Babysteps towards all of BlackCat's chocolate (when she isn't looking!)

[carrotsandcelery]

It seems we are not alone BlackCat I bet all those mums that we think are so confident at the school gates or the toddler groups etc all feel the same.

The washing machine is finally finished so I am going to hang some laundry and do some decluttering etc. I didn't get the on demand thing to work properly so I just let myself have a wee rest and sat and watched it on my lap. I think it has done me good and I am ready for the next round!

Maybe you are right carrots. We always tend to think the grass is greener elsewhere!
Thanks everyone, it's nice to know i'm not the only one who finds socializing hard.

On the "Flying" front today I have:

breakfast
get dressed
sort school stuff
school/nursery run
fed cat
shower
laundry
picked up DD from nursery
lunch
washing up

Off to do a bit more.

blackcat i too hate when all the kids are at school/nursery,though they drive me to the edge sometimes they keep me busy mentally so i dont feel so rubbish(or have time to)
i also strugle with socializing.billy no mates thats me!i like mn cos i can be myself without actually be in person!id have any of you round for muffins
thanks for the pointy sticks
have polished bedroom
sorted 2 boxs clutter in there
cleaned top of all the doors
ironing

I tried phoning the doctors for an appointment but fully booked at the mo. I may have to try again next week.
I have self medicated for my mood and had st johns wort so hopefully that will lift my mood. Will still need to get bloods checked though as I don't know if I still have anaemia.

Sorry if I sound all self indulgent today!

carrots can I ask what is burns night all about? [dim emoticon]

I will have to go in min for school run.

I need to get going for school pick up too.

On Burn's Night we tend to have a party (any excuse) which starts with a meal. We have haggis, neeps (mashed swede) and tatties (the neeps and tatties are mashed). The haggis is usually brought out in its casing (bleurgh) and "addressed" (ie the Burns poem "Address To A Haggis" is read over it to all at table) and then it is sliced open with the fanciest knife you have to hand.

Traditionally you would have a dollop of haggis, one of neeps and one of tatties.
Usually you would have cranachan for dessert (toasted oats, raspberry and cream I think).
Lots of drinking would go on during and after this.
Usually the kids learn Scottish/Burns poetry at school and recite it (there is usually a national competition).
The school were having a Burns lunch but we will have a Burns Supper tonight as well as Dd is on a trip today and dh and I haven't had our haggis yet

I've never had Haggis, what are the veggie ones made from carrots

That's rubbish you couldn't book an appointment black - if you need to get your bloods done you could see a nurse (they might be easier to get an appointment with)

I see my friend once a week when we go for a run, & some other mums at DD1 & DD2s swimming lessons. I hardly ever see my NCT group coz we all work different days. That's my social life!

However I am out tonight with friends I used to work with years ago, and out with DHs friends next weekend! I'd better practice my small talk!

DD2s tea is in the oven and I'm dressed with hair & makeup done a bit (pointless doing too much before bath time!) need to decide what I'm wearing & find a handbag! I'm quite excited about going out, but slightly annoyed that it has messed up my flying! [saddo]

Bessie I didn't tell them what the appointment was for and I was also trying to get it for a certain time of day (to fit in when the DC were at school and nursery). The receptionist said all the appointments had gone. I can't do Friday this week so it will have to wait till next week now. Also our doctors surgery have a silly rule about you have to phone (around 8.00am) the morning you want to see the doctor otherwise the appointments all go.
I know the nurse does blood tests but I might need to see the doctor about other things I have going on at the mo
I need to get my head sorted so I may put "Flying" on the back burner for now.

Hope you all have a good evening.

Ugh, my Grandparents surgery is like that black, seems a bloddy ridiculous way to run appointments to me, and makes me cross that my 90yo grandad is up there at 825 (often standing outside in the rain) waiting for them to open so he can be seen

Will they do telephone consultations?

In other news, I have NOTHING TO WEAR! and I am currently playing garlic roulette with the baby. I just realised I didn't use the crusher, so suspect it got roughly chopped with the onion when I made her tea. She could be in for a shock!!

BlackCat you know yourself better than me but I know that for me, when I am blue and the last thing I want to do is do my flying (Monday afternoon for example when I was miserable) it actually helps me feel better to get up and get going. I sort of pretend everything is fine and normal and the more I do the more fine and normal it all seems. I appreciate it can run much deeper than that but it is worth a try.

What is your dh like? Can you talk to him? Is he good company and supportive?

Dh and I are both struggling just now, just because of the things going on for ds, but once we actually stopped trying to protect each other and actually just talked about it it was a lot easier.

I would phone the surgery tomorrow though and try again to get an appt, even if it means messing about your schedule a bit. It may be better to nip things in the bud and see the doc rather than letting them escalate.

bessie veggie haggis is made from oatmeal, pulses and spices. It is delicious and reasonably healthy too. Best not to talk about the other sort of haggis at this time of day though as people might be eating

I sympathise on the nothing to wear front. I am in a book group and try to make a bit of an effort for it as it is rare for me to go out in the evenings. I have realised that I basically have two tunic tops to rotate for them and that is it. I hope you have found something and that you don't get garlic mush spat all over your nice hair and make up.

blackcat i hope you are managing ok..look after yourself by eating well,trying to sleep regular hours and keep posting as keeping in contact eith people is very important as isolating yourself only makes thing worse.x
if i get a chance will pop back later.got dp here at the mo

The psychologist phoned back and it seems that if ds sleepwalks to my bed and I wake up and find him there I have to wake him up and return him to his bed. Yikes!

BlackCat this might help a bit

Oh dear, I have a terrible urge to buy DVD box sets now! Black Books, Coupling, Spaced, Big Train, Father Ted, as well as every live show by Bill Bailey & Eddie Izzard!

Must... Resist.. Buying... Comedy... Clutter!

We have Spaced and one of my friends is an actor in it. I had better not say any more as I will out myself.

Father Ted is brilliant and always good for a pick me up. Can you watch any of them online bessie? or rent them for a trip down memory lane? Love Film rent out series as we often do that.

It is quite appropriate too considering how much we all enjoy.

Turns out MrScout is going to have a last minute late night. I'm going to make dinner and make him a plate so I can clear up all of the dishes/pots/pans "early." Might do some more flying (decluttering) since he's going to be late. Then again might just surf the web.

Sometimes I struggle with socializing -- depends on the situation. I find toddler groups hard work as I try not to be competitive parent/POB and so many mums I encounter want to compare children. Groups in my town are hard for so many reasons (everyone's so much younger than me, everyone was born/raised here so knows each other or knows someone who knows them, etc). I force myself to go to groups, though, so TS can interact with other children (he's going to be an only) and groups have cooler toys than home.

There's clearly backstory but I won't pry and just say I hope you're feeling more yourself soon. And yes, I agree, even if you feel rubbish just posting here keeps you connected and not so alone.

bessie Enjoy your evening out.

carrots I've never had anything from the meal you're having.

Scout surely you have had tatties? (potatoes)

I have the opposite problem in my village Scout. I am more or less local but most people here have moved here with their dh's job (oil). I face a bit of prejudice because there is a bit of an assumption that a Scottish accent means you are a bit less worthwhile. Not everyone is like that of course but there is an element.

Dh has been told at interviews that, "there is no prejudice due to accent here." He had never thought that there would be and he is very softly spoken and fairly well spoken, although he can turn on his local tongue when he has to.

Oh, big fan of potato. But I thought tatties were like some sort of potato patty with other stuff mixed in?

Evening all

sits next to blackcat, scout, carrots, bessie, diamis and liveinazoo hands out [brews] and [biscuits] (egg-free). I find it really difficult to start up conversations at mother and toddler groups too. Doesn't make it easier that we keep on moving around so I'm always the newbie and everyone else seems to know everyone else already. I much prefer going to groups where you have to do something eg a music group.

I'm shattered after a long day at work so am sitting with my feet up waiting for my chips, fish fingers and peas to cook. And joy of joys, I've just found a bottle of malt vinegar in the back of cupboard for the chips

so, ta-dahs:
survived the day
filled up the salt cellar

to-dos:
make it into bed by a reasonable time.

Might have a fighting chance of getting my list done!

carrotsandcelery sending peaceful dreamy vibes your way x

Hi all, just wanted to post so you know I'm o.k. I haven't been able to get near the computer all evening. Sometimes DH plays games on here then the DC want cbeebies etc.

I haven't read ^up there yet so will try to in a minute. Am also waiting for DD to settle to sleep.

Scout "tatties" is just a Scottish word for potato. I think some areas of England call them tatties too. It is just plain old potato though

I have been on the phone for what feels like ages sorting out some school activities so I haven't been involved in ds's bedtime routine tonight.

I suppose I should give dh a break since he is doing that and sort the dishes and make

I did declutter my cookery books and another layer of shelves of craft stuff. I do wonder why I put rubbish away rather than chucking it at the time

I don't need to make the flap jacks anymore so that is one item off the list. Yay!

Gutted - when did the burns smileys turn up??

[bsmile]

Well I feel a bit stupid now.