Fledglings are Flying into April, there's no fooling us.......

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Welcome fledglings old and new, to April's Flylady thread!

For any newbies who have stumbled across us, we are following Flylady’s housework system which is based around routines and short bursts of activity to try to keep our houses and lives in order. (Sometimes we follow it more loosely than others). Feel free to join us, the more the merrier! We post our ‘ta da’ lists for motivation (no matter how long or short), and enjoy some random chatter along the way.

The link to Flylady’s ‘flying lessons’ is here Flying Lessons. Have a read, and if you have any questions, just ask. You can sign up for emails but be warned there are lots so most of us rapidly unsubscribed.

I’ll be posting links daily to keep us all on track. Jump in wherever you are, remember you are never behind.

This is a long running thread and we’ve developed some lingo along the way:
LOL = load of laundry
S&S = swish and swipe, a quick daily clean of the toilet and sink
PO3 = power of 3. When motivation is on the low side or you’re overwhelmed just pick 3 things at a time and do them
DNLMS = did not lose my shit
Ned = our mythical mate who helps with the laundry (hasn’t paid a visit to me for a while)
Pointy stick —-> = for when a fledgling needs a motivational prod (we can be gentle if required)
The naughty corner = a relaxing haven where we hang out when motivation is low, we are on strike, or we need a rest and some TLC

KCC - we don't do so many of these now, but these are little stories, photos, memes, off-topic questions, just to keep us all distracted from the general tedium of lockdown life. Feel free to chip in.

Thanks to Up for guiding us gently through March .

And off we go into April.

Up reporting for duty! Thanks for the new thread ED. Good title!

Hi ED thank you for the new thread!

Thanks upholder for March :)

No message or phone call. Sigh.

ED thank you for taking on April thread! Thank you Up for fabulous March thread leading 🥰

Sing how unprofessional of them. I hate when that happens. It completely ruins the rest of the day.
Ships offering a shovel and an alibi 😉 I hope your DH makes up for his transgressions.

Ta das:
💥Bought a nursing chair! Shall be arriving in the next few days.
💥Lolx1
💥Folded and put away few loads of clean clothes
💥DH tidied the kitchen and rotated DW

Some insect bit me on the leg yesterday when I was in the garden. I only noticed when I was already inside the house, I scratched the area and possibly squashed the offender - something small, black, and bitey. I hope it wasn't a tick.

Weather was so miserable today I didn't leave the house. Lovely day with plenty of baby cuddles and naps.

Onwards into April we go. Whoop!

up thank you for March, and thank you to ED for this new thread.

Must stop lurking and eating chocolate! Trying to get up a head of steam and develop something vaguely resembling a routine. The LOs have had only twelve days of school spread over three weeks, and a good morning is one where I'm not madly tumble-drying during breakfast. What on earth will I be like with full school next term.

On that note, getting started right now.

Good Morning Fledglings!

Today's Flight Plan is here. We are in the porch/hall/dining room today and tomorrow.

Today's mission is to toss out all the trash from these areas. Our April habit is Make Your Bed, which normally produces some discussion over the merits of making vs airing. I'm in the airing camp, but DS has adopted it as his main daytime residence at the moment so it does end up a mess.

Thursday is Errand Day - I need to pop to the shops for a few top up bits of food today.

See you all later

I need a list too.

Get cat off lap
Get dressed (not to shoes, just slippers)
Washing
Town for food shopping top up
Finish online order for main food shopping
Pay insurance
Sort some swimming club stuff
Declutter some box files I emptied last weekend to the loft
Put away yesterday's clean laundry
Yoga
What's for dinner - lasagne

Alive. Very busy. likely to be awol for most of April. Volunteer for May thread leadership.

SW phoned and it turned out she did come last night but had the wrong address. There’s a block of flats at the entrance to the street and on drop down menus people often choose (names changed obv) “27 Clover House, Barnham Street” instead of “27 Barnham Street”. We have told the school to change it at least twice. 🤬 I’m about to ring them and give them what for.

However SW could surely have phoned me. The ridiculous thing is she said she actually did have MY address as “27 Barnham Street” because of an old referral (MH related, didn’t come to anything). She asked if that was just round the corner. Well yes, you’d know that if you’d taken the 2 minutes to look. Like I said I really do get they are rushed off their feet but how can they think it’s ok to not even try this stuff or phone when there’s an upset child waiting?

I’ve said how shaken and distrustful DD1 is now. She’s coming round tonight to talk to me (and to check on the others as is policy), DD1 will stay at the park instead. TBH it is a good thing as I can be more open without her there - I am really trying to be strong about it but I cried a lot last night (in my room) because DD1 actually apologised to me for all this. As if it’s in any way her fault that she’s gone through this?! I am so gutted that this has all made her feel worse about herself. At least this way I can be really open about how it’s affected her without making DD1 feel worse because her mum is upset 😰

Right, end rant sorry.

It’s not a flying sort of day. DH is on a zoom appt. I have my induction with my new tutor at 12 hopefully so that’s exciting!

Oh Sing that is awful poor DD1. I can understand how she feels she is causing upset and worry in the family but she needs to project it onto others it is not her fault bless her.
I was once assaulted on the train home from school. Busy train, people standing a bit squashed up and somebody put there hand on my bits. I froze and was so shocked that I couldn’t believe it was happening. Luckily I was getting off next stop. It only was a minute or two and when my friend and I got off the train to walk home we didn’t talk which was unusual and I always wondered if he had done the same thing to her. I didn’t tell mum because a) I was too embarrassed and thought mum would be upset and she had enough on b) it was my choice to go to that school because my friend was two years older and went there. B) mum didn't really want me to go to that school as it was a 45 min journey. I thought she may have said It’ s your own fault for wanting to go there. I feel awful writing B as mum wouldn’t have, she would have been very upset for me.

Thanks ED for the new thread and a big thank you UP for leading March when you were so busy.

Ships I will have to go back and see what he has been up to but just letting you know my greenhouse base is going down now so I can ask Dan if you or That need it. I can bribe Dan with cake🤣

Waders I wondered if you did your Heir hunting abroad. Might need a chat about that sometime as Baby Sis might need to prove something.

MC exciting I hope the chair is great.

MrsTidy great to see you back.

Hills glad to hear you still alive.

Thank you for the March thread up! And thank you for this one ED!

Morning everyone, thank you for the offers of shovels, patio space and alibis😂. He apologised last night, I apologised for shouting but explained how exhausted I’ve been, both DC being grumpy, tandem nursing on demand, plus doing coursework etc for a few courses I’m doing. He’s apologise and it’s all resolved. He made me breakfast and tea in bed this morning, gave DD breakfast and got the DC ready. Now the DC and I are having a lazy day!

ED ooh lovely, we’re a little further north than you, I love it here though.

up I’m glad to hear you had a lovely day with your dad!

I hope the bite isn’t anything to worry about mc! I’m glad that you got lots of baby cuddles!

waders that sounds awful! I’m sorry your DH can also be a child around his friends too!

Oh God sing I’m so sorry you’ve been through all that💐 your poor DD apologising to you!. Hopefully tonight things can get a bit more sorted❤️

Up nice work last month
Ed thanks new thread

Aww red I’m so sorry that happened :( and that you felt you might be at fault in any way. Isn’t it awful what girls especially have to feel like when this stuff happens?!

I feel a little more positive as I’ve just had my induction for the new course, tutor is lovely! She also suggested I think about doing a Mental Health First Aider qualification. I’ve heard of the idea behind it but I’d assumed I’d need to be in a job first, but then having the qualification might give me another boost when applying for places. Anyway I wondered do any of you have MHFAs at your work?

Yes it is awful that girls are still feeling like this after all my incident happened in 1972! You think things should have moved on a lot more than they have but then we have so much technology and all that entails for both young girls and boys and the bullying that can go on.

No,I just had Paediatric First Aid. I can see it being very useful to have in the future though.

So my TaDas.
Up early dressed to t shirt and lounge pants ( stretchy cotton bit like pyjama bottoms) no shoes unless out side when I put my backdoor shoes.
Made breakfast for me and Dbuilder- bacon and egg butty.Coffee for him Tea for me and discussion over greenhouse base. 😁he likes coming here😁 he carried on and I cleaned, washed up and swept floor.

Sorted some stuff ,emails checked.
Checked on D looking good as half way. Needed more sand so off he popped.
Emptied dishwasher.
Cleared table
Collected plants from window sill
Vacuumed downstairs.
DBuilder back so made him coffeee and gingerbread.
Dbuilder.Finished base started on back door step tiles.Drilled holes in two troughs.
I swished and swiped bathroom.
Dbuilder put last two tiles which arrived yesterday.
I was looking for bookcase size and prices.
Showed him last two things. Gave him some gingerbread to take home.
Collected and opened mail x4
Just had lunch and answered phone.

Feel tired as bed late and not much sleep might needed a nap. DH done in Lakes walking Wainwright’s.

I might just go for nap.

I’m so tired today, I slept longer than usual but for some reason and more tired than normal. DM came over today and brought some photo albums and some of my old toys. DD has spent the day making a den with one of my old dolls (pic attached), she loves it😂. Going through the photo albums was lovely, I’ve never thought the DC looked like me but looking at pictures of me when I was their age and they’re the image of me! DH came back from work with flowers and a McDonald’s, so he’s in my good books again😂

red I’m so sorry that happened to you💐. It’s awful what girls have to go through, especially how common it is and how young they are when it starts!.

sing I’m glad to hear your induction went well!

Oops I forgot to attach the pic

Oh goodness me. Turns out my bottle refusing child is also not a fan of Doidy open cup. His little face was priceless when he took a sip out of it for the first time, the utter betrayal and disgust 😂
Since then, he just won't even let me get anywhere near him with a cup, and if I do manage, he just spits the content out.
Only this time I need to succeed as we are starting weaning in 3 weeks time and I need him to be able to take water from it. Wish me luck...

We didn't have much luck with the doidy cup at first Mc, we ended up with the Tommee Tippee folding spout ones. Also we had some lidded cups that we used straws with, but you'd have to get reusable straws now, I shudder to think how many we used over the years. DD was a complete bottle refuser too, I remember worrying about going back to work when she was 9 months old but it all worked out.

Ship - glad DH made amends, breakfast in bed sounds perfect.

Red - that's awful about what happened to you. Something similar happened to me about 5 years ago, it was horrible and I'm not a young vulnerable girl. I can see why you are popular with your builder, all those lovely food treats.

Waders - that treasure hunt scenario sounds trying to say the least, well done for keeping going with it.

MrsT - good to hear from you, I did a lot of lurking last month too, sometimes I am very chatty on here, sometimes I shy away a bit, it's nice to know absent Fledglings are still lurking.

Hills - good luck with April, pop in when you can. Hope the people are behaving themselves.

Zoo . Stay there till you are ready to face the world

Sing - that's awful about the missed appointment, I know they are working so hard but when the situation is already so stressful for you and DD a simple phone call would have made such a difference.

Waves at Up, Dancing, Double, any other Fledglings that are reading.

Well, I managed everything on my list apart from box files to loft and yoga, plus about three hours of work at home and a zoom meeting this evening. So that's good. I may still attempt the yoga before bed but probably not the box files. DS got his Covid jab today (group 6). Good timing as he has broken up from school and it should be well on the way to effectiveness by the time he goes back.

Had a very lazy day (more like an avoiding everything day). SW did show up and we talked about everything, I’ve warned her DD1 is extremely unlikely to engage if they take this beyond the initial needs assessment bit. She is not easy to win over when she feels let down! However we talked about other options and she’s going to try and make a different referral.

Up- thank you for lovely thread leading through March!

Ed- thank you for the new thread.

'Red'- i am so sorry to hear that happened to you on the train. I was assulted from the age of 9 until 14 every saturday when my mum took me to town to help her carry the heavy shopping bags. This disgusting pervert, would find a different way to put his hands in my privates. It affected me very badly. I never told my mum. I wore long bulky coats. I dressed like a boy. I wore chucky shoes, to try and put him off- it didnt work.
It was my best friend at 14 told me I should tell my Science teacher. My science teacher was lovely and told me to tell my mum. My mum blamed me, she didnt believe me and told me not to mention it to my dad or he will kill her. So I stopped going to town. Aged 19 the pervert followed me into a queue for the checkout, he started mumbling and moved close to me and I lost it and I started kicking him with my chunky shoes. To this day my dad has no idea why one Christmas time, waiting in a queue his daughter started to swear her head off and storm out of the shop. I was outside, shaking like a leaf and whispered to my brother what had happened. While I tried to act normal around my dad.

Today has been abit of a horrible day- As I
cried my eyes out so my head nearly exploded with pain.
Dh, 10years gave me his leon car and part exchanged my older ford car, for his Mondeo car.
Today he told me the leon car was his car and sellng it- thr money would be his. He said alsorts- that I never paid him back for the car insurance. I bloody did everytime.
I just cried. I tried not to. I told him to sell the car and keep the money if it meant that much to him.
He told me to sell the car or he would get the car scrapped.
Imagine me, standing around at car buying place trying sell my car. It got £500 glad its sold i really could do with the money as i buy the kids clothes and food stuff.
Lesson to be learnt, if someone 'gives' you a car- change the V5 log into your name- it can be done online. Then you wont be in the horrible position I had to endure trying to defend myself - why the car belongs to me.

Sorry for the long post.
🍒👋to everyone. Forgive me for lack of personals.

Dancing - that's awful about the car, we joke on here about pitchforks and patios but that is beyond a joke . So sorry to hear about the abusive man too, it happens to far too many girls.

Dancing he’s sounding more and more awful, I’m sorry :(

I’m really sorry about what happened to you as well, and that what I’ve posted about DD1 has brought up some stuff for people. Always at the end of a PM if anyone needs to talk stuff out 💐

Long day, but DD1 actually went into her own bed before midnight 😱 so maybe she will get some decent sleep tonight.

It's very sad and scary at how prevalent that assault is. No one should have to go through that.

Dancing I am so so sorry about your car. That's awful. Offering a hug and a strong handhold. Your DH is being beyond unreasonable.