BFP after IVF: any other nervous ladies in need of a handhold?

[wombats]

I've had my BFP after our first FET and in a bit of a state analysing symptoms/lack of symptoms. Had two losses prior to starting IVF so really can't get my head round what might be normal or not. Clinic will scan me at six weeks, but that is two very long weeks away! Anyone else in a similar position? xxx

@Decafplease best news ever yay!!!!! Xxxx

That’s great news decaf that must be such a relief.

So pleased to hear this decaf! Was keeping my fingers crossed for you this afternoon.

decaf congrats, fab news! Absolutely thrilled for you! Is the next scan next Thurs? Have you got to do bedrest or are regular activities alright?

Karen Two weeks feels like forever. I'm 5+3 today, the farthest I've ever been, too. Everything I've read says it's absolutely normal for symptoms to come and go at this point, and for there not to be much of anything this early. Really taking things one day at a time and trying to be positive.

Jessie Thanks for the positivity, it's good to know you can be successful in all of this.

Rational Extra sleep sounds fab. I forget if it was here or another thread, but someone mentioned that our bodies are making another human (and placenta, a whole new organ) right now, so makes sense to be shattered these days.

becky Hope your head's feeling better! Good luck with the bloods tomorrow and please let us know how you get on.

Dame how are you feeling, getting up and about?

Bruges how is your anxiety? Any new symptoms?

I'm glad I've made it through today, useless at work as so preoccupied but no signs of miscarriage. Small victory but feeling grateful, and crossing fingers for scan tomorrow. Sorry if I've left anyone out, absolutely shattered and nearly asleep already!

Sending positive thoughts to all xxx

Well done wombats for getting through a difficult day. Another hurdle jumped and lots of luck for your scan tomorrow.

Feeling calmer thanks. Standard test showing much darker line and CB digital moved to 3+ which is 7 days after moved to 2-3wks, so hoping on track. I really should have got blood beta done instead of faffing around with pee tests, but my clinic don't offer as standard and away on holiday this week in middle of countryside so nowhere near any other private clinics. Bad planning on my part!

Been feeling bit nauseous and getting full really quickly when I eat. DH shocked cos I normally have a massive appetite!

Hope everyone doing ok x

Hi all, thanks for your support yesterday! X
wombats, no bed rest, just need to take it easy & scan again on Thursday. Good luck for your scan today! X
bruges its great the digital test is moving forward! Must be a relief. Enjoy your little break.
Love to all!

Hi all, thanks for the support. Scan was fine, measuring appropriately, too early to see baby so will have another look in 2 weeks. Feel massively relieved for today at least

Bruges, the appetite changes are real, I've read it can help to nibble small amounts throughout the days. I've got the opposite problem, not usualy very hungry but now can't seem to get enough! Feeling like a blimp and massively constipated

Decaf, hope there's no new bleeding and you're able to take it easy to day.

Hope everyone else is well this sunny Friday xxx

Hi everyone, I just had my second beta. My Hcg has gone from 61 to 920 which they are happy with. She has arranged a scan to hear heart beat on Monday 23rd April. Xxx

Congrats on your scan wombats xxx

Yay wombats and becky! All good stuff! I recognise the hungry blimp stage. I’m now at the constantly feeling sick but not actually being sick stage. I feel like the actually being sick stage is getting closer though

Yeah wombats and becky! So happy to hear that!
Afm, no more bleeds as yet.
And the sun is out today, so good vibes all around!

@TryingToStayRational yay sickness. Good sign, is anyone else craving pickles or spice xxx

Good news wombats and Becky sounds like it’s been a positive day. I’m with decaf suns out and I just drove home from work without my coat on 😀

Nice to come back after a couple of days and find so much good news, congratulations all, even if it’s just for being one day further on! Hope you are all doing well, or feeling nauseous, as you prefer.
I did not have a good couple of days back at work; by four hours in I was back to the pain levels of four weeks ago. However, I managed to tie up the loose ends that I needed to be in the office for so I will work from home for the next three weeks. Today I’m already feeling better so the work from home should be fine.

Thanks all and congrats on the beta becky, fab news. Rational, I felt a bit sick this morning when I was hungry, honestly looking forward to leaving the blimp stage, can barely button my trousers! Karen and Decaf, hope you had a chance to enjoy the sun, it's gone again here today. Dame, poor thing, glad you're feeling better today and can work from home.

Hooray for positive news, hope it keeps going for us all xxx

Does anyone else just feel like there life is on hold until that 12 week scan. I'm so happy to be pregnant but it doesn't feel real. I see my life at the moment like a series of steps, just getting through each and every day is a tick, ever blood test and scan is another tick. I worry about everything from sneezing to bending over. I worry about everything I put in my mouth and then I worry about my worry. It's exhausting! I just want to know that I'm gonna make it through this with s healthy baby. Sorry guys I just need to have an emotional unload with people that are gonna get it xxx

Totally know what you mean becky, I’m certainly feeling anxious and not really daring to think beyond the next milestone for fear of something going wrong. I’m trying really hard not to worry, because I know it never ends (my mum still worries about me and my sister - she says we are still her babies even though we are in our thirties!), but sometimes it does all get the better of me. I’m sure the hormones don’t help either.

This is all really new, so hopefully with time we will all start to feel a bit more relaxed about at least some of it. Try to give yourself a break and not worry about the worry, though - it’s very natural to feel anxious during pregnancy. Nobody goes through it all chilled out, no matter what you might see from the outside. I heard a podcast a while ago with a midwife talking about how women who have had fertility issues are more anxious too and that’s normal. Be kind to yourself.

Hope everyone else is ok today. I bought some accupressure wristbands yesterday in desperation to try to help with my sickness. I’m not sure if they are helping but I’m a bit scared to take them off! I managed to walk into town and meet a friend for lunch, which is the longest I’ve been out of the house all week, so that was good. Slept for 10 hours last night and am already on the sofa under a blanket again, so really am exhausted. V glad I can have another lie in tomorrow!

Becky, I was also worried about sneezing because I sneeze a lot and since I've been pregnant it hurts like crazy in the stomach for just a second. But I've had four scans since then and everything fine. Will you have a seven week scan?
Don't know if this helps anyone else or is too grisly but when I find myself worried about fairly normal things (e.g. wearing a belt) I try and remind myself that if you could end a healthy pregnancy that way, there would be no need for abortion clinics.

Good for you on getting out of the house, Rational, hope the bands keep helping!

Thanks guys just feeling a little delicate, I'm getting a cold to which doesn't help. Have 7 week scan on 23rd so that's the next step. I'm watching Saturday night takeaway in bed xxx

Becky, I'm exactly the same, feel like I might fall to bits any minute. First scan helped with reassurance but defo cross my legs when I sneeze Hopefully will be a bit calmer with every successful milestone, but so hard not to worry now.

Dame, not grisly at all. I've been reminding myself the same, women all over the world go to work on farms and factories and those babies are born just fine. I'm sure that no matter what I do, this wee bean will grow or not. But so bloody hard not to have any control over it, especially after all we've been through to get here.

Rational, fab that you were able to get out a bit and that the wristbands are helping. Hope you've still got a bit of reprieve today.

AFM, I'm nervous to admit I've let myself feel excited, and even had a look online at some baby bits and bobs. Hopefully haven't jinxed myself but felt so glad after scan that we're farther than we've ever been. DH is also happy in a way that he hasn't been in a while, so quite hoping this bean sticks and this is finally our turn xxx

@wombats I hope all of our beans stick 😀 xxx

Back from holiday now and catching up on all the news from the thread.

Becky great news on your blood test. And I agree is so hard to relax. I've decided after all the stress and anxiety of the treatment and 2ww my mind deserves a bit of a chill out and at this point there really is nothing we can do to change the outcome. This is the furthest we've ever got in 4 years so like wombats I've let myself get excited and daydream for few minutes at a time then distract myself with something else before I get carried away. Seems to be helping. My scan is on 23rd too!

Rational and Dame hope you're feeling a bit better. Karen and decaf hope you're having a nice weekend too. Hi to anyone else I've missed!

My wrists started hurting and I took my bands off to realise I have a really nasty bruise on each wrist, so I’ve taken them off now. Can’t say I feel any different. Have come to the conclusion I just need to carry on with as much normal stuff as possible in spite of the nausea, as it won’t kill me and keeping busy helps keep my mind off it. Am trying to remember how lucky I am to be pregnant and how lucky I am not to actually be vomiting all the time like some poor folk are. But it’s still really not fun. My Nan is quite unwell at the moment and I feel bad for not going to see her, but it’s just not possible at the mo. Hopefully it won’t last too long.

Also hoping scan tomorrow is ok, feeling quite stressed about it. Doesn’t help that I have a 2 hour meeting beforehand, then zip off for 12:30 scan during lunch break, then back to do a presentation to a senior manager at 2pm. If the news is bad I will just have to come clean and take the afternoon off sick I think. How people manage all of this with an existing child or a more demanding job is beyond me - I’m super lucky to have flexible working and only myself to think of mostly!

Hope everyone else has a great Sunday

@TryingToStayRational good luck for tomorrow hun! If the nausea is still there, then that's a good sign baby is ok. Supposedly sickness although not nice for you is good for baby, not sure if that's an old wives tale though lol xxx