Woman tweets about miscarriage.

[NickNemo]

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I am a bit at this. Is this taking twitter addiction too far? IMO, its such an incredibly personal thing and to tweet about miscarriage is like rubbing it into the faces of women who cannot have a baby. Especially as she's saying she's happy about it too!

sorry, that should have been 'two different pregnancies'.

It seems perfectly reasonable to me that having a MC could be a relief if you didn't want to continue the PG; as someone else said, a MC is more 'natural' than a termination.
And I do feel that, while it's very sad and distressing to miscarry a wanted PG or be unable to concieve, this is not the fault of other women, and the decisions other women make, and the feelings they have, about their own pregnancies do not actually effect your body or conception chances. So why should someone who does not want to continue a PG be obliged to pretend to suffer to spare the feelings of strangers who want to be PG?

I don't think there's anything odd in a miscarriage sometimes being a relief and sometimes being a sad occasion.

Had I miscarried my first pregnancy I would have been utterly traumatised. If I found myself pregnant now (11 years later) I would be distraught and a miscarriage would be a relief.

You don't need to be fucked up to feel like that, just have different things going on in your life.

I haven't read this thread but I have read the article in the Telegraph and the one in the Guardian. They have very different spins on the story, obviously.

I have had 3 miscarriages and was not happy, to say the least, about any of them.

But my reaction to this is to be pleased that AT LAST someone is talking about miscarriage and how common it is. I completely support this woman She has the right to say whatever she likes and her individual response to her miscarriage is just that - her response. To be honest, I'm sick of people telling women how they should feel, and I'm also very sad that miscarriage is such a taboo subject.

I think it is OK to talk about miscarriages and abortions regardless of how you feel about them (positive or negative), there is a wide range of emotions and none of them are more valid than any other.

Women should know that other women sometimes feel quite relieved about a miscarriage (there are times in my life when I would have a termination if finding myself pregnant) and that there is nothing wrong with that.

Her feeling happy about a miscarriage doesn't negate anyone else's feelings of sadness at the same situation.

I also have no issue with people using abortion as birth control if that is their choice. Quite a hard choice for your body but it isn't my body so I am not entitled to an opinion.

worth a read her response in the Guardian.

This just made me say yuk out loud, and im on my own What a vulgar woman.

obviously reading a few posts people feel different to me. I will say no more as i dont want to offend anyone.

dear god she should learn some composure and to be more circumspect.astounded she saw a mc as a fortunate turn of events.for the majority of women mc is a traumatic bereavement

It was a fortunate turn of events for her, she didn't have to have an abortion.

Really, as someone who is trying for a baby and has a miscarriage, I can still see why she would have been relieved when you take into consideration everything going on in her life.

I miscarried my second pregnancy and was devastated. I couldn't have believed I'd feel so much hurt until it happened.

I miscarried my sixth pregnancy and was very relieved. I was shocked to be pregnant and deeply ambivalent about either continuing or having an abortion. Miscarrying took that decision out of my hands and a weight off my shoulders.

That doesn't make me inconsistent. The two situations were not comparable. One pregnancy was very wanted and signified starting a family, the other came a decade later and after we felt our family was already finished.

I chose to have an abortion in my first pregnancy. I was 18 and pregnant to an abusive, much older boyfriend. I didn't enjoy the experience, but I've never regretted having that abortion. I don't grieve it and I'm not ashamed of it.

It's interesting to see the extent to which women are still supposed to feel and behave a certain way when their fertility is involved.

"For the majority of women mc is a traumatic bereavement."

You can't say that- it will depend entirely on circumstances as Lorem's post shows. I was mildly upset when I had my m/c (although mainly at the thought of having to have a GA- which I managed to get out of in the end) but it certainly wasn't a traumatic bereavement. I had other things going on in my life at the time that were far more distressing.

"It's interesting to see the extent to which women are still supposed to feel and behave a certain way when their fertility is involved."

Agree Lorem - it seems admitting to feeling anything other than distress at losing a pregnancy is still not permissible.

I've had two miscarriages and I actually applaud this woman for taking it in her stride like this. I also think it's a positive thing for people to be open about miscarriages happening.

Miscarriage is actually very common and a very normal part of life but is not talked about much so if you happen to have one it can come as a huge shock.

I say this as someone who was really badly affected by my first miscarriage so I don't underestimate how traumatic it can be. I just think it may be helpful if people were more open about it so it didn't seem like something unusual.

I would have really appreciated being able to explain my week long absence around my miscariage to my work collegues as 'I was having a miscarriage' rather than 'I wasn't feeling very well' but I know if I had then it wouldn't have been well received. People would have been embarrassed and shocked if I had been honest.

Just to play devil's advocate. The people who read that tweet originally are people who for whatever reason had signed up to read her tweets, so must have had some idea what she was like. I don't think it was aimed at those who want kids and who are upset by it.

I do think it is TMI, but then I get irritated at people on facebook changing their status so I know what they had for lunch.