weekend FLYing thread

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Thanks Q i wasn't asking to do any adding up crap at maths anyway lol!
What i was thinking is if you are only 20 then you have got your head well screwed on compared to most 20 yr olds and have all the time in the world to have another baby and save up for that bigger house.
If DS is only 6 months old then maybe wait until he's at least mobile before deciding you really want another straight away as things really do get more challenging when they're todlers.I sometimes wish i'd left a bit more of a gap and there's 17 months between mine.
It could put a strain on you and DH to move in with MIL so soon after marrying and having a baby so many big changes already to adjust to maybe.Do you feel it's more DH'S wishes being considered here?
I'M no expert on anything to do with relationships of course (or anything else for that matter)but i say give it 6 months then see how you feel and discuss it with DH again at that time.Just my twopence worth

Well....long term it's probably going to be a good thing, isn't it? It'll give you a financial boost to buy the house with a garden you want to have in the future. Lots of people are living with ILs and millions more have done in the past. It's a lesson in learning to be considerate and tolerant of others and respecting each other's space and viewpoints. I know you said you are shy but as long as you talk to your MIL and get to know her, I don't really see a problem. If there is enough space for you all and you can adapt to do things her way, then it could be okay for all concerned. I've seen it not work out, having 2 women in the house, because the newcomer would insist on doing things her way and not accept things done the house owner's way, but...... It's your decision. If you move in with the determination to get on as well as you possibly can and smooth the way and that's it's only for a year, then it can work. It has to be your decision, though.

Thanks... we are leaving it (well, not actively trying) for a while anyway. I dont like the idea of ever using contraceptive again. As for moving in with MIL, I do think its all abit rushed and soon... we lived at our parents, DH moved in with me, we moved out together and rented, moved back to our own parents, moved out together and rented again, moved to my mums, had DS, now in our own home... ive never had time to settle anywhere. But, we cant really stay for a while, then go to MILs as we wanted to decorate this place, but it'll be too nice to just let out then. And we need to buy sofas etc., which we will have nowhere to put if we decide in a while to go to MILs. Kinda now or never...

Ivor... thats when I get thrown again! I think "its only a year" etc.

hi,

baby is not going-to-the-doctors ill, just miserable-and-crying ill. He's been asleep in his cot for an hour, so I'm hoping for a better night tonight.

QP - I couldn't live with MIL, but dps brother, his wife, and their two kids do. They have always got on very well, though. How would you work things like cooking meals, and child care?
I had nother friend who did it and spent her days wandering the streets to avoid being home alone with the mil as she interfered with how they looked after their kids...and they got on well before they moved in together.
So, what I'm trying to say is if you have any doubts, don't do it.

Oh, and I have a 15 month gap between my first twobecause I thought what you did re bf and no periods (wasn't really a problem for us, as I knew I didn't want dd1 to be an only child)

House is better, bed has clean sheets, washing is done (more to do tomorrow), even the kids room is better than it was.

I only ever have the money to tart up existing rooms, but it is effective, and a splash of paint and shiny new taps helps.

well, the practicalities (sp?) are OK... I guess we will share the cooking... mostly me I guess because I have more time etc. Childcare...well... its my DS, so thats sorted im so so unsure... I hate that feeling!

could you go for 2 or 3 weeks for a trial????
Silly idea?

been staying there on and off since mid August - im glad to get home to be honest. I will do Tort, thanks! x

NN any MNers left i've just woken up with my face pressed against keyboard must be more tired than i thought!

Quootiepie - I wouldn't do it! At least not yet - you need to be 100% sure. It doesn't sound like you enjoy spending time at the mil, so could you spend a whole year there?

Morning!

I know what you mean... ill have to chat to DH

Just got up, fed DS, put on water, changed DS, just about to have shower and dress Got a good nights sleep for once... DS only woke up about 3/4 times

Showered, dressed and cleaned bathroom... wahooooooo! Now, FLYers, what colour should I paint the bathroom? DH wanted minty green, but I was going to living room minty gree. Bedroom is going to be pink, DSs nursery is blue, hallway and stairs I though about a soft yellow?, spare bedroom I though soft purple... dont know what colour is left to do bathroom!

green, not green. Oh, and kitchen is going to be powder blue.

green, not gree!

QP - I nice buttermilk yellow would be nice, or maybe an aqua type colour.

As for moving into MILs the only question really is : will your relationship survive the year? If yes then go for it as you'll save a packet and have a better long term future. If the answer is No or Don't know, then steer clear as no amount pf £ is worth a good relationship (assuming its good ) IMHO

Ill have a good long think & talk with DH.

Aqua? hmm... maybe abit modern? Halls are going to be yellow, dont want a clash

Keep them coming!

Morning all. Did my mealplan and shopped yesterday and only spent £49.50 yippee! I was looking at the trolley at the checkout and thinking OMG it's gonna be at least £75!

Quootie, don't move in with your MIL, practise being married a bit first. You need to have such a strong relationship and family unit to go in and compete with a MIL, it's the kind of situation that, as you say, confuses everyone's roles and it might be really hard to start again.
You've got a spare bedroom so even if another baby did appear it would be fine. Garden's are overrated anyway, loads of work and it keeps you fit walking to the nearest park. You need to get this through your dh's head because buying a bigger house is probably his biggest pressure/fear and it will work wonders for your relationship if you can take that off his shoulders. You should both take it easy and enjoy what you've got, learn more about each other in your own home and learn how to make decisions, compromises etc together without interference or factoring someone else into the equation. Hope that doesn't sound too preachy but I really think couples need space, esp in the first couple of years!

how about a peach bathroom?

Bucket, thanks . gonna show DH that

Shaz.... maybe.... if I can get the right shade. oooooooooh, shall I not be so lazy and hunt the USB wire thingy so I can take before/after pics? my bathroom is great right now! last owners stuck plaster cast fish and dolphins and beads everywhere

Went to tesco last night and spent £80 and nothing to show for it! I hate that I must do a mealplan... although we rotate about 3 different meals. Need new meal ideas

Quootie - yes. We need to see your bathroom!

I think Buckets put the argument for staying put brilliantly.

3rd load of washing is in the machine, but I'm not going to do anything else. Day off today, then start again Monday after I've walked to the next town for the shops.
Must write a list as I keep thinking of things to do while I'm there, but at the moment can't remember them all.

3rd load??? Although, we have a washer dryer and it takes 3 1/2 - 4 1/2 hours a go

Morming,
Hi Q sounds like you've got plenty of nice colours picked out. I was the same with my bathroom and in the end decided on plain old white like in spas with mirrored accessories .To make it more interesting i papered though it's got pebble shapes embossed on it .
If you like the less modern approach crown do some period colours based on old fashioned paints ,another company that do lovely colours is Farrow and Ball.
If DH likes mint what about a toned down version of it apple white that sort of thing.I think lighting plays a big part in how relaxing the bathroom feels too.
Any neutral tones will be easy on the eye and relaxing get some colour charts out then tester pot a few A4 pieces of paper to check out colours in different lights e.g morning and evening light on and off etc.
I know a girl who painted her small toilet bright red and it was the most unsettling room i've ever been in.I used to say if hell has a bathroom it'll look like this.(And she was studying interior design at the time)!

Morning all.
I have lots of FLYing that needs doind today!
I have the CAFCASS/childrens guardian coming tomorrow morning. She said she is finishing her report for court this weekend so fingers crossed she will tell me her recommendations and that its good news!! Lots of positive thoughts for me please.

Q You might remember when I did my upstairs loo a pale minty green,its really bright and fresh looking.I love it!
While we are talking paint, My kitchen is Yellow and bathroom is lilac what colour could I do the little area by the backdoor inbetween the two?

Excellent advice there buckets.