Thread 32 | TTC#1 | Making the move from conception to infertility. We've taken some blows but we are not beaten

[Jamon]

Hi all. We're a group of first timers who've been plugging away on the conception boards for some time. The support here is amazing so if you're in a similar boat please jump onboard.

Time to hand hold through treatments and support each other through to becoming the mums we deserve to be 💪🏼🌸🙏🏼

Wonderful article Jam it exactly describes how I'm feeling ❤️

Hello :)
This is my first mumsnet post, so apologies in advance if I get the lingo/acronyms wrong!
I am 33, and due to start ICSI in 2 weeks. It is our first attempt.
My partner has children from a previous relationship who live with us half the time. We are going down the ICSI road as my partner had a vasectomy, and two reversals have failed.
We are trying to not get sucked into googling everything, but equally, don't really think we know what to expect... I also keep finding all the doom and gloom posts which aren't fun to read at all. I'm looking forward to lots of success stories on here... :)

Welcome Rose! There are a lot of 33 year olds around here. Do things seem to be okay on your side?

Hello KerryLeanne84 :) I'm guessing from the 84 in your name that you are also in the 33 club?!
Things are good with me. I think! We are just waiting until we start treatment later this month. It's hard to know what to do to prepare. I'm trying to drink less (!) And generally be healthier, but trying to not obsess about it... we will see how long the vague calmness lasts when we are in the midst of ICSI! :)
What about you? How are things for you? X

Welcome rose.. Lots of us starting treatment soon so it's nice to have the support. How long have you been trying for if you don't mind me asking? Know what you mean about getting sucked in. Not sure if anyone else on here is on fertility friends but I googled something last night and loads of results came up from there so had a look but it just looked insane to me, I quickly closed it down as just seemed way too intense and just scared me rather than giving any reassurance!
I see the press are hounding poor Ant McPartin and his wife again. Feel sorry for them. Hard enough to deal with, let alone being in the public eye. (yes unfortunately I'm an avid daily mail online reader.)

Really sucks jamon

Have not done castor oil in past 3 weeks - just too hard to sort at mum's.

I PMed MouseLove as we have not heard from her in a while - she has been having a tough old time of it, but says she will most likely return to the fold once back from her trip to Madrid.

flora I am on my way to flat now but see below for what I saw yesterday. 🤞🏼 I will be back in on Saturday!!!

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Also, would recommend his and hers guide to IVF book. They seemed like really normal people and was quite funny in parts and just normalised the whole thing (as opposed to the Izzy Judd one which I just didn't really like.) x

flora try being single and not preggers!!!!!

Welcome rose! What FC (Fertility Clinic) are you with?

Yay - I am all caught up for now!

Welcome Rose - I love the name Rose and wanted it for my child if it was a girl but DH hates it. :( Sorry your journey has been tough so far but we're glad you're here with us xx

Rose is a beautiful name skip 🌹

So had my letter arrive today from consultant to my GP following our appointment on 5 august and it's icsi we've been referred for rather than standard ivf. It wasn't mentioned at the time and so quite surprised to see that but guess icsi should in theory have a higher success rate?

I don't really know the pros and cons of icsi Winging but thought it was better if there was trouble with sperm?

welcome rose!

Glad a lovely baby smile can brighten your day skip. Having an 18 week old the other day was a total joy. We’re not completely bitter yay 😬😬

Massive hug Kerry , I completely sympathise as my best friend is pregnant too. The feelings are so complicated I can’t even begin. I really hope too it doesn’t ruin our friendship but it just feels like another level of pain. She’s the one I would usually turn to - and now the thought of her blooming makes me hurt all the more

Ugh not the relax bollocks no wonder you are distancing yourself flora

Welcome rose 🌹 I’m in the 33 club too 😊

Bathroom coming on well kwick 😙😙

Hmmm winging I would question that. Our clinic prefer to go for straight IVF if they can. They’re putting us forward for that even though we’ve had sperm issues before

Hello chlo22 :) thanks for the welcome:) we are in a bit of a funny boat as my boyfriend doesn't produce sperm so no chance of trying naturally. Sadly!
I really feel for ant mcpartlin. I've only told my sister and best friend what is happening. I can't bear people showing concern and being patronising! Particularly when they have children... so after two failed vasectomy reversals I'm now staying quiet to try and retain some sanity... x

Hugs back to you Jam 💙

Hello ladies, I'm on the ttc after mc board as well but would it be ok if I jumped on this one, too?

I'm also 33 (popular age, it would seem!), ttc #1 for over 2 years, 2 mcs (1 of which was just at the weekend ) and starting ivf next month. My god, it's only when you see it in print that it hits you . . .

I've been browsing the thread and can see that there are a few others who are starting this journey, too, so hoping to share experiences and of course offer as much support as it's possible to do from behind a computer screen!

I've read a few comments about seeing other pregnant women, too and I know that struggle all too well. If it's any consolation, I left my last job because the grinning moron woman sitting opposite announced her pregnancy and I couldn't deal with it.

Anyway, I'm usually a fairly positive type so hope I can contribute constructively, just feeling a little raw at the moment . . .

Oh, should've said that husband and I are 'unexplained'. His sperm count and mobility would make Rod Stewart blush and there's apparently nothing 'wrong' with me apart from high AMH levels.

Hi all
Just wanted to say hello.!

Have been AWOL lately work has dragged me down so I felt like too much on plate.

Am now dieting in slimming world as TTC and all the emotional crap that goes with it I have put quite a bit of weight on,

Haven't TTC at all this month because my head wasn't good. Had taken pressure off relationship too.
Have appointment with fertility clinic soon the first one which is rather scary.

Hi Kwik nice to meet you :) I'm with the QE in Gateshead. As my DP has children from his previous marriage, we don't qualify for any NHS treatment. It means we get to pick where and what we get, but means our credit cards are a few thousand heavier! How are things going for you? X

Welcome Frau and sorry to hear about your recent MC. That's really tough especially when you've been trying for so long. I'm always relieved when other women have "unexplained" infertility, it's one of the most frustrating medical terms ever because it keeps you guessing at every turn. I've learnt now not to start Googling every time something strange happens. Good to have you here!

Officially 1dpo today, did opks this cycle so I wouldn't have the uncertainty that I did last cycle. DH and I have only managed sex every other day since my period, I think we've just had enough of it to be honest. In my head I know that's enough but if I roll on to a new cycle I know in my heart I'm going to blame it on the lack of sex.

Unexplained here too skip - I think 35-40% of infertility is. Every other day is literally the recommended amount of sex!

Welcome frau, so sorry you find yourself here

Hi mudskip :) I don't think your DH should get the right of veto over names - use Rose :)

Hello back at you Hepkestrel :)

Hope everyone has a good Friday x