Woman tweets about miscarriage.

[NickNemo]

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Apologies if this topic is already being discussed.

I am a bit at this. Is this taking twitter addiction too far? IMO, its such an incredibly personal thing and to tweet about miscarriage is like rubbing it into the faces of women who cannot have a baby. Especially as she's saying she's happy about it too!

We will continue to disagree then. I lost my first baby, and the fact it was unplanned means nothing - the heartbreak was very much present and still is today. So personally? I think putting something like that in such a callous manner is heartless.

Are we allowed to say someone's a heartless bitch UTGSN then?

I agree with morningpaper- this is more sad than anything, and I don't understand it very well. But there are clearly ishoos...

Very sad and uncomfortable reading, her blog. Which makes me wonder all the more about her joy at having a miscarriage and her brusque manner at criticisms of her tweets.

I think the blog is really interesting.
She now realsies that the abortions did not NEED to happen and - it is facinating....she keeps on getting pregnant - why? would she have had an abortion again - proberly not I guess

That blog has no connection to the twitter post - the person who feels like that about abortion would not be a person who Tweets "thank goodness" at a misscarraige or compares it with lunch food posting. Are they actually the same person because something there does not add up? Especially when you consider how easily she tweeted about having this one aborted if she had not miscarried.

The two do not sit together, my cynical side says that the blog was for effect and sympathy and her true feelings were revelead in her tweet TBH (but then I am a horrible old cynic)

oh PT I'm sorry

well it's distinctly lacking in taste and class and really tmi for twitter, but I don't see that there's anything wrong with being relieved she was miscarrying. Especially if it meant she could avoid a termination.

I remember a previous huge row on MN when someone said that a mc didn't have to be a tragedy and for some women it isn't (I speak as someone who has had one btw).

So I'm with wannabe. Weird; yes most certainly, but heartless? No not really.

Tactless, heartless, distasteful... Whatever you want to call it- what about her partner? Remember him, the father of the baby?

Even if he didn't want the child himself, don't you think out of consideration for him and his family, let alone any children she might have in the future (I was actually under the impression that she had a child already) she could have abstained from sharing such information with the whole world?

Pyro, I am very sorry for your loss but your loss does not mean I am projecting. My post was genuine confusion, I am genuinely confused having read that blog, the two do not seem to fit together so I dont understand what has happened, sorry if you have read it differently than it was intended.

The cynical side of me does think that she has done a blog for effect - but then other people here seem to think she tweeted her miscarraige to get business for her company so I don't really feel to bad about my cynical thoughts in the face of those ones! As I said, yes I am a cynic, at least I am happy to admit it.

As for telling you how you feel, no, no intention of doing, why would I?

the blog is several months' old

It suggests there are deeper issues

Oh she says on her blog that she has AS which explains why she might not have realised it was inappropriate to tweet that information.

Well, now I am even more confused. All in all I suppose it can be said that things are Not Right.

Saintly, she runs her company, surely she must have some reasonable idea of normal social conduct? Mind you, I suppose the tweeting and the blogging do have consistant over-sharing (for want of a better term) in common, perhaps this trend has been going on for a long time just on a more acceptable level with the blogging and has just stepped up a stage with the tweets?

Oh FGS enough already with calling her a bitch.

She isn't saying she is glad anyone else has miscarried. She's just tweeting [shudder] about her feelings on her pregnancy.

I suppose AS may mean she doesn't realise how others might look on it but still, its her feelings about her pregnancy and its not for anyone else to say she 'should' be sadder or more discreet etc.

Oh I agree QueenofFlaming. I don't think there's anything wrong with her feelings at all. Given that her blog suggests her terminations were not a bundle of laughs I can quite understand why she would be relieved by a miscarriage.

I'm just saying her AS will have made it harder for her to understand how her comments may be viewed. HeSays - there's a MNetter who has AS, runs a company and has written quite a bit about the sort of support she needs.

I don't know, I know quite a few people adults with AS, being inappropriate at times is part of it I think.

As an aside... I think it's perfectly ok for a woman to blog about a miscarriage, or even an abortion. Not so sure about how I feel about her feelings about it all (as in she is happy) but she does have a right to blog whatever she likes. I think it is different if that blog is marketed in some way though.

Also - I think she's really more pissed off about the fact that it's so hard to get an abortion in the state she's living in. Maybe that's part of why she has been so public?

Just reading her blog. I think she was really pissed off about not being able to get an Abortion quickly

"But I'm posting this one, where I talk about trying to get an abortion in Wisconsin and end up with a miscarriage at work instead" and I can understand why.

I actually quite like her. Am surprised at the amount of vitriol towards her. Maybe it's because she's a woman with a career? Or because she wanted an abortion?

All she wrote was "I'm in a board meeting. Having a miscarriage. Thank goodness, because there's a fucked-up 3-week hoop-jump to have an abortion in Wisconsin."

to me the abortion issue is what was pissing her off the most.

it does seem perfectly consistent to me that she would be happier to have a miscarriage than an abortion, and the AS might explain the compulsive sharing of it.

Is she sharing it with everyone? Does it really matter? Maybe she uses Twitter like me? I have no real life freinds on there and I say what I like when I like (Admittedly not very often as i can't be arsed) and use it to get stuff off my chest - sometimes about TTC, Once about my Miscarriage. I know that no one I know is reading it and I don't care if people who don't know me have read it.

I have a blog and I write stuff on there which is very personal and which anyone who stumbles accross it can see.

Maybe I have aspergers then?

Her blog isn't anonymous though is it? So perhaps a bit tmi for clients. Especially in America, where lets face it they still bomb abortion clinics. I think without AS she would have had a better chance of predicting the reaction.

I know a cow like this who had 3 abortions before 20 and held her newborn son in her arms and matter of factly told me

'I didn't know I was pregnant till 18 weeks, too late to get rid of him then'

I cried so much for that child.

His dad has him now thankgod.

mine isn't anonymous either. I don't go telling people about it but anyone can stumble upon it.

FWIW my one and only miscarriage tweet was 'is still waiting to miscarry, shit happens Huh?'