delivered out to me in less than a week. So it will probably be mid-July instead. Gosh, I am so impatient now: just want to start!!!

Lopey - We’re in a similar boat - our next clinic appointment isn’t until 27 June but as I’ll be on the longer form protocol (where you start down regging on day 21), I’d need to start that on 29 June to be in a position to actually do IVF in July so I’m thinking August might be more likely...

Like you, I’ve given up all hope of it happening naturally at this stage, so I’m desperate to get the ball rolling on IVF (although realistically, if it doesn’t work this Summer, I think we’ll take a break until January/ February as if we’re only doing 3 cycles (and realistically I can’t see how we could justify any more), I want to give ourselves the best chance possible of recovering in between.

Thisisouryear - I totally get it re: being in that grey area of subfertility.

I still cling onto the hope of a miracle happening each month, even though at 36 and after 22 cycles, I know the odds of it happening without assistance each month are very very low. I’m also struggling to grasp the fact that we can’t seemingly manage something that seems to come so easily to others ourselves - it’s very very difficult.