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Nicola Bulley 10

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lemmein · 15/02/2023 19:14

Fuck it, I'm opening another one. If the mods delete it fair enough.

I don't believe the menopause or even alcoholism explains a woman vanishing into thin air with no evidence left behind.

This whole case stinks!

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gobbleguts · 15/02/2023 19:16

I have followed and read every thread here on Nicola Bulley.

I feel so sorry for her family and dearly hope there is a breakthrough and they find her soon 

I'm really shocked at why the police have released that personal information today, it's just either going be a reason the case dies down and scaled back or it will further fuel speculation.

I really hope and pray she has just taken herself off somewhere and comes back home soon to her family 

confounded234 · 15/02/2023 19:17

Either they had very good operational reasons or else it’s to cover their arse and deflect. Only time will tell I’m afraid

TiddyTidTwo · 15/02/2023 19:18

I agree

It's misogynistic "crazy lady" thinking

Two things can happen to one person, despite then suffering with menopausal issues

MissAmbrosia · 15/02/2023 19:18

I haven't posted before on these, but I was gobsmacked by that update. I can relate to menopause and drinking too much, but she was up and about and going about her normal daily life

SueG60 · 15/02/2023 19:19

It does just seem to get more inexplicable. So this morning they mention vulnerability, and predictably they’ve now had to specify what that means.

So what if she has an alcohol problem, what are they even saying. She was driving and it was 9am, she’d just dropped her kids off at school. It’s not like she’d have been blind drunk at the time and fallen in is it.

If she left to go on a bender then where did she go? There’s still no answers and if anything the more they say the more weird it gets.

CrackersCheeseAndWinePlease · 15/02/2023 19:19

I'm so invested in this case. I hope she turns up safe and well but that's looking less likely now unfortunately.
Alcohol issues don't explain someone disappearing into thin air

CloudySuns · 15/02/2023 19:19

It's given me a tiny, tiny hope that she's taken herself somewhere and is at least safe.

I realise this may not be likely at all. Poor Nicola, whatever has happened. I can see why they think she has entered the water, though I still would be considering a third party - no stone uncovered.

Intelligenthair · 15/02/2023 19:19

Everything about this case has felt off from the start. This latest information from the police does nothing to make me feel more confident in them. I feel so sad for her that her reputation has been publicly undermined like that.

lemmein · 15/02/2023 19:19

TiddyTidTwo · 15/02/2023 19:18

I agree

It's misogynistic "crazy lady" thinking

Two things can happen to one person, despite then suffering with menopausal issues

So much this.

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Movinghouseatlast · 15/02/2023 19:20

They had to in order to stop all the speculation. They seem to be damned if they do and damned if they don't. They are criticised for not doing enough and for doing too much compared to other missing people.

It absolutely explains why the search started so early and why they assumed she was in the water.

Poor, poor woman whatever has happened. The struggles with menopause are still not taken seriously enough.

MarshaBradyo · 15/02/2023 19:20

Mentioning menopause seems strange.

confounded234 · 15/02/2023 19:21

Movinghouseatlast · 15/02/2023 19:20

They had to in order to stop all the speculation. They seem to be damned if they do and damned if they don't. They are criticised for not doing enough and for doing too much compared to other missing people.

It absolutely explains why the search started so early and why they assumed she was in the water.

Poor, poor woman whatever has happened. The struggles with menopause are still not taken seriously enough.

But they didn’t need to stop the speculation. It doesn’t affect them . This smacks of the police going on the offensive

Lavenderzen · 15/02/2023 19:21

Poor Nicola. I feel so sorry about this case.

I just wish it had been handled differently from the beginning.

confounded234 · 15/02/2023 19:22

Backlash has already started, Stella Creasy calls this deeply troubling

Popplcroft · 15/02/2023 19:22

So what if she has an alcohol problem, what are they even saying. She was driving and it was 9am, she’d just dropped her kids off at school. It’s not like she’d have been blind drunk at the time and fallen in is it

I think that is what they’re suggesting. Occam’s razor and all that. As a friend of an alcoholic (who sadly died aged 45) it’s not an unreasonable assumption. She may well have been heavily drinking.

plumduck · 15/02/2023 19:22

I think they told us because as soon as they said vulnerable people were running away with it and speculating further.

We had no right to know and I feel uncomfortable that it has been shared. Her poor children.

All because some people just wouldn't let it drop that the police might know something the public didn't.

Etinoxaurus · 15/02/2023 19:22

Apologies for derailing slightly from Nicola but the police seem completely out of control and off message. Within hours of her disappearing announcing no one else was involved. Stating for certain that Brianna’s murder wasn’t a hate crime and now that it might be and now releasing this information about Nicola.

stayathomegardener · 15/02/2023 19:22

Thanks for posting this @lemmein
I really hope Nicola doesn't get forgotten.

plumduck · 15/02/2023 19:23

confounded234 · 15/02/2023 19:21

But they didn’t need to stop the speculation. It doesn’t affect them . This smacks of the police going on the offensive

It affects the family and friends

User45378754 · 15/02/2023 19:23

Maybe PA and the family insisted that she was not described as high risk and vulnerable publicly by the police at the beginning and they respected this?

confounded234 · 15/02/2023 19:23

plumduck · 15/02/2023 19:22

I think they told us because as soon as they said vulnerable people were running away with it and speculating further.

We had no right to know and I feel uncomfortable that it has been shared. Her poor children.

All because some people just wouldn't let it drop that the police might know something the public didn't.

They didn’t need to mention the vulnerable bit at all. All this smacks of a police doing a piss poor job and being completely focussed on their reputation management

Veryniceindeed · 15/02/2023 19:23

Presumably friends and family knew?

Why was there no hint of any difficulties in the partner’s interview with Dan Walker?

Goldpaw · 15/02/2023 19:23

From @NotTooParticular

Lancs police always put missing persons posts out with "x is a high risk, vulnerable missing person".

They didn't do this for some unknown reason. Instead they searched one shallow stretch of river for weeks repeatedly and claimed that she "fell" into the river.

They've single-handedly caused this speculation and uncertainty for the public and I hope someone has a good reason as to why. Absolutely ridiculous

From @01R019

This was in reply to someone on the last thread... but if the police were competent they wouldn't feel the need to justify themselves and release inappropriate information to try and change the narrative of the public view. In other words, get the heat off them, and onto Nicola.

I think what the police have done is an absolute disgrace.

It's been them and their "We think she went into the river" assertions from the start that led to speculation because it put across to the general public that they weren't fully looking at alternatives.

If they'd started off with just saying there are various scenarios and we're looking at them all, without being specific as to their preferred one I think it could have been potentially different.

On top of that, although they looked at CCTV and dashcams etc. they ruled out foul play so there were no forensics on or around the bench (a search, but not a forensic search).

That the family and the police have been at odds has been very obvious, and now we know why. The family don't necessarily believe she's in the river, the police do think that's what happened.

It now makes sense why Paul her partner was keen to get Peter F involved and why he did the documentary. They've not accepted the police line.

And now, because of their failings, the police decided to mention vulnerabilities at a presser, what on earth made them think it wouldn't fuel more pressure and speculation? What a stupid thing to do.

And now poor Nicola's life has been laid bare because the police have been trying to cover their backs from their own mistakes they made throughout.

Just because someone has had a recent dealing with police, and has alcohol problems, doesn't automatically mean they are in a river when they disappear.

Absolutely disgraceful.

plumduck · 15/02/2023 19:23

MarshaBradyo · 15/02/2023 19:20

Mentioning menopause seems strange.

Why

Newtonsnipple · 15/02/2023 19:24

It seems sdo disrespectful to slander her reputation like that to the public. Even if true, they have NO evidence that this was an act of suicide and now that this information is out there it only only a metter of time until it feeds back to her poor young daughters.

Never seen anything like it, seems like the police covering their arse.

Disgraceful.

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