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the teenager who sold her virginity to the highest bidder to fund her further education

439 replies

pottycock · 12/05/2009 21:36

I can't decide whether this is very sad or quite enterprising. A bit of both I think.

What did amaze me is that a medical professional endorsed her virginity at a press conference!

story here - warning, it's in the DM!

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MaryMotherOfCheeses · 12/05/2009 21:55

It's very sad.

It's enterprising in the way that prostitution is. Having sold herself, she had no control over who the man was. Thankfully she was happy with it, but it could so easily have gone the other way.

Sounds very naive and foolish to me.

And willing to have unprotected sex with a stranger.

Disenchanted3 · 12/05/2009 21:59

Tramp.

tattifer · 12/05/2009 22:14

She's eighteen, as long she's ok with her reasons then good for her. Most girls sell it for a cinema ticket or a macdonalds!

PortoPandemico · 12/05/2009 22:18

Is that what you REALLY think tattifer? I must admit when I lost mine, it was maybe out of curiousity or to just DO IT rather than thoughts of monetry gain! Sadly it wasn't for love.

Disenchanted3 · 12/05/2009 22:22

'Good for her'

Hope you don't have daughters

MANATEEequineOHARA · 12/05/2009 22:25

She is not a tramp for doing that! She is using her body for her own gain, what the hell is wrong with that!?

Perhaps it is wromg that students have top up fees to pay, and end up taking extreme measures

tattifer · 12/05/2009 22:26

I don't think the average girl goes out with the intention of charging the price of a cinema ticket, no. But the reality for some is the slight feeling of obligation after the average teenage date (cinema, macdonalds, bottles of wkd in the nearest park...) I do think it's not quite the hole grail that some people believe - it depends on the sexual confidence of the person concerned.

tattifer · 12/05/2009 22:28

disenchanted I do have daughters, and I'm bringing them up to realise their value is not rooted in they're virginity i.e. their perceived value to "that special someone"

muffle · 12/05/2009 22:29

Oh dear, and yuk at the no-condom clause and the testifying to her virginity as well. Just leaves me with a horrible, horrible feeling of dismay.

It is bizarre the way it's presented as "well, he turned out to be a sweet chap, and it all went well, so no harm done"

She could have ended up with an abuser or murderer and then would anyone have called her enterprising?

FluffyBunnyGoneBad · 12/05/2009 22:29

That's very sad. She'll regret this big time in years/months to come.

Disenchanted3 · 12/05/2009 22:30

It IS prostitution

Its giving up your virginity, to a stranger, some unknown an odd ball bidding online.

She has no idea who would win ... an elderly man, someone she found repulsive .... and she was prepared to sleep with them unprotected??
She knew nothing of this man, he could have been anyone. Had anything (false medical cert?)

T-R-A-M-P

tattifer · 12/05/2009 22:30

No muffle, we'd all be feeling sorry for her instead of criticising.

Pardon freudian slip in previous posting - holy grail it should have been!

PortoPandemico · 12/05/2009 22:31

tattifer that is a good point probably. Do you think that girls feel obliged then if money is spent? I never did - tough on the blokes if that is what they thought! But as the mother of a dd, I want to give her the message that she has sex when SHE wants to. And only then.

Disenchanted3 · 12/05/2009 22:32

''and I'm bringing them up to realise their value is not rooted in they're virginity ''

no but its ok for their values to be rooted in MONEY? That its ok to sell their bodies if its a good enough price??

Well good luck to you ... and them.

tattifer · 12/05/2009 22:33

disenchanted you bandy the word prositution around like its a bad thing. The only thing bad about prostitution is that it's illegal (generally) and therefore unmonitored, unregulated and most sex workers are too easily exploited.
This girl was non of those things. Her hymen was hers to dispose of as she saw fit. Get over it. Buy a rabbit!

Disenchanted3 · 12/05/2009 22:34

but their 'percieved value' doesn't lie in their virginity ...

but the value lies in whatever is the highest bid for it?

Unbelievable.

tattifer · 12/05/2009 22:35

Lay off my kids dis. They realise their value is in who they are, what they contribute to their immediate community and to society overall. Mention them one more time and I will report your postings. we are talking about the informed choice of an adult here, not my children.

dittany · 12/05/2009 22:35

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Disenchanted3 · 12/05/2009 22:38

I beg your pardon?

I'm not 'laying into your kids'

I'm questioning what you have typed yourself.

Report away dear.

muffle · 12/05/2009 22:39

In fact if this had been a news story about a young woman advertising her virginity for sale on the net and she'd ended up missing or dead, I can just imagine the DM's tut-tutting and implication that she brought it on herself.

Yes girls give their virginity away under duress or pressure and many regret it. That doesn't make it somehow fine that she got a wad of cash. Not only is her body parcelled up as an object valued only in cash, but the publicity of this and acceptance by people reading it encourage girls everywhere to think of themselves as meat to be sold for money - or a cinema ticket - or a wedding - or some new shoes.

What's wrong with that? Well what happens when you're not a virgin, when you're old, what if there's more to you than your body? What if your looks don't match men's porno ideal? What if you refuse to see your body as something that defines your value? Well, you're worth less of course, in the eyes of a society that can approve of something like this.

MANATEEequineOHARA · 12/05/2009 22:39

Heh, I noticed the hole grail and was a tad was that intentional!!!

I am so oh for goodness sake at all the closed minded people who think that prostitution is wrong. Some vile pimp controlling a women'sbody is wrong, choosing to do it is NOT. And she won't regret it IMO, she will feel smug when everyone else is poor from paying back student loans I should think!!!

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 12/05/2009 22:40

Dittany, it's just weird isn't it.

I mean, would you trust a man who does that? Who does he think he is? Slimeball.

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 12/05/2009 22:45

So prostitution is ok, but a man controlling a woman isn't?

Leaving aside trafficing, pimping, drugs etc etc, at the point of selling your body for sex, how do you remain in control? Essentially isn't it about giving up control, utterly, to a man who is controlling your very physicality?

He has the money, he is in charge of what happens. If he takes it away, the act doesn't happen. You are his puppet, much as you might feel "empowered". He is in charge.

tattifer · 12/05/2009 22:46

Dittany, you have a point about the bloke who paid. But then transactions are conducted over sex all the time, few are so open and honest as "who's got the most money".

Dis, your previous posting "but the value lies in whatever is the highest bid for it?" I thought you were referring to my children - that was why I thought it unreasonable.

No woman's lies in an outdated sexual transaction where virginity is valued above all. It's a choice, that adult made it. She may well think better of it, but she'll have had a good education and have the wage to afford the therapy if required. She's not damned eternally for it!

Vittoria · 12/05/2009 22:46

So are all prostitutes tramps then?

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