Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
News
Original poster

Sorry, but my children bore me to death!

354 replies

MrsBigD · 26/07/2006 16:54

Not meaning to start a major debate here (that already seems to be happening on the articles own board), just thought it was quite well written and touching on one of the things 'us bad mums' don't dare bring up... imho she's a bit extreme in her attitude but simultaneously have to admit that I have had some of the thoughts myself at times

here is the article

OP posts:
poisson · 26/07/2006 18:26

teh kiss of Judas

highlights VERY bad
she hasnt been blonde for eyars

southeastastra · 26/07/2006 18:27

with the beautifully polished grand piano

NotAnOtter · 26/07/2006 18:27

i picked the paper up and thought 'bollocks to the old bag' then noticed she had used an old photo as it was titled 'the boys then aged bla de blah...

Aged badly too then!

MrsJohnCusack · 26/07/2006 18:29

the idea that intelligence and looking after children full-time are mutually exclusive REALLY pisses me off. I reckon she's got a big chip on her shoulder about appearing clever (shame she's stuffed that up by writing this article that presumably her children will really enjoy). Lovely that although they're really dull, they're dragged in to look pretty in the photo.

and yes, her highlights were a waste of money

Socci · 26/07/2006 18:29

Message withdrawn

CarolinaMoose · 26/07/2006 18:32

this might be a bit of a stereotype, but surely it's not that uncommon for people wealthy enough to afford wall-to-wall nannies to be like this? And M&Ts are boring (but I'd quite like to see Pirates of the Caribbean myself ).

agree the writing is pants though - v disjointed and slung-together. And in typical Mail style, the experts' opinions are about something totally different from the journalist's personal experience.

sunchowder · 26/07/2006 18:38

I think she was trying to be funny, don't you? She couldn't possibly have been serious? I believe she was wildly exaggerating--no one could feel this way about their children. I am sure she was just speaking out about the things that bored her the most and not speaking about anything that she enjoyed. She did seem horribly shallow though....

MrsJohnCusack · 26/07/2006 18:40

well I do hope so sunchowder!

above all, it does seem so sad to actively dread spending any time at all with them. I hope she was exaggerating that for effect. and if not I hope her children stop bothering to see her as soon as she bores them

KTeePee · 26/07/2006 18:42

I'm just surprised she didn't send them both off to boarding school at 4 (or maybe she did...). I would be the first to admit I find many aspects of motherhood boring but like many have said, find it astounding that she doesn't enjoy doing anything with her boys. I wonder if she would have felt differently if they had been girls who she could have taken shopping, etc

foxinsocks · 26/07/2006 18:44

lol at fullmoonfiend

have just looked properly at the photo and you're right - those children are definitely not 10 and 12. How strange to put an outdated photo with the article. Perhaps it was too boring spending time with her children and the photographer.

rabbitrabbit · 26/07/2006 18:50

It's The Mail. She's been paid to attempt to write yet another "controversial" piece on parenting. It just reads like she's trying so hard to provoke a reaction. I feel for her children when their friends start telling them that their mother thinks they're boring.

SSSandy · 26/07/2006 18:54

come to think of it, I know another 2 women who are more or less like this. One only has 1 ds who wasn't planned and she's bringing him up on her own and runs her own company. So doesn't have much time anyway and wants it that way, she says. He's a nice kid.

The other is a journalist and after being thoroughly bored to tears with ds, went on to have dd which I never understood frankly. They're nice children too

Dior · 26/07/2006 19:01

Message withdrawn

sparklemagic · 26/07/2006 19:04

I get her point which obviously she ws making in the most exaggerated way possible - but I would have liked her to say what she IS good at as a mother, what she DOES enjoy doing, in what she she influences her children's life for the better; it was just too unbalanced.

yes, it can be boring at times and yes kids do need to be bored sometimes, and to learn that adults have needs too; but they will be lacking in self esteem and self worth if she really gives them as little as she says she does. I'd bet my bottom dollar that this family will have HUGE issues when the kids are teenagers, as all this woman appears to be doing for her kids is role modelling how to be selfish and pompous.

twinsetandpearls · 26/07/2006 19:06

As a mother who lacks any real kind of maternal instinct I agree with much of what she has to say, although I do wonder why she had more than one. I find motherhood intensly difficult and for that reason I only have one. I know I can do really well with one but with two I would be a nightmare and probably spend my life at the gym or having my roots done.

I love my daughter but find much of what I do with her tedius, but am very good at putting on the act and going into supermum role.

I do think it is an issue that we judge women quite harshly for not being "natural"mothers and have much lower standards for men.

twinsetandpearls · 26/07/2006 19:07

Although I do love a kids party.

twinsetandpearls · 26/07/2006 19:09

And I woudn't pose for a photo with my kids in the daily mail under a headline saying my kids bore me!

Tinker · 26/07/2006 19:11

Maybe she's depressed?

Dior · 26/07/2006 19:12

Message withdrawn

twinsetandpearls · 26/07/2006 19:12

I think it is rather harsh to say why have kids if they bore you, none of us know what kind of parent we will be until we have children.

I am a complete mother earth, just not with my own daughter for some bizarre reason. I was the person that everyone said would make a fantastic natural mother, kids adore me and I adore them, I teach teenagers and work with pre school schildren for the rest of the week but for some reason that naturall efortless bond has never been there withmy own child. But I never for one moment knew this would be the case and so chose to ahve a family and I work very had at being a mother so I don't think my feelings ahve affected dd. But as I said below I will never have any more children.

twinsetandpearls · 26/07/2006 19:15

Dior, I love M&T groups, it is for that reason that I run them. I love the social side of being a mother such as the parties, inviting kids to play, going out for trips it is the stuck in the house on our own bit that I find hard. Maybe my strength over the author of this article is that I know what my parenting strenghs and likes are and I amke sure we get plenty of them!

Dior · 26/07/2006 19:18

Message withdrawn

sibdoms · 26/07/2006 19:19

yes twinset but you don't gloat about it, or suggest that it is because you are so INTELLIGENT that you can't be arsed with your kids....... she is a witch and also really dull. I hope she dies in a horrible bleaching accident at the hairdressers, and the nanny gets custody. The debate about motherhood isn't helped by such prannyish twaddle.

thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 26/07/2006 19:22

pmsl about the photo. maybe she hasn't got anything more recent cos she's never actually with them.

twinsetandpearls · 26/07/2006 19:23

No I don't gloat about it, mainly because it makes me feel like an unloving cold freaky bitch! Which is a contradiction really as below I said how we judge women unfairly for not being natural mothers yet I help to perpetuate the myth by keeping my feelings secret apart from a group of strange cyber women!