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FET Sept/Oct

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Lolly2803 · 02/09/2016 17:36

Hi ladies,
I am due to start an FET in Sept/Oct and wondered if anyone else was too?! Had my first cycle of IVF in August but due to fluid in my uterus and thin lining had to freeze everything. I seem to always have fluid mid cycle, including natural cycles. Very worried that it will always be a problem and will never get to use my embryos. Having a hysteroscopy the week after next to check incase anything in there but doc suspects not. Would be great to have a few buddies! xxx

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bananafish81 · 11/12/2016 17:29

Good luck tomorrow Lolly!

I had all sorts of pulling and twinging when I was pregnant - I remember one night the cramping actually woke me up in the night and took my breath away! I was thinking 'what is it doing down there, renovations?!'

I can confirm that 6 follicles simultaneously rupturing is really bloody painful. Ovaries are like beach balls and I look like a space hopper. Presumably because the follicles haven't been aspirated and instead the fluid has exploded into my abdomen instead. Feels like I've been kicked in the ovaries. These 6 bastards owe me a frigging period!!

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Lolly2803 · 11/12/2016 18:01

Thanks ladies! I'm so nervous. And I'm so sore from the progesterone shots. Although if it's for a good cause then I don't care!

Aw Banana that sounds so painful! Hope you're resting and being looked after.
I'm soooo hoping you get an almighty period for Christmas! Is that what you will be waiting for now? xxxx

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Blueroses99 · 11/12/2016 19:24

Banana ouch! Hope the pain is all worth it and leads to a flood over Christmas.

Lolly yes I have twinges all the time too. Good luck tomorrow xx

csa26 · 12/12/2016 09:41

Lolly ee good luck for today! What time is your scan?

Banana: that sounds HORRIBLE. Sad But so happy things are happening - hope you have a suitably gory Christmas Shock

DH is freaking out a bit at the prospect of fatherhood - he says he was praying for the IVF to work but had heard a lot about low success rates and wasn't really expecting it to. Doesn't help that getting him to talk about his feelings is like the proverbial blood from stone (and of course the idea of sounding off to complete strangers online is totally alien!) so I don't find out any of this is going through his head until we've had a big row over something completely unrelated and entirely inconsequential Hmm But we're lucky in that a couple of close friends have had first babies fairly recently, so there are a couple of dads I can try and persuade him to open up to (just a little, tiny crack...)

Really thinking of you for today Lolly!

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Lolly2803 · 12/12/2016 09:46

Hey csa! It's at midday. I'm feeling really really nervous. So worried that it's going to all come crashing down today. Also can't believe we've even got this far! Such a surreal feeling and I've no idea what to expect!

Your DH just sounds a bit like he's coming to terms with everything! Always difficult being the DP I think as it's not you going through everything. He's probably just adjusting to the prospect of it all. And will be harder if he's usually not a big talker. Give him time, I'm sure he'll be fine. xxxx

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Bear2014 · 12/12/2016 10:54

Banana - oof indeed! You are owed a big old period.

CSA - you should join up to NCT when the time comes, it's not just for mums but dads too. Our group are still all really close 3 years down the line and all the guys (and my girlfriend!) still all meet up all the time, and have a Whats App group. It is all very scary stuff parenthood, but when the time comes you just get on with it. xx

Bear2014 · 12/12/2016 11:42

Thinking of you Lolly!!!

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Lolly2803 · 12/12/2016 14:08

So.....it's TWINS!!!
I literally cannot believe it. We are in total utter shock!!!

We saw and heart two strong heartbeats at 139 and 142 bpm. 1 is measuring 6 weeks 3 days and the other 6 weeks 4 days. I'm 7 + 2 today but she said it's hard to measure them exactly at this size and they are curled up so it's difficult to get an accurate reading. She said everything looks exactly as it should and she was really happy.
We are having another scan on the 23rd at our request so we can check in before the Christmas break.

I'm literally in total utter shock!!!!

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bananafish81 · 12/12/2016 14:24

I knew it!! As soon as you said you were putting two blasts back I knew that as you were so young it was very very very likely that you'd end up with twins

Congratulations!!

csa26 · 12/12/2016 14:34

Flowers Star Flowers Cake

SO happy for you Lolly Grin

Bear2014 · 12/12/2016 14:57

Yayy!! Congratulations Lolly that is amazing news SmileSmile

I also knew it would be twins - everyone i know to put back 2 blasts has had twins, plus your symptom bonanza!!!

What thickness was your lining in the end? You give me hope, hooray!!

Try to relax and enjoy xxx

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Lolly2803 · 12/12/2016 15:17

See I totally wasn't expecting it! The Dr told us that only 25% of people that put two back get two and I thought that if anything it would be one! I can't believe it! But yes I do have a lot of symptoms!!
My lining was 7mm when I started progesterone. It was triple layered too. Who'd have thought?!! Not me!! There's hope for us thin liners!!!

I'm trying to be relaxed but think I'll feel better after seeing it again on the 23rd. Sorry them!! Was such a surreal experience as didn't know what to expect. When I heard the first heartbeat I thought it was mine!!

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Lolly2803 · 12/12/2016 15:18

Thanks so much ladies xxx

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Blueroses99 · 12/12/2016 15:36

Aww congratulations Lolly, that's really great news. You had really high grade embryos if I recall so not surprised that both are doing well xx

bananafish81 · 12/12/2016 16:08

If you're under 37 and put back 2 blasts you have a 50% chance of twins at my clinic

If you're under 30 then I would have thought the likelihood of both sticking was much much higher

Hence why I assumed you would hear two heartbeats :)

It's why at CARE if you're under 37, it's your first cycle and you have decent quality embryos that are suitable for freezing, you are only allowed to have a double blast transfer if you sign a medical waiver to say you're doing so against clinic advice and understand the risk of twins

I got pregnant with a 7.2mm lining in Jan - so I was totally expecting it to be twins today in your scan!

Bear2014 · 12/12/2016 16:33

Mine was 7.4mm the morning of my last scan, i did the trigger late that night so it might have got close to 8 but I wasn't expecting to get pregnant and i'm terrified about the scan so it's massively encouraging that you've got 2 of the blighters cooking in there Grin

So excited for you. Everyone I know who has had twins have been knackered but absolutely loved it xx

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Lolly2803 · 12/12/2016 16:48

Blue yes they were good quality one was 4AA and the other 4AB. They were beautiful looking blobs today too haha!

Banana I guess I just thought I wouldn't be that lucky! And also with my lining issues I wasn't expecting anything to stick let alone 2! Early days though and I know anything could happen. I just hope they stay in there and are snuggled in tight.
What are your next steps Banana? Are you waiting for your Christmas bleed or do you have any other check ins with the Dr before that?

Bear your lining sounds like it was absolutely fine. I think the scans are terrifying whatever happens. I was so nervous before I went in I could hardly even talk!!
I just hope they grow and develop as they should and maybe things go a bit more smoothly with the pregnancy than they have with the conception!! Feeling really thankful and grateful today. Bear when is your scan is it the 29th? xxx

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Bear2014 · 12/12/2016 17:07

Yep 29th. Thankfully there is lots of busy and fun stuff til then, so it shouldn't drag xx

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Lolly2803 · 12/12/2016 17:13

That's good, it'll soon be here!! Good to have lots of distractions to help as well. No doubt you'll be super busy with DD!!
I'm going away on Saturday for 4 days with DH. He booked us a little treat away for my birthday. We've got loads of festive things planned too so will be nice to have some time together away. Only 4 working days left for me this year!!! Wahoo!!

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Bear2014 · 12/12/2016 17:20

Aah lovely. Yep it's all about getting from one milestone to the next! Xx

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Lolly2803 · 12/12/2016 18:10

Def!! I asked if it was normal to have cramps and twinges and she said yes. There's lots going on in there and it's perfectly normal in early pregnancy regardless if it's one or two. Just letting you ladies know incase you were wondering too!

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bananafish81 · 12/12/2016 19:31

I'm just waiting for a period now - working up until Xmas, and then in between Xmas and new year, so grateful to be kept busy. Will take my mind off a shit Xmas when I don't get a bleed again!

Next appointment is 30th Dec to check for cysts etc before I start stims again

Will duck out and leave you ladies to your pregnancy chat, and pop back in a few weeks to see how you're doing x

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Lolly2803 · 12/12/2016 19:38

I'm keeping everything crossed for a significant bleed for you Banana!! Thanks for all your well wishes. Please do check back in as and when you are ready. We are here whenever you need us. xxxxx

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Lolly2803 · 14/12/2016 10:58

Morning! How's everyone doing today? xx

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Blueroses99 · 14/12/2016 12:31

I feel like I have a hangover! Obviously not but there is no other way to describe it. I've been throwing up since the early hours and feeling totally dehydrated. I can't keep any food or drink - other than small sips of full fat coke which was my failsafe remedy back in the day. I don't know whether the sickness is pregnancy nausea taking a wrong turn, food poisoning or a winter bug (DH had D&V earlier this week, but I don't think so as I don't have D).

I'm stressed out as I'm nervous about my scan today but also had very distressing calls with the hospital yesterday about my ongoing care - despite the recommendation for me to have an elective stitch at 12-14wks, they offered appointment at 16wks, then forward to 13wks as a favour. They suggested that I might not need a stitch, things might be different this time(!) and I'll be more closely monitored- given they haven't seen my medical records or referral letter, it felt very dismissive. I don't think I would have been comfortable trying to get pregnant again without a full belt and braces care plan that was set out for me several months ago. Stitches work. I can't lose another baby for a reason that is no longer unknown 😰

Sorry to drag down the board. I'm just so scared.