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Alfie Evans 6

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CamomileTeaShotofVodka · 26/04/2018 01:49

Following on from the last thread. If there's one already please do delete this one.

Remember not to speculate or make negative comments about the family or discussions will be stopped.

Thoughts are with Alfie tonight Star

Such an important and sensitive topic.

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Daftquestion1 · 26/04/2018 20:06

That's a pretty nasty comment Boredofthis86. He's enduring the most stressful situation imaginable. I don't agree with his actions but I can see where he's coming from. Snide is not a word I would use and I really can't see how you can say such a thing given the circumstances. Shame on you.

Teggun · 26/04/2018 20:11

The man has done what most of us on the thread have been hoping he would do.
Right now that should be enough.

It must have been an incredibly difficult statement to make for so many reasons. The stark reality of the words he spoke are heart breaking.

user1457017537 · 26/04/2018 20:14

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redshoeblueshoe · 26/04/2018 20:14

User1471 you have certainly added to these threads. I know I am not alone, when I say your contributions have been invaluable.
Thank you for posting

user1471450935 · 26/04/2018 20:15

I agree that Boredofthis86 comment was mean, but can I say youth is no excuse please, I was 21 when Phil was injured and we made that awful decision. I spent hours over nearly 11 days on ICU, and made great friendships with his 1 to 1 nurses and doctors and fellow patient's next of kin.
The nurses care for their patients like one of their own, and once we agree to donate his organs, he was treat like royalty.
Grief not youth is to blame I met a lovely 18 year mum, who had donated her DD organs, when we used to do transplant awareness days, she was the exact opposite of TE, and I find using his age as an excuse, slightly offensive to her and me actually

Bluelady · 26/04/2018 20:16

At last. I was beginning to give up hope this would happen. Good call. Some peace for all three of them.

backaftera2yearbreak · 26/04/2018 20:17

Peace to TE and his family at what is the most horrific time in their lives.

Your fight is over. Hold your son and savour every moment you have left with him.

MorningsEleven · 26/04/2018 20:17

@meddie that article is both desperately sad and terrifying.

user1457017537 · 26/04/2018 20:17

User1471 I wish you Peace and Love

ScottMumofGirls · 26/04/2018 20:17

I can’t imagine the hell TE and KJ are in right now. Whatever has gone before, they will find comfort in knowing they left no stone unturned. ( rightly or wrongly)

There is no right or set way to grieve. I hope the Army respect this. I hope they all find some comfort and peace. Including the staff who will formed bonds to AE over his long stay.

Daftquestion1 · 26/04/2018 20:18

I agree it's not an age issue. He's presumably wired that way , along with being carried away on the wave of AA. Its a lethal mix really. Until your in that situation you simply don't know how you would react.

TheHodgeoftheHedge · 26/04/2018 20:22

I really hope the AA truly hear this message and disperse.

Antiopa12 · 26/04/2018 20:25

User 1471 Thank you for sharing your experience. I have learnt a lot from your posts and I agree we need to talk more about death and the impact of grief.

SunnySkiesSleepsintheMorning · 26/04/2018 20:27

Whatever TE does will be judged by some nasty people on here.

Elliss2018 · 26/04/2018 20:31

So relieved that TE has made that statement, I really hope that Alfie gets the peaceful and dignified time he deserves ♥️

MrsOH2004 · 26/04/2018 20:31

That video of him reading the statement, he looks like a man who has finally realized his fighting is futile, I haven't liked the way he's gone about things but tonight I feel for him, and hope he spends as much time with Alfie as he can, such a sad situation.

TopBitchoftheWitches · 26/04/2018 20:32

TE has updated his request, still people are moaning about not getting updates. There is a little boy who is the only important person involved in this.

wannabestressfree · 26/04/2018 20:36

It wasn't meant as an offensive comment and this situation is vastly different to yours twenty years ago. His raw emotion is being played out for all to see, no parents holding him up or speaking for him, every mistake Magnified across the media and every social network site. Quoted, misquoted, courting the press, being manipulated by them.

I am not saying his youth is an excuse. I am saying though it's a factor.... the folly of youth. The way we perceive things change as we get older. I am not going to poke more holes in him and hang him out to dry. I think he is going a fine job by himself..... he will always be Alfie Evans Dad and at this point in time by heart goes out to him.

MorningsEleven · 26/04/2018 20:37

Good for him for finding the courage to face this instead of fighting it. I hope he finds peace.

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TillyMint81 · 26/04/2018 20:41

Someone on my fb just wrote 'keep praying everyone, he's not out of the woods yet' Envy

gingergenius · 26/04/2018 20:42

I'm glad he's asked the 'army' to disband. I hope they get some rest and to spend precious time with their little lad.

littlegecko · 26/04/2018 20:42

I have been following these threads, and have to agree that user1471 has been amazing in sharing her story, and also offering insight.

I have found the Alfie story gut-wrenchingly sad. I feel desperately sorry for TE and KJ who have had their lives thrust in the spotlight in their darkest hours. All we have seen from them has been driven by pure grief and their ultimate desire to do the best for their son. People can call them selfish and delusional, but I truly believe that they were hopeful that there was something that could be done for him.

My family had an elderly terminally ill family member last year. We all reacted in different and sometimes irrational ways. The next of kin wouldnt sign a "do not resuscitate form" as they didn't want to be responsible for signing a "death warrant" - even though resuscitation would have been cruel and painful for the person. When the syringe driver was fitted and the person was given a few days at the most, I myself, truly believed that they might just pull through (they lived just 18 hours). Then i went through a period of time of thinking the syringe driver had actually killed them - and googled lots of stories from people with similar beliefs.

Earlier this year, I also had another separate family member who was in hospital with a common illness - but took a turn for the worst. We were called in to say our goodbyes and the consultants said the person wouldn't last more than a few hours as their organs were malfunctioning. This relative actually pulled through and is now fine and doesn't have major organ failure. All this taught me was that consultants do get things very wrong.

So from my experiences, I can really see where TE and KJ were coming from. I'm glad they have found some peace now in this terrible situation.

Bratsandtwats · 26/04/2018 20:45

So we've had denial, anger and bargaining. Are we now coming to acceptance? For the time being anyway.

derxa · 26/04/2018 20:46

So we've had denial, anger and bargaining. Are we now coming to acceptance? For the time being anyway. Hmm

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