3rd or more time lucky - IVF cycle buddies October

[Hobbes39]

Hi Just wondering of there are folks on here who are about to go through their 3rd + time of IVF who want a cycle buddy? I dont mean it badly towards anyone who is starting their IVF journey for the first time, (i was there just this time last year after all) but I feel a bit like I cant be as optomistic about it as I was, so dont want to drag any first timers down? Hope that makes sense!
Anyway, just to explain about me:
TTC #2 for over 2.5 years now
Unexplained Secondary Infertility (have 4 year old DS)
Age 40.5
AMH: 15.4
2 failed fresh and 1 falied FET (with single frozen 3BB embryo we got from 2nd fresh round)
about to start 3rd fresh round when my period starts in approx 7-10 days, so will probably be late october EC.
anyone else a bit jaded, but still vaguely hopeful want to join me?
xx

wanda so sorry! It’s heartbreaking to have hope snatched back like that. A big big hug to you and your dp.

wanda i'm so sorry, it's just not fair. Big hugs and look after yourselves

gee our clinic doesnt have a problem with me flying, its a short haul flight and they said there's no reason why we shouldn't go and enjoy ourselves, there's no increased risk. Just got to make sure i stay hydrated, wear those sexy compression socks, move around frequently and wear comfortable clothing!

That's good to know. I'm considering booking a short haul trip in January after our FET so that makes me consider if I'd do it.

Same advice regarding flying for me gee. No problem as its short haul. I asked repeatedly as when I originally booked holiday, it was supposed to be distraction in case FET failed again.
How are you doing today coco? I’ve got a weird heavy/achy head. Drinking lots of water to try to shift it.

This is probably irrelevant if you are going short haul, but just to note that my clinic surprised me when at my first appointment they checked I hadn't been abroad in the last 6 months - I hadn't, but asked why it was relevant and they explained that they wouldn't treat me if I'd been in any of the Zika virus areas in the 6 months prior to starting and that these areas are more extensive than some people think.. . (Eg Singapore supposedly) just worth knowing in case! X

Same here decaf our holiday was booked a little later than we normally go with our FET in mind, thought it would be nice to get away either way!
Feeling ok, have thought i've felt a bit tired and nauseous on and off the past few days but not sure if i'm just over thinking it! Definately more bloated this week, most probably the joys of the pessaries but my belly is huge, and today my boobs have felt a tiny bit sensitive, i think they have anyway!!! I'm on the look out for any and every twinge so it could all just be in my head. On the whole i feel fine though.

Hope you managed to shift your nasty headache, definately drink as much as you can!

Thanks hobbes thats good to know, when we started looking at holidays we avoided any areas with any mention of the Zika virus as it just wasnt even worth it!!

It’s a nice idea to have a trip planned for after treatment - either way nice to get away from it all.

No hols for us, though DP has to take a work trip to a country with Zika in Nov, so we won’t be able to try another cycle till Feb. Feels ages away now.

Have to go for the blood test tomorrow, which seems pointless but I’ll go anyway.

Hobbes what point are you at in your cycle?

Oh eek @1Wanda1 - that's a pain about your DPs work trip. Have you discussed with your clinic? I only point out as my clinic is strict on no treatment within 6 months of travel to a zika country - wouldn't want you to be delayed even more!
Sorry you have to go through the blood test. It's another stab in the heart to go through that. for you and your DP. Xxx

Hi all - hope everyone is doing ok?
Wanda - hugs to you, hope you have some time to yourself this weekend and you and DP are doing ok.
I'm at the start of my down reg - due to hopefully start stims on the 19th oct (assuming scan shows everything shut down then), so a bit to go yet..
Feels like ages at the moment!
Lulah - do you know your timescales yet? Xx

I'm bleeding had a sleep when i got home from work as have felt a bit crappy and tired today, woke up and went to the loo and there was blood on my panty liner, a bit on my knickers and on tissue when i wiped. I've not got any cramps as such just a niggly feeling low down. Phoned clinic and just have to wait and see what happens over the next few days. I know bleeding can happen in early pregnancy but I'm so scared x

Oh Coco... arg! As you say - bleeding is common, so try not to panic, but how horribly frightening for you xxx maybe it's just settling on down into your lining a bit more, maybe it's irritation form the pessaries? I know that's common too. I will cross everything for you that it stops soon and you can get some reassurance from clinic? Would they do a 48 hour blood test? (To check doubling?) would help reassure possibly? Xxxx

Oh god I'm so sorry @Coco24 I hope it's just the embie nestling in more. Whatever we say I know you'll be concerned so just know we're thinking of you.

Thanks hobbes and geeup for thinking of me, i hope your right and its just settling in, my clinic mentioned irritation from the pessaries, ive never had that before though.
They dont seem to do blood tests at my clinic to check the levels, they dont do them to confirm a positive result or anything.

Will have to see what happens over next day or 2 then i will give them another call and see what they say. She said there was no point going to the hospital as its still too early to properly see whats going on.

I know there's nothing anyone can do, what happens happens but it is so shit having to just wait and see.
Meant to be going to see family sunday for my grandads bday meal, might have to fib and say i'm sick if i'm not feeling up to it.

Oh Coco - am thinking of you - that's frustrating your clinic won't do blood tests - seems silly when they can give useful info - but I realise that it can also be a point of obsession too I suppose. I know bleeding in early pregnancy is particularly common with IVF - don't know why, probably partly down to all the messing about that our bodies have been through. I desperately hope that is all that is happening to you ATM. If you need to cancel the family thing then do, you need to put yourself first right now, so don't worry about it. 🤞 xxx

Try not to panic coco - lots of people I know who went on to have healthy babies bled early on. Definitely just relax and try(!) not to stress to much - as hobbes said, put yourself first and don't do anything you don't feel up to. Will be thinking of you and crossing my fingers and toes.

Hope you're doing ok wanda. That's so frustrating about your DP's work trip - if your clinic won't budge on the timescales, maybe try and make the wait as positive as possible and do some nice things that you wouldn't be able to do if you were cycling. It won't get rid of the frustration but it might make it easier to bear.

Not sure on my timescales yet hobbes - af is due next weekend and I'm doing a natural FET so if af turns up when it should, I'd be looking at doing the transfer at the end of October. Fingers crossed the blood test results have arrived by then!

Hope all's ok with you decaf and gee.

coco how scary for you! But as hobbes says try not to panic. Hopefully its just irritation from the pessaries. Or has the clinic stepped down your progesterone dose from 2ww? That could cause the lining to readjust.
Will be thinking of you. Perhaps ask the clinic again for an earlier scan? Hope you get some reassurance soon! xxx

coco been thinking of you all night. How are you doing? Hope the bleeding has stopped. My phone was acting up a bit, so i didnt see your second post last night. Absolutely valid to skip the family function if you dont feel up for it. Take it easy. Big hug!
Hobbes i know it feels like ages yet, but its a start. You get to do something at last.
wanda hope you are doimg ok.
Hi to everyone else, lulah, gee.

Thanks everyone for your support.
The bleeding has gone to brown spotting now, a bit on liner and there when i wipe so still keeping fingers crossed that everything is ok.
The clinic kept my progesterone pessaries the same after positive result but upped my progynova tablets from 3 x daily to 4 x daily.
I have felt really rough today with a bad headache so just been pottering about at home and now having a lay down. Think i will skip the family thing tomorrow and just rest at home!
Then will ring the clinic monday and see what they say, ive only got the beginning of the week as go on holiday early thurs so will have to wait and see. Was looking forward to going away but feel a bit nervous now!

wanda hope you and your DP are doing ok.

hobbes although it seems like ages its great that you have started down regging, its a step closer!

decaf how are you doing?

lulah and gee hope your both well x

Hi all. Coco so sorry you’ve had such a terrible stressful time. I’m happy to hear today things are looking better for you and hope it all settles so that you can go away and enjoy a break on holiday.

Had blood test this morning. Unsurprisingly it was negative. At least the lady at the clinic was nice and sympathetic this time.

Am feeling so fed up about not being able to try again for another 4 months. geeup, I think the advice re waiting for 6 months after visiting a Zika country is for men, whereas for women it’s a 2 month wait after returning. As DP is a woman, hopefully this will mean only a 2 month wait after she gets back at end of Nov.

Hi Coco - good to hear it's eased off - fingers crossed is just a bit of irritation - take it as easy as you can for the weekend - you'll be exhausted with the stress - plus early pregnancy can be totally exhausting without the stress anyway, your body is v busy! X
Wanda - I don't want to worry you, but have you absolutely double checked wth your clinic - ours is the same as gee said - it's def 6 months for the woman - I don't know how it works depending on who is having egg collection in your situation, but if you haven't already, do check with them xx

I haven’t double checked with the clinic yet. Before the fresh cycle in March this year they said 3 months (DP had been on the same trip in the Oct). Really hoping they are not going to say 6 months. The public health guidance online says 2 months for women and 6 for men. I’ll call them on Monday.

Hello ladies, hope I can join. I've been lurking on your thread for a little while and offer congrats to those who have BFP's! Gives the rest of us hope.
Me:
nearly 41
IVF #1 epic fail, lots of follies, no eggs collected
ICSI #2 resulted in DD
IVF #3 1 Frostie arrested growth at day 3, transfer cancelled
ICSI #4 natural cycle 1 embie transfer day 3, BFN
ICSI #5 Natural cycle 2, transfer day 2 BFN
ICSI #6 mild stim, 1 egg, early blast transferred day 5, BETA test on Wednesday

I agree with the sentiments on here that we must be close! All this cycling with nothing to show is gruelling, heartbreaking, frustrating not to mention expensive (which i try not to think about).

coco I bled every month when pregnant with dd. It was bloody awful but is common and doesn't mean all is lost. It's so much harder when you have been through all of this and so desperately want it to stick. Try and distract yourself in any way you can. I hope you are alright.

I feel as if I am out. I lost faith in my clinic a while ago, I have had the last 3 cycles with Create as wanted to try the natural thing. Cost has broken the bank and ended up being double the advertised £7.5K as they charge extra for everything, blood tests, sedation fees, you name it, they add it to the bill as an extra. And they are just all over the place. Doctors appear to be trainees, the Wimbledon site is appalling with the clinic in an office block which has been converted.

Anyway, I think I am out. No sleep last night, felt hot and bothered and pains in my legs (both clockwork signs of AF approaching for me). I am trying to keep the misery at bay with thoughts of a trip abroad, had one eye on a cheapo Monarch package deal then woke up to find Monarch have gone into administration overnight 😫

I just really, really want a massive glass of wine

Hi all, hope you had good weekends. Welcome weedance - really sounds like you've been through the mill with your treatment - 🤞 this cycle is your lucky one! I know what you mean about the cost just creeping up and being so much more than advertised - on my fresh cycle I had 5 different invoices arrive in one day (to make it even better it was the day I got my BFN!)

How is everyone doing - are you OK coco? X

Hi weedance and welcome! 🤞 for Wednesday - these last few days are so hard - hang in there, hope that the stats are on your side xx
Coco - how you getting on?
AFM - spent this weekend being pretty grumpy for no apparent reason, started spotting and got the dreaded headache last night, so think it must be my hormones plummeting. Feel like I have eaten my body weight in chocolate and my poor DH has had his head bitten off... oops..!
Roll on the 19th when I start stimming hopefully and can be less grumpy!