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Sorry, but my children bore me to death!

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MrsBigD · 26/07/2006 16:54

Not meaning to start a major debate here (that already seems to be happening on the articles own board), just thought it was quite well written and touching on one of the things 'us bad mums' don't dare bring up... imho she's a bit extreme in her attitude but simultaneously have to admit that I have had some of the thoughts myself at times

here is the article

OP posts:
kittywits · 30/07/2006 21:47

Blimey, I was expecting a flurry of angry replies accusing me of putting down mums who work. Such a relief!!

kickassangel · 30/07/2006 22:07

i think you are clearly stating the right of mums to stay home if they want, without condemning those who work. the point is we're entitled to choose (as dad's should be - but that's another thread), without wither decision necessarily being a 'better' one. as a working mum - not entirely by choice - i get fed up with people who tell me that i'm not a proper mum, i don't know what it's really like, or who say 'it's alright for you...' just as conde4scending as the woman who wrote the article. it's no big enlightenment that childrearing can be boring (you don't need a degree to work it out), nor is it taboo to say so. but it IS very sad if that's the height of her achievement. i also have a degree & a career, and my biggest achievement this life time is my dd.

expatinscotland · 30/07/2006 22:09

this thread is right above the one asking for poems to commemorate the life of a deceased 4-year-old.

and this gal's 'bored' of her kids . . .

yeah, she leads a pretty priviledged life, many would say.

jellyjelly · 31/07/2006 09:25

I dont know what narcacistic means but oh my god. I cant believe this woman at all. What a complete cow, i would not like to be her children.

kittywits · 31/07/2006 09:32

Narcisus was a mythological character who fell in love with his own reflection, says it all really!

jellyjelly · 31/07/2006 09:33

So she loves herself really. Glad i can ask on here and get an answer.

Blondilocks · 31/07/2006 09:34

Nothing's incompatable in my opinion - many SAHMs are intelligent and educated the same if not more than working mums and many working mums are capable of doing home cooked meals etc etc. It's really annoying when everyone generalises, i.e. working mums are bad, but SAHMs are unintelligent (not saying that anyone's said that on this thread).

I think that the main thing is that the child is loved, supported and has happy parents whether they work or not, whether they're educated to degree level higher or not, whether they have their hair done regularly etc etc (which doesn't appear to be the case in the article).

But how anyone can find their children boring 100% of the time I can't fathom (unless of course the writer is deliberately trying to be controversial).

kittywits · 31/07/2006 09:34

Well she seems to love herself alot more than she loves her children

micegg · 31/07/2006 11:45

Blondilocks posting says it all. There is no right or wrong and you do what's right for you or what your circumstances allow. I have to work but feel fortunate I only have to do 3 days a week (2.5 days in practice as I have flexi time at work). As it happens I have a job I love and I really love the balance and that works for me. My DD is very outgoing and enjoys nursery. This arranagement works for us. Being a good mum is not defined by whether you stay at home to care for them or how many home cooked meals you make. Neither is it about providing material wealth.

The problem is you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. I have had people look down on me when I was on maternity leave and classed as a SAHM and I have had SAHM look down on me for returning to work. It is up to all of us to change this attitude by providing positive support for all mums whatever their circumstances. I beleive that as long as a child is loved and cared for and knows it that is the most important thing. Each to their own.

Anchovy · 31/07/2006 12:19

I've come to this late (been on holiday in Normandy, had a very nice time thanks for asking) but I intervewed her nanny last year......

sheepgomeep · 31/07/2006 12:29

I went to the funeral today of my friends six year old son, who drowned in barmouth last monday.

After watching him being buried and witnessing her and her families grief and the grief of my son who was his friend in class, I appreciate my children more so than ever

No matter how stressed, tired, bored you get of your kids just think that my friend will never see her only child again, and think how lucky you are.

This article made my blood boil

kittywits · 31/07/2006 12:41

What anchovy, go on ,go on!! good? bad ? ugly? Lovely? PLEASE TELL

compo · 31/07/2006 12:42

sheep

joelallie · 31/07/2006 12:47

Having been away from this thread since Friday I just wanted to tell everyone about our really "boring" Sunday. We went to Putsborough Sands in N Devon. The sun was shining, the sea was blue and there were some huuuge waves, everyon was happy and there were hardly any rows (amazing!), we surfed, swam, jumped the waves, ate a picnic, built sandcastles, looked in the rock pools. I didn't give a thought to my shoes matching my clothes (neither did DH as far as I know) and the only shopping we did was in the beach shop for ice-creams. The kids have the best time - and so did we because they were happy and interested. I can't see the mother in the article doing that. Perhaps she'd have sent the nanny with them But how can an intelligent adult human being who cares for their children in any way at all, find a day like that boring? We got covered in sand, stuck in traffic jams and i burnt the top of my legs ( and no, it probably wasn't the way I'd have chosen to spend the day if I wan't a parent ...but it was wonderful BECAUSE we spent a long, harmonious, happy day together. I think the fact that she couldn't see any pleasure or benefit in that is what upsets me

nellieellie · 03/08/2006 10:38

I have a 12 mth old son and will be going back to work in a month. Yes, a lot of it is boring, but hell that woman is at the extreme. I'd say verging on neglect of those kids. What on earth did those poor kids feel when they read that article. It's clear to me - she should never had had kids. Bringing kids up isn't a career! - it's your life (not necessarily your whole life). I agree with a lot of the stuff about stress and tedium but what a hateful cow she is. As joelallie says what about the magic times?

ronniec · 03/08/2006 14:55

If sometimes the best thing you can do for children is to let them be bored, surely it can't hurt parents either. sometimes you see wonderful new things in yourself/your child or your surroundings on that repeated trip to the park. I love going for walks or to music class or shopping with my daughter when so many people are stuck in offices all day. I would also go crazy if I didnt have time for work, gym, friends and yes a few drinks ... guess it's all about finding a balance and no parent should feel guilty about doing things for themselves as well as making an effort for the kids.

Quootiepie · 03/08/2006 15:21

Cant be bothered to read that clap-trap. She should have kept her legs closed, silly cow. Probably wanted to keep up with the Jones'.

sandyballs · 03/08/2006 15:33

If only she realised how much she is missing out on with that attitude. Very sad article

suejonez · 03/08/2006 15:37

Ahh, joelallie, thats exactly the kind of thing I'm looking forward to parenthood for. If I wanted exciting travelfilled lief I would have continued as I was with a flash career, car, business travel.

Your day at the beach sounds lovely.

MadamePlatypus · 03/08/2006 16:21

Hmm, trying to work out how she finds going to the gym more exciting that watching Pirates of the Caribbean. Nope, can't see it.

MrsJohnCusack · 03/08/2006 16:23

if you're not excited by the sight of Johnny Depp AND Orlando Bloom swashbuckling all over the show then, frankly, there's no hope you you

MrsJohnCusack · 03/08/2006 16:23

you you?
FOR you

see, even the thought has made me go all unneccesary

suejonez · 03/08/2006 17:10

I find ___ more exciting than going to the gym.

suejonez · 03/08/2006 17:10

fill in as appropriate

firemaiden · 04/08/2006 21:54

I know this is years after everyone else picked up on this article, but can't resist commenting now that I have noticed it/read it.

Its amazing how some people can make so much money out of writing about something we all do. Luckily, I think she's messed up here. Instead of the article being funny, ironic or even part of the bad mothers' too cool for school brigade, she just came across as a vacuous bimbo. Yes, some aspects of parenting are dull but is wondering what shoes to wear more interesting??! What a complete air-head. If you're going to be bored by parenting, at least have something more interesting to turn to then your own appearance. Sad, sad woman.