FET Sept/Oct

[Lolly2803]

Hi ladies,
I am due to start an FET in Sept/Oct and wondered if anyone else was too?! Had my first cycle of IVF in August but due to fluid in my uterus and thin lining had to freeze everything. I seem to always have fluid mid cycle, including natural cycles. Very worried that it will always be a problem and will never get to use my embryos. Having a hysteroscopy the week after next to check incase anything in there but doc suspects not. Would be great to have a few buddies! xxx

This was DD at 8 + something - it's way better than our 7 weekers. Absolutely - i don't care how rough i feel either.

We're mostly organised for xmas i think. Just one work lunch and one evening with friends and that's it. How about you? Xx

Oh wow that's a real big difference!! Wow!!! I really hope everything is ok on Friday. The closer it gets the nerves start again!! Bet you're feeling the same!!

Well done! You're so organised by the sounds of it! I've still got quiet a few things left to buy and all the wrapping to do. I've got time this week to do it though so it'll be ok....

Just had a call asking me to come for my booking in appointment tomorrow 9am. And also have my 12w scan booked for 24th Jan although I'll be 13+3 then.
We've got our scan on Friday as well and the scanxiety is starting to kick in!

How you ladies doing? Feeling festive?! Got a relaxing day tomorrow doing all my wrapping and going to get my nails done. Have you all finished work? xxxx

Hi Lolly - that's exciting! Booking in appointment is a long one. What hospital are you going to be with? Cool that you've got a 12 week scan date too, I'm sure it will come around before you know it.

Feeling very festive! It was DD's nativity play yesterday which was very entertaining, and today is our work Christmas lunch. Then I'm off til 4th Jan! Got a day of wrapping, packing etc tomorrow while DD at nursery then off to my parents. Woohoo! xx

Aw Bear brilliant!! Bet the play was hilarious, I got some clips from my SIL at my nieces play and it was so funny!
How long will you be at your parents for? I have had this week off and go back on 3rd Jan. So nice to have a long break. Think we all need it!!

Not sure what to expect tomorrow but hoping for lots of information! Feel a bit apprehensive about going as feels like I'm getting carried away but it seems this is how it goes! The 12w scan will be long too by the sounds of it she said I'll need a double slot!! Hopefully if all goes well I'll feel less anxious after the 12w.

You going to tell your parents about your BFP?! Or do they already know? How you feeling? xxx

Oh and I'm going to be at Kingston Hospital.

We're going home for 4 days, then back for DD's joint NCT party (9 2-3 year olds) and New Year, then it's DD's birthday on the 3rd. She's going to be so overwhelmed. My parents know about the BFP, they've been helping with childcare all year while we had treatment.

The play was hilarious. They all went rogue and were just playing in the hay.

Yeah it will be an onslaught of information! I remember being grilled about if I planned to breastfeed and thinking it was a bit much at such an early stage. And your scan will be amazing I'm sure. I don't remember that one being too long but our 20 week one took forever as she was in an awkward position. You'll be seeing lots of those babies which is good - I think maybe monthly?

Don't know anything about Kingston but I'm sure it's less mental than the central London ones. xx

Wow what a busy few weeks you've got!! Oh yes I remember you saying about your parents helping now. So nice they're so supportive. They sound fab! Bet they're so happy for you.
The nativity sounds hilarious!!!! Haha!

I think they said i need a double apt as there's two in there! I guess it takes twice as long to measure everything!
Oh wow I hadn't even thought of that!! I've not been reading much/anything through fear of getting carried away. Will be eye opening I'm sure! Will be good to understand the care though as the dr told me to ignore the leaflet she gave me after the 12w scan so I'm a bit clueless!
Kingston is my nearest so went there by default really.
Have you called your Dr yet or you waiting till your scan on the 29th? not too long to wait and bet it'll soon be here with all you've got planned!!!

I'm sure it will take a while with double the measurements but it's fascinating to watch.

You've got loads of time to think about everything- midwives are just weird ;o) I thought they were all cute cuddly types who like babies but came across some right funny characters.

I'll go to the GP at some point in the new year, not really in a rush to get into the NHS system this time to be honest. If my 12 week scan doesn't come through til 14-15 weeks we'll just get it done privately. I'm almost trying to detach myself from it all this time as self preservation. xx

Yer I know what you mean. It's hard isn't it. Constantly trying to reign in or not get excited or carried away. Guess that's one of the side effects from fertility treatment. Understandable even more so after a loss. xxx

Yes I imagine midwifes to be lovely and caring and baby obsessed - are they not?! Oh dear I hope I get a nice one!!

They can be a really odd mixture of people! I was in hospital for 21 days having DD so I came across dozens of them. Never was I actually in labour though, so never got to test anyones' personality under those conditions

You might have a completely different experience to me. I found the quality of care to be pretty good, maybe they were just hardened London midwives, innit.

Hahaha! I'll let you know what the one tomorrow is like. The only one I've ever come across was a girl at school who always wanted to be a midwife. I see from Facebook she is one and she was lovely so I just think of her when I think of midwives!

Aw Blue yay a fellow kingstoner!! Glad they seem to be good. My DH can't make the booking in tomorrow but I don't mind. He's been to every single ivf scan/appointment and he'll be at everything else so I'm sure it'll be ok on my own.
I'm nervous about Fridays scan!! How are you doing?

Eeek...only one present bought! I don't feel so bad now haha. Do you have lots to buy? xxx

I don't know my husband or his family's medical history so he has to come. In theory I could take the notes from the last pregnancy but we want this one to be treated differently. They don't seem to be that bothered about fathers being there generally though.

I have a wobble every time my symptoms disappear so I'm glad I've got a scan tomorrow!

I'm now up to 3 presents, got another handful to go. We have a small immediate family even though the extended family are huge!

I'm the same! If the queasiness is slow to come I think "oh no - something has happened" but so far it's always come back.
Ah that's good you've got a scan tomorrow. How far are you again?

I think if DH can be with you it's nice. I don't know about his history either...I'll ask him if there's anything I should know!!

xx

We know very little about our sperm donor and it wasn't a problem at the booking in appointment but I guess they probably approached us differently from the off!

My symptoms are easing off and it freaks me out so much. The whole thing is designed to make you insane. xx

Wishing you all a very merry Xmas and good luck with scans

If you're going for a private scan I can recommend the birth company on Harley St, as they have a whizzy thing that sends you all the scan photos electronically and gives you little videos

I have videos on my phone from 8+5 of our baby who had little limb stumps and a little flashing heartbeat. One of them she flipped the doppler on and I've got a video with the sound of the heartbeat. I honestly couldn't stop listening to it. I don't listen to it now as it hurts too much, but they're lovely mementos

Hope you all have lovely celebrations and look forward to a very exciting upcoming year for your respective families

DH and I aren't doing Xmas at all, which is just as well as we'll now spend it shitting it about whether or not I have endometrial cancer

NHS appt at the colposcopy clinic on 29th Dec and seeing my fertility gynae on 30th. Nominally a scan to check for cysts to check I can start stims again, but obvs now we have rather more on the agenda. Can discuss what investigations we need to follow up with privately, as BUPA covers gynae and cancer - and if he recommends seeing a gynaecologist who specialises in gynaecological oncology then I want someone who can liaise directly with him. If I have to have another hysteroscopy and biopsies taken I would rather he did it as he knows my endometrial issues.

Here was I hoping for a menstrual bleed for Xmas. Now I'm hoping not to have cancer!!

Lolly I will be 7+3 tomorrow. We have risk indicators based on our ethnicities and family histories- especially gestational diabetes and some other things I can't remember- I'll let them go through it again. I think if this was a regular second pregnancy DH wouldn't bother coming but he is being very protective and wants to make sure we are looked after properly. I have my 12w scan on 24th Jan too!

Bear yes I'm sure they'll already have taken that into account. Your Christmas preparations sounds lovely and festive.

Banana please let us know how you get on next week, I'll be thinking of you. How quickly will they be able to confirm whether or not it is cancer? Hope you don't have to stay in limbo too long. And it goes without saying that I really hope it isn't as bad as you fear xx

I had my visit to EPU today. Based on everything I've been told in recent days, I am accepting that a decision won't be made about my stitch until 13wks. Hopefully they will decide to do a preventative stitch, but I'm stressing myself out so much about it that I'm no longer enjoying the pregnancy so I'm going to save my battles for the second trimester. I was so worried that my anxiety was harming the baby but my anxiety levels have stabilised since I decided to stop thinking about it now.

My cervix was measured for the first time today - 3.5cm. I know it's on the short side of average for this stage in my pregnancy, but not worryingly short yet. My ovaries are apparently still hyper stimulated which may cause pain if it doesn't settle naturally. I also have a little fibroid, that seems to have grown in the last year. It feeds off oestrogen so it needs to be monitored too. On the plus side, I got to see the little one again, measuring exactly on track at 7+3 💕

Lolly how did you get on at your booking in?

Banana - I really am so sorry that you're going through all this. I really hope you get the all clear and will be thinking of you.

Blue - this does all sound pretty stressful but good that you're getting checked out and you got to see the jelly bean again! Sounds like it's all progressing well. I guess you just have to have faith that they know what they are doing, and if at any point they start to seriously mess you around there is always private.

Lolly - massive good luck with your scan tomorrow. Will be thinking of you.

I've got my scan a week today, hopefully time should whizz by til then, not that I'm wishing our Christmas away as I've been looking forward to it through some of the very dark points of this year. I'm determined to enjoy every minute

xx

Argh Banana I can't believe you're having to go through all this. It's so bloody unfair!! I keep thinking about what you said about having recent biopsies and nothing sinister coming up. I'm hoping and praying it's just a blip and nothing to worry about or something that can be super easily fixed and you can get on with the stims. You really were making progress and I'm keeping everything crossed you get back on track. I know you're not doing Christmas but I hope you and DH have as nice a few days as you can together and that the New Year brings you nothing but good luck. It's certainly about time you had some. xxxx

Blue you need to just do what makes you feel comfortable. If anything at all is causing you worry then do whatever you need to put it right. Even private as Bear says. It's not worth getting anxious about. Be as pushy as you can!!

AFM had my booking in today and all was fine. We have no history of anything so was relatively straight forward. She said I'd be consultant led - think that's due to twins? She gave me a list of the scans I'd have but then said I'd have more than what was listed with twins and most likely have a scan every 2 weeks. I'll know more at my 12wk scan. Then when I have that I also have to have a consultant appointment at 14 weeks and then I think it all ramps up. Got a big booklet with everything in but will keep it till 12 wks to read through just incase.
Got our scan tomorrow and desperately hoping everything is as it should be. It's at 1.40pm - counting down!!! Hopefully then I'll be able to relax a bit over Christmas but realistically it will still worry me!

I'm not going through treatment at the moment (had ICSI last year) but I check the threads here to see how others are getting on every now and then.

I just wanted to say to banana that I've read many of your posts and I can genuinely say that there's no one on MN I want to see get their baby more than you. I hope you are ok and that you continue your treatment asap.

Good luck to everyone else trying.

Hi ladies, just had the scan and all is well with both twins. They had changed so much!! She said everything looks healthy and great. We could even see their fingers! Feeling a bit more relaxed and will see them again at 10.5 weeks for the harmony test and scan.

Hope you're all ok and ready for Christmas!! xx

Lolly I was just thinking about you! I'm so glad to hear that all was looking good at the scan. I'm debating whether to get a Harmony test myself. My clinic don't do them but their sister clinic does. I thought they couldn't do it for multiples though?