Woman tweets about miscarriage.

[NickNemo]

Link here

Apologies if this topic is already being discussed.

I am a bit at this. Is this taking twitter addiction too far? IMO, its such an incredibly personal thing and to tweet about miscarriage is like rubbing it into the faces of women who cannot have a baby. Especially as she's saying she's happy about it too!

[BitOfFun]

Like I say, I think part of her must subconsciously like the drama. It's easy enough to get an injection or coil etc these days. Surprised the docs haven't strongly encouraged it tbh. Of course, she could be making it up. People like here are real-life trolls....

[HeSaysSheSays]

Edam, I don't think it is only ok if they feel bad about it at all, if it is me you are meaning. I was refering to seeing abortion as a form of contraception more than a way out of an un-livable situation that arrived through no-ones fault. Feeling bad about it is one possible outcome but I don't think people should necessarily.

[edam]

Oh, OK, wasn't having a go, just read that way to me (and is something that has cropped up on threads before).

[wannaBe]

who is this woman that she has 20000 followers on twitter (in fact I bet she has a lot more than that now )

Imo there are two separate issues really - the first being that seemingly using abortion as contraception is bloody selfish and the woman ought to be sterilized if she doesn't want children.

But the issue of posting on twitter, while what she posted is weird and bizarre and clearly attention-seeking, is it really any different to posting details about one's life on mumsnet? Thousands of people do exactly that every day and some of those posts are equally bizarre, yet no-one seems to question that.

[HeSaysSheSays]

No problem edam, if it read that way I am glad to get the opportunity to clarify as it is not what I meant at all!

[HeSaysSheSays]

Wannabe, she was not posting for support, experience, help, understanding or any of the things that people post here for. She was just letting everyone know what happened and how she felt. She said it was no different to posting about what she had for lunch FGS, I doubt you will find many posters on the MC threads here feel that way.

[wannaBe]

but she doesn't view a mc in the same way as those who mc wanted pregnancies do. And she didn't post it on a mc thread, she put it out there in the public domain which is bizarre I grant that. I'm not saying that the post itself wasn't horrible, she is clearly an unfeeling bitch.

But the act of posting something which to her is just a part of her life on twitter is no different to the act of someone posting something which is a part of their every day life on mn.

Rather than slating people who post this stuff on twitter, perhaps the questino ought to be broader, in terms of why people feel the need to put their private lives in public places, be that twitter, facebook, or a forum like mn. It's no different.

[HeSaysSheSays]

I think it is different, myself... Twitter/facebook are not the same as a forum. I do understand what you are saying, I just think it is different.

These social networking sites, to me, are used the way you would speak to an acquantance on a bus "hi how are you" "fine now baby is sleeping through" or whatever whereas a forum is more of a meet up with like minded individuals such as a toddler group - just without the need to go out in the cold and drink bad coffee when you get there

I think the same applies to any forum really, even ones discussing football or classic cars (or whatever) they are a place to share a common interest, with us it is our lives that are the common interest with dc being the major, but not only, focus whereas networking sites tend to be much more superficial and throw away.

Having said that, of course, I really dislike all this "had rubarb for tea" "going to the shops" stuff, it seems quite self- obsessedindulgent to me (but I am a dinosaur).

[Fabster]

Watch out for her new book and tv show coming soon.

Vile thing to do.

[Marioandluigi]

Heartless cold bitch.

I hope she doesnt come to a stage in her life where she wishes she had been fortunate enough to have a baby.

[HeSaysSheSays]

lol pyro, as I said earlier in the thread I know a fair bit about unplanned pgs.

And yes, I am pro-choice with conditions. You may not like it but that is the way it is. I believe the choice should be there for women who need it, I would fight hard to keep it there for women who need it - but that does not take away my right to recognise when women (and/or men) abuse it. IMHO this woman is abusing it. That may be a judgement on my part but there we are, she published herself thereby opening herself up to be judged - and I judged, so sue me!

[StealthPolarBear]

yes, exactly edam, as i said i know there are people who choose to have an abortion and thankfully don't feel guilty afterwards - obv you don't hear a lot about those. have no problem with that. I do have a problem with treating abortion so lightly you repeatedly have unprotected sex knowing you'd abort without a thought to prevention instead. if thats what has happened.

[StealthPolarBear]

"obviously" you don't hear much about those, as with anything it's the problems you hear about usually. no-one starts a thread saying "I had an abortion, it was the right decision and I just feel relieved it's all over", i mean

[AitchTwoToTangOh]

great publicity for her firm. well, kinda. i think it's perfectly sensible to tweet about a miscarriage if what you're after is worldwide coverage.

[ErikaMaye]

I think comparing the loss of a pregnancy to posting about what she was having for lunch is pretty heartless, Toadstool.

[Rhubarb]

She's had 2 abortions, clearly wanted to abort this one too. I don't know about the circumstances surrounding the other miscarriage but given her track record, no doubt she didn't want that pregnancy either.

I'm sorry but I do think that the lady should be thinking seriously about contraception. She's been pregnant four times now, each time it's been unwanted. Does that not make her think that she should be more cautious? Or is abortion now being used as a contraception?

[HeSaysSheSays]

IYO no it does not, IMO that, coupled with her published attitude indicates that she may well be abusing it.

WRT unplanned pgs, you said "Personally, no, I can't imagine having four unwanted pregnancies, but as I have not, what the fuck do I know - and most of you?" I simply responded that I did know something about it, I didn't say I knew anything about her pgs - but that was not the question you asked was it!

[HeSaysSheSays]

Sorry, my last post was to pyro - also to add, having unplanned pgs does not "give me the right to judge" I never said, or implied, that it did.

[morningpaper]

Blimey, there's a lot of name-calling on MN today

OBVIOUSLY it's a bad idea, I would guess she's after publicity for her business.

Personal abuse is rather immature though

[morningpaper]

Have read the blog, how sad

Poor woman

[Rhubarb]

It's a very distasteful way to advertise your business though isn't it?

I can't imagine sitting through a board meeting, knowing that I'm miscarrying and deciding to tweet about it. It's not exactly the kind of publicity I should have thought that her business either wants or needs.

And comparing the tweet to tweeting about what she had for lunch is also tasteless. If that had been me, I would be mortified and apologise at once for any offence, but she seems quite brazen about it all.

I don't know this woman from Adam, but regardless of whether she has ASD, she is obviously a capable businesswoman and has promoted herself in this tactless and heartless way.