Summer Slatterns - Martha Stewart we are not!

[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

I used your title Alice seeing as the rest of us were to slatternly to even think of anything!!!

Thanks, have just posted a thread asking if anyone knew of one

Bugger. It can't be PND though as DD is nearly 2 and when i took that test when she was a year old i got something like 6, now it is 19 and that has made me feel stupidly angry

Ali I don't know if you are on AD but my Dr said I could take a sleeping tablet to help me sleep with the AD I am taking, its so bloody annoying be tired and not being able to switch off and go to sleep, it means you end up having one bad day after another.

Also I sometimes feel like if my house is in chaos so is my mind IYSWIM, that why I find listing on here helpful, although sometimes I get annoyed with myself for not doing all the tasks. If my mind is in chaos I just leave the house and meet up with a friend and I instantly feel better.

alice sometimes motherhood feels like a rollercoaster that you can't get off, it just goes round and round. I regularly shout 'I just want a day off!!!!' Some days I am jealous of DH going off to work, he gets a uninnterupted tea break.

You can get PND at anytime after giving birth, so my HV said.

Also those test things wind me up because its was telling me something I didn't want to hear but once I started to take steps to do something about it I knew taking the test was the write thing.

right thing.

AC, I am at 18. Funny thing is I had PND after first 3, I felt brilliant after birth of DD3, put it down to continuing on my Iron Tablets. Plus when I had the other 3 I couldnt lift a finger, DH used to come home and do everything in the evenings. I am the exact opposite since DD3 arrived, plus she is 2 and a half!!

Well have at least started my ebay listings, must get more done tomorrow!

Today:

• light tea after huge lunch! DONE
• early night soon

Friday:

• all usual
• laundry
• ironing
• DS1 to pre-school holiday club (9-12)
• friends round in the afternoon
• quiet night in

Ongoing:

• get photos of family & hang them up
• buy some cheap photo albums (Factory Shop trip)
• find correct sized refills for filofax pen - maybe buy a new one - can't find one i like
• get on with friend's family tree
• transfer all family trees over to Mac software
• then go through 1911 census (again)
• plan & use reward chart for ds1 to get him using the toilet
• list stuff to sell on eBay 8OutOf10Listed
• sort out a wireless phone system

Have just made Brown Bread (still in oven) and some choc chip cookies

Finished Cleaning DD2s room YAY

think it will be up early for me in the morning to finish cleaning!

Crikey - 22 on that test .

JKS - glad you all got out for some time together . I do that with teething too.

Alice - I can see why you feel like that, espcially if DH is going out. I think I am very lucky that DH doesn't go out without me, apart from the occasional beer after work. Can you book a babysitter and go out with DH so that you don't feel so stranded?

CC - sorry you are feeling rubbish too . Make sure you use one of those mornings to do something for you.

Peppa I know what you mean about just getting out, but I feel that it's then all just waiting for me when I get back IYKWIM? I will ask my GP about sleeping tablets, I've got to do something.

Sleep well everyone, 'see' you tomorrow

Mini list
Fold clean washing - done
Make lunch - done
Hoover living room - done
Wash patchwork quilt - done
Tidy our room and dust it - done
Put away clean clothes - done
Strip our bed - done
Empty bathroom bin
Put potatoes in the oven for dinner - done
Have a shower and wash hair - done
Dinner x 3 - done
DS bath and bed - done
Watch a film with DH? - watching some Sky+d TV
Put sheets in the machine overnight
Re-make our bed
Sleep - hopefully.

Night night ALI, just having a choc chip cookie, lovely! Back to healthy eating in the moning

IKWYM about it still being there when you get back, but I find I come back with a less anxious mind and I seem able to deal with it better. When I was at my lowest point I was spending every spare minute cleaning and tidying and not spending quality time with my DC, DH or myself. I am now trying to changemy priorities and put housework second.

I would use the state of my home to rate how good a mum I am, when actually the happiness of my DC indicates my mothering abilities

Sorry I'mrambling on about nothing in particular.

Night all

Peppa, I have a sign in my kitchen thats says
Dirty Dishes
Dirty Floors
Happy Kids

I have lived by that for nearly 13 years

Thanks for listening everyone, feel a bit brighter by just admitting it!!!

DD3 has woken up after going to bed at 7.30 , and is looking for me to hold hands with her teddies and do ring-a-rosie!

Night everyone, see you in the morning!!

Good morning all

Thank you for last night.

Ali i hope you managed to sleep last night, i seem to be the opposite and always want to sleep at the moment. Sleeping has always been a coping strategy of mine.

Unfortunately our babysitter is the 'friend' that is being really flaky at the moment, although my dad lives about 45mins away so might ask him to look after DD for an evening.

I have such a busy day, i feel i need to write a list just so i can get it clear in my head what i am doing. Maybe if i get into a decent routine again things will feel better.

Everyone up done
Everyone breakfast done
Everyone dressed
Turn horse out and skip out field
Get changed
Put washload on
Go to Wiggle and Jiggle at 9.30
Go to interview at 10 (hopefully Daisy will stay in W and J with the play worker)
Hang washing out
Sort kitchen
Lunch
Ride and muckout horses
Cook dinner
Early bed for everyone

Morning everyone Back from taking DH to the station, DS and I just having some breakfast.
My brother e-mailed late last night and has apologised for upsetting me. I can't just turn off how I've been feeling towards him, but hopefully this will be the beginning of reconcilation. I do feel like a weight has been lifted, so I'm hoping this might help me feel better.

Alice - we are in the same position that we have no-one nearby. My parents are about 45/50 mins away and have had DS before, but I don't like to put on them too much. I am looking into how much getting a 'proper' babysitter would be so that DH and I can go out for dinner on our own, or to a concert or something. We have very much become parents rather than a couple recently and the balance needs redressing.

CC - I ate one of Plum's Philly Brownies before I went to bed last night, yum

Hope everyone has a better day today

List
Up and dressed - done
DS boobed, changed and dressed - done
Washing out of machine - done
Take DH to station - done
Breakfast x 2 - done
Hang out washing
Clean kitchen, needs a good scrub
Empty bathroom and my bedroom bin
DS nap
Me nap, only had 3.5 hours sleep
Lunch x 2
Out for a walk
Get washing in and fold
Decide what to make for dinner
Find out what time DH will be home
Dust living room, dining room and hallway
Dinner x 3
Relax
Sleep

Morning all

Babysitters (& the cost of them) are a necessary evil of parenthood for most of us i think - how many people are lucky enough to have grand-parents (or others) on hand to sit whenever needed? of those that do btw!!

I have worked my way through various teenagers, they will go off to uni or go and get jobs, most inconvenient
Have a good lad at the mo, he's fab.

Friday:

• me up first (from 5.34!) DONE
• breakfast DONE
• tidy kitchen DONE
• clean kitchen table & floor
• rubbish day DH job
• ds2 nap Doing
• me showered & dressed
• laundry
• ironing
• DS1 to pre-school holiday club (9-12) DH Doing
• friends round in the afternoon
• quiet night in

Ongoing:

• get photos of family & hang them up
• buy some cheap photo albums (Factory Shop trip)
• find correct sized refills for filofax pen - maybe buy a new one - can't find one i like
• get on with friend's family tree
• transfer all family trees over to Mac software
• then go through 1911 census (again)
• plan & use reward chart for ds1 to get him using the toilet
• list last 2 items to sell on eBay
• sort out a wireless phone system (try out old wireless phone first at a temporary fix)

Morning everyone

CC I have seen that sign somewhere, maybe down the garden centre

alice Wiggle and Jiggle sounds like fun, good luck with the interview!!

Sorry JK We have both sets of granparents living very close, it does make going out easier, but just like Ali said I don't like to "put on them too much"

Later on today we are going to a Make a Wish Event, we have to make 3 wishes and go and hang them on a fence in a field just 5 minutes from us, when the event is over all the wishes will be collect up and printed in a booklet and everyone in my local area will get a copy, and they are giving out free cakes,

Book DSs hairdresser appt
Write out wishes
Go to Make a Wish Event
Help DH wallpaper the kitchen this evening
Advertise more stuff in local paper
Wipe round bathroom
Tidy, tidy, tidy done
Catch up on some sky+ed TV
Put eye cream on
Moisturise feet
OCM
Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner
Hang out wet washing done
Put away clean washing
Everyone up and dressed
Check Ebay
Keep kitchen tidy after every meal next job
Run WM
Run DW
Sterilise bottles
Bath/wash DC and to bed
Make beds
Read more book
Anything else that comes my way!!

Ongoing;
Drink more water
Clutter clearing - Older DSs bedroom, should be fun done
Sort through stuff to Ebay, carboot or donate.
Sort through the masses of photos stored on PC, print some and put the rest to disk
Work on DH books
Appearance improving!!

Morning everyone, feeling a bit more positive today, maybe because its Friday.

Didnt get up as early as I wanted

Cleaned upstairs Hall before I went to bed though

TO DO
Make Curry DONE
Clean upstairs Bathroom
Load Dishwasher
Hoover Downstairs

JKS I'm only going for the cake although I little bit of is hoping our wishes will come true,not that we can agree on the wishes, DS1 wants to wish for 3 more wishes and DS2 wants to wish for a pet pig last week he wanted a giant house rabbit and the week before he wanted a giant afican snail

Book DSs hairdresser appt
Write out wishes
Go to Make a Wish Event
Help DH wallpaper the kitchen this evening
Advertise more stuff in local paper
Wipe round bathroom
Tidy, tidy, tidy
Catch up on some sky+ed TV
Put eye cream on
Moisturise feet
OCM
Breakfast done
Lunch
Dinner
Hang out wet washing done
Put away clean washing
Everyone up and dressed
Check Ebay
Keep kitchen tidy after every meal next job
Run WM
Run DW
Sterilise bottles
Bath/wash DC and to bed
Make beds
Read more book
Anything else that comes my way!!

Ongoing;
Drink more water
Clutter clearing - Older DSs bedroom, should be fun done
Sort through stuff to Ebay, carboot or donate.
Sort through the masses of photos stored on PC, print some and put the rest to disk
Work on DH books
Appearance improving!!

TO DO
Make Curry DONE
Clean upstairs Bathroom DONE
Load Dishwasher DONE
Hoover Downstairs
Go to watch DDs and DNs and DN in tennis tournament, dont know how long for for as will have DD3 (2)and DN(3)with me

Not many dones on my list, but I've been really busy

Finally got DS down for a nap! He has been up since 6:45 to take DH for his train and has been knackered and grumpy for the last hour and a half. I had to resort to boob in the end .
Now trying to decide whether to get some sleep myself or play on the Xbox. I will struggle later if I don't sleep, but I really just want some chill out time.

List
Up and dressed - done
DS boobed, changed and dressed - done
Washing out of machine - done
Take DH to station - done
Breakfast x 2 - done
Hang out washing
Clean kitchen, needs a good scrub
Empty bathroom and my bedroom bin - done
DS nap - doing
Eat a slab of banana cake - done yum
Me nap, only had 3.5 hours sleep
Lunch x 2
Out for a walk
Get washing in and fold
Decide what to make for dinner
Find out what time DH will be home
Dust living room, dining room and hallway
Dinner x 3
Relax
Sleep

Does anyone want to join me in some housework support today and tomorrow? I am really struggling to want to do anything, but i know that if the house is tidy and clean i will feel better. Vicious circle.

I am having a coffee, and then i want to put a washload on and tidy/clean the kitchen.

Bloody raining! Had to bring 3 DNs,1 DN and DD3 home because of it, left DD1 and DD2 and DN there, will try and convince DS to keep an eye on these so I can go back for their medal ceremony.

What kind of Housework support? I need to wash Bathroom Floor, Hoover upstairs (clean rooms), Hoover the stairs and landing and all of downstairs.

Going to tackle DS room tomorrow and try and put away clothes