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October House of Order - Fledglings flying through October 2017

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CotswoldStrife · 30/09/2017 20:59

Order, Order! Do you have a little house of horrors? Welcome to the October Flylady thread where we follow the Flylady method for keeping our houses in order (along with some general chat and support). The monthly focus for October is paper clutter

I'll be posting links to the daily missions, daily focus and the zone cleaning - don't worry about the detailed zone cleaning if you haven't already decluttered, Flylady recommends decluttering first. Join us at any point this month Glitterball

I'll post the first October links tonight!

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HillsBesideTheSea · 30/10/2017 00:05

I am not sure that I have Cotswold

ta da
some of the things
procrastination

Longtime · 30/10/2017 01:03

Tada

Nearly finished dm’s list which today included a flyer for a card sale she is doing in aid of cancer research. She and my df used to make cards together and she has continued. They are beautiful though this photo, taken with my iPad under artificial light, doesn’t do them justice.

October House of Order - Fledglings flying through October 2017
Cagliostro · 30/10/2017 06:54

Aw those are lovely. My ILs make cards too (not as nice though)

Today's mission would take forever! Even worse now as we haven't sorted out where we are keeping baby stuff.

I am always a little disgruntled by Babystep 30. How does that work in February, you would ever get to it. Poor March born people :( :o

I am waffling. Early start today. Need to have a wash once DD1 is ready to hold the baby (can't do without DH helping me yet as so dizzy), get everything together, maybe put a wash on too.

Afreshstartplease · 30/10/2017 07:12

Morning all

Lovely cards longtime

How was little one last night cag?

Ta da

Dryer on to finish off last nights load
Washer on
Did some sums to check we actually have enough money to pay everything this month
Wrote note for school

Dc are back in school today and my living room which is actually two rooms is like a jumble sale so i will actually be following the plan today. Although first i must address the kitchen hell.

We are another non christmas cake loving house. And we only buy ready made desserts too. Lazy i know.

foxessocks · 30/10/2017 07:24

Morning everyone. Rubbish weekend really as sadly my dear grandad passed away, I was with him at the end which I am very glad about. Haven't told dd yet as have no idea how to really...she is only 3.5 but was really frightened when our guinea pig died and still talks about it now. I don't want to freak her out as I'm pretty sure she thinks only animals can die not people Sad sorry this is not a cheery topic for a Monday morning!

My food shopping has been ordered online this week so me and ds are going to have a little stroll in town once dd is at nursery before I get started on Mondays huge to do list.

HillsBesideTheSea · 30/10/2017 07:39

Not a cheery subject no but life happens. Not sure what explanation you gave dd about the guinea pig but can grandad be looking after it? Kids can process death ok even at such a young age but sometimes it takes a lot of gentle talk for them to grasp such a complex concept. Sorry for your loss foxes. Sad

Cag you on a iron suppliment? Aneamia is what springs out of your post as a possibility. Hope the dizziness subsides.

So there might have been a bit of an alarm clock failure this morning. One which involved the alarm clock going off an hour too early. Was late to bed because of a failure to wash pe kit during half term that is needed for this morning. I have the tireds and i predict the grumps too. Everything hurts.

To do
the stuff from yesterday's to do list that didn't get done
The stuff on today's to do list
not sit in the corner and give up.

Afreshstartplease · 30/10/2017 08:07

My dc lost a grandparent when they were 1, 4 and 5. The one year old was obviously unaware. The four year old wasnt really affected and in fact forgot on several occasions. Eldest was upset but is a more sensitive child on the whole. Obviously all dc are different but my three now 4, 8 and 9 are all able to talk about the death and share memories. Even the younger one who doesnt remember has gained memories from photographs and stories she has heard.

Flowers for you foxes

TooStressyForMyOwnGood · 30/10/2017 09:02

Flowers foxes. I wrote a long rambling post then deleted it as don’t want to sound patronising. I am by no means an expert but have some experience in talking to children about death and can pm you with some resources if you like. No worries if not.

TooStressyForMyOwnGood · 30/10/2017 09:05

Agree with Hill’s and Afresh’s posts too.

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CotswoldStrife · 30/10/2017 09:36

Sorry for your loss Stressy. I lost my mum when DD was a similar age, she'd spent a bit of time in hospital and DD seemed to think she was still there and we'd not been to see her for a bit Sad

Hills, the cartoon I was thinking of was 'clean all the things' (I've used both versions of it!) and is in the link if you scroll down the page. It does have some strong language in so just a warning. The internet bit is spot on for me too Blush

hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.co.uk/2010/06/this-is-why-ill-never-be-adult.html

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foxessocks · 30/10/2017 09:38

Yes please toostressy I have no clue what I'm doing!

Thanks everyone. Still haven't mentioned it to her because I didn't want her to go to nursery upset. Need to say something before she visits my mum this week as my grandad lived there so she'll wonder where he is. She did know he was unwell and in hospital at the weekend but it all happened quite quickly really.

TooStressyForMyOwnGood · 30/10/2017 09:48

Ok, need to go out but will pm some stuff later. In a nutshell, honestly is almost always the best policy Flowers

Handygarrottes · 30/10/2017 10:39

I'm so very sorry for your loss Foxes Flowers. May your grandad rest in peace. He was blessed to have you there at the end. x

Can't link on this particular device, but I believe Winston's Wish have some good resources on their website (it's an organization that supports DC affected by the death of a parent or sibling but I am sure advice would be relevant). I have seen it recommended on Mumsnet a couple of times.

Handygarrottes · 30/10/2017 10:42

I've just looked at the website and there is a section about "supporting a bereaved child" in which there is a section about talking about death which may be helpful.

foxessocks · 30/10/2017 12:00

Thanks, I'll take a look. My worry is she will be frightened as out of nowhere recently she has been saying she doesn't want to "get dead" not really sure why just all part of growing up I guess.

I need to get my bum in gear today! Lots of dithering and eating chocolate biscuits. ..

Ta da
A big aldi stock up shop
Started daily routine
Changed downstairs towels / tea towels
Put bin out

To do
Finish daily routine
Hoover and mop
Dusting
Change ds bed sheets
Swish and swipe bathroom
Change towels
Empty bins
Declutter living room
Living room mission

Handygarrottes · 30/10/2017 12:14

That's a very understandable fear Foxes when your DD is so young. Hopefully though she will take her lead from you, and if you are open and matter of fact about it (I'm sorry, I'm not sure that is the right phrase in the circumstances and I don't mean to cause offence but can't think of a better one right now) then she will feel reassured. All of this is far from easy when you are grieving yourself though Flowers

foxessocks · 30/10/2017 12:22

That's fine, to be honest, this is probably an "easier" death to explain so we are fortunate in that way - he had reached a good age (95!). He had dementia for ten years which was awful but my dd was obviously not aware of that - to her that was just the way he was, she didn't know any different. For us, the sadness was that he just hasn't been the same person, he was such a clever, kind, generous man and unfortunately the last ten years he just wasn't the same person anymore. But my dd only needs the facts - he was old, he was poorly, he passed away, I hope I can explain it to her matter of factly but as you can see I do have a tendancy to waffle!

Have done a little bit of my list finally - plodding along (it's a ploddy kind of day I think)

Handygarrottes · 30/10/2017 12:22

Oh dear, what I meant to say (badly) was that the concept of death is far from "matter of fact" but as Hills said, if you present it to DC as a "normal" part of life (albeit a very very sad one) then it is accepted more easily by DC I think. Sorry for clumsy wording, sadly had rather too much experience of this in recent yrs, so just wanted to try and get across what helped us a bit here.

foxessocks · 30/10/2017 12:23

Cag I hope you're doing okay and the dizziness is easing, take it easy!

foxessocks · 30/10/2017 12:25

Thanks, it did make sense, don't worry Flowers

Handygarrottes · 30/10/2017 12:26

X post (from chief waffler here!)

I'm so sorry about your grandfather's dementia, that's such a difficult condition to deal with, for all concerned.

Thinking of you this pm x

Handygarrottes · 30/10/2017 12:32

Thanks Foxes x post again! Sounds like your grandad was a terrific person x

And yes, take it steady Cag. Hope you can ask someone about dizziness.

Cagliostro · 30/10/2017 14:21

So sorry foxes :( Thanks

Trip out accomplished. She mostly slept through it! MW appt was great, she's lost well under the 10%, got plenty of reassurance with feeding etc too. Then picked up a couple of things in the shops and saw lots of old colleagues which was lovely.

TooStressyForMyOwnGood · 30/10/2017 18:04

foxes, have sent long rambling PMs.

Handygarrottes · 30/10/2017 18:04

Glad your first expedition out went well Cag!

Ta da:
animals
s & s
cleared up after visitors (this took a long time)
met up with visitors for afternoon beer
quick supermarket & bank run
laundry x 2