Babysteps towards all of BlackCat's chocolate (when she isn't looking!)

[carrotsandcelery]

popped in teatime and wretched gremlins ate a massive post
i slopped to town in the rain as got soaked on the school run.whilst payjing bills acquired a night lite to plug in girls room,a blackboard for the kitchen as im tired post its and some chrome suckered baskets for the tiles in the bathroom to store toiletries in.all put to use when i got back and also hung pisctures on the stiars of the kids id been meaning to do since forever!
carrots well done for last night!its tough when they cry out for you and you did brilliantly and were rewarded well
gold stars to all the under bed cleaners
star of the day to scout for attacking clutter with such vigour!
dlamis my dd2 wore nappies til was 4 in daytime and wasnt dry at night til nearly 6.it comes when its ready not before!
cairn and bessie my eldest dd anaphylactic with peanuts and sesame seeds...adrenaline pens and everything.thankfully her lips tingle if she pts somethign suspect to them so uses this as a test for safety ....she recently moved in with her dad as he lives by her 6th form (35mins walk away).he has no other kids or a partner.she recently went to cambridge with friends and had thai .glad i didnt know about it til after the event!

Thanks for the carrots Hope all goes well tonight with DS.
I am just waiting for DD to settle. We usually let DS read for a bit before he goes to sleep.

Thanks for the good wishes everyone. Dh came home just before bedtime so he put him to bed and so far he is quiet. fx. It annoyed him today that he couldn't watch tv or go on the laptop because he had got up so hopefully he will soon get the message. We can't move on to any further treatment until he cracks the sleep problem as they don't know what is symptoms of his sleep issues and what is something else until the sleep issues are eradicated

To do - now Ta Das!
Unload and reload dw and put it on - check
Worktops - check
Put wash on - check
Sweep kitchen floor as dd has got it covered in dry mud - check
Swish and Swipe - really handy routine - only main bathroom so far
Package loads of ebay parcels and post - check
Go out with friend - check
Declutter - check - loads of bags and bits of shopping etc

Still to do
Mission
Room Rescue
2 x Hot Spots
Hang washing
Ironing...

I have made tea and also more falafel for dd to have in her packed lunch this week. I have also been up into the loft for a lamp for ds and hung an enormous amount of outdoor gear to dry for dd.

I am having a and a few choc digestives for now. I am planning to go to bed fairly early so that I am not so wrecked by ds disturbing me if he kicks off tonight.

carrotsandcelery can you just do what really needs doing tonight and give yourself a bit of a break? It sounds as though you could do with a bit of a rest as well, particularly if sleep is not guaranteed! Sounds as though your DS has done really well so far tonight so well done to him!

I'm just going to sort out clothes for me for tomorrow then get into bed and try and do a bit more of DS's sampler - I will get it finished before DC2 arrives. Stomach is very active tonight for some reason and have just had a real craving for milk, so a pint of milk later I'm feeling a little better :) Guess we're working on strengthening bones or something at the moment!

Dh is doing some ironing and I am sitting here watching him work Don't worry cairnterrier I am not going to do my to do list tonight. I don't sleep if I do too much in the evening.

I loved the squirmy tummy. I can remember lying in the bath with ds in my tum and dd (only 3 at the time) playing on the floor in the bathroom "keeping me company" and freaking out when my tum began to squirm. Once she knew what it was she loved it. Ds was a VERY active baby. I should have known

After getting all relaxed & supple at my spa thing on Sunday, I have now done something to my back while holding DD2 this afternoon, so I'm having some medicinal chocolate before going to bed with some ibruprofen!

Hope tonight goes well carrots

Ouchy bessie. I hope it sorts itself out overnight. So far so good with ds here. fx. Just trying to summon the motivation to get myself to bed.

Good night with the Seniors tonight. I will miss them when I go on sabbatical at the end of the school year.

MrScout put the recycling bin out to the curb and seems to have peered in it. Accused me of putting an "important letter I was waiting for and hadn't seen" in it. I've seen the envelope in question -- it's been floating around my living room for weeks (and it certainly wasn't in the mail hotspot which is where I put all new post that needs to be reviewed!) and buried underneath empty envelopes, a newspaper and one of Toddler's lighter-weight jackets. Yes, I put it in the bin but he didn't take care of it so I thought it rubbish!

However, I will not be stopped!

There are still jobs to do but I think I might just go to bed instead.

scout thats it girl.carry on regardless!
having put a plug in nite light in the girls room(rather than leaving the door ajar as we leave the landing light on for toilet trips in the night) i am pleased to report 1st riser was 5.45....a positive lay in!
dd2 has just surfaced (yes its 7am)
as they are all afraid of the dark i feel another trip to the 99p shop coming on for the landing and ds room and i may make 6am
carrots hope lastg night went ok

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Morning all!

Scout I think you need to invest in a box or basket and just put all of dh's stuff in it. Then it is out of your way and he can't complain about you moving it. I did it with dh and he has slowly started to take responsibility for it - as I said, he actually decluttered it at the weekend. I don't mention it at all, I just let it fester gather beside his bed and leave him to it. He is 39 afterall!

zoo that is a brilliant leap. Hurrah! Surely they don't use too much energy as well which is also a bonus. We are supposed to get better quality sleep the darker our sleeping area is. Ds slept with the full light on the other night but I looked out a lamp that has 3 levels of brightness for him last night so it can be bright when he first goes to bed and I can turn it down when I check on him before I go to bed (Asda £10 several years ago - they might be on ebay now).

ds settled quickly last night. He got up at 10.30 and was promptly returned to bed and again at 10.35 and returned again and then he just settled. Hurrah!. Unfortunately I woke up at 3am and found him snuggled up beside me. I have just phoned the psychologist as I wasn't sure if I should have moved him upstairs or not as he was fast asleep. When he did wake up he had no idea how he got there and I noticed he didn't have his glasses downstairs. I usually know when he is sleep walking and talking because he appears with no glasses. He is upset that he won't get lap top or tv but he had blown it at 10.30 anyway so it doesn't matter today, but I don't know for the future.

I am pretty tired today but I plan to work my way steadily through quite a list of jobs today. I will stop for a or glass of water quite often though as I find I get more done that way when I am struggling.

A testimonial might actually work for me today

Ta Das:
washed and dressed to shoes
lunches done
breakfasts done
dcs to school
kitchen 5 min room rescue (much more needed)
dishes in soak (weetabix!)

Morning all, Feeling blue today but I don't really know why.
Have stopped for a and am taking thing slow today.

Is there any music that could lift your mood BlackCat or a clip of some comedy on Youtube? Maybe being busy would help or having a wee nap might help. Have you any brazil nuts in? (((hugs))) anyway and have a and curl up.

I have unloaded and reloaded the dw, made ginger and apple muffins as well as banana and oat muffins. I am about to start on HAGGIS for tea as it is Burns Night tonight (veggie haggis of course) and then to make flap jacks (the healthier ones). Then I will move on to the rest of the house.

What is everyone else up to?

hugs and chocolate for blackcat
for some reason more sleep has left me even more tired ..i could do with a good jab from a pointy poking stick!
tada list
2 loads washing
made beds
s n s bathroom
washed up breakfast things

am now sit here trying to get going and failing miserably
i have turned an old skirt with an african giraffe pattern on it into a cushion for dd3 though (shes giraffe mad)
will pop back 1ish and hope for some motivation to get off my arse and fly properly!

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Pointy stick for zoo

Thanks carrots and zoo. I have picked up DD from nursery now so she has cheered me up a little. I think I need to get used to being alone in the mornings.
I know that sounds pathetic but I've had DD around for the last 3 years and before that (Apart from 2 months) DS was home a lot of the time.
This will be her first full week at nursery.
I am quite surprised at how hard I am finding this. Maybe I'm just not feeling quite right and this is tipping me that bit further IYSWIM.

Anyway I will soldier on. Am going to have lunch now and another .

cairn ds2 was about 3 when he was 'clear' at the allergy testing clinic at the hospital. I don't know about ds1 as once ds2 came along and we knew he was allergic too we just 'banned' eggs completely. Once we knew ds2 was ok we tested ds1 ourselves, (he never got refered to hospital despite his first reaction sending me running to the doctors :confused:), ds2's only got referred as he was already seeing the dietician for slow weight gain and I happened to mention it one day . From what i've heard most children grow out of it by the time they're 5-6.

zoo thanks I needed someone to tell me that again:o Must stop trying to rush things. They both wanted to wear nappies last night so I let them, no washing for me today hurray. Ds1 said he wanted to wait until summer (that's when I told them we would start doing it) - suits me :)

Blackcat , a and a choccie biccie from me

carrots It's sounds like you are starting to make progress with the sleep.

TaDa
Washing up done, sink shined, dishwasher done
Ironing done
15 minute declutter
Ds2's trousers repaired. like this link I have just made an even better monster face repair on his knee and he thinks it's great. He wants to show everyone right NOW!

To do
Mission
Don't know if i can be bothered to do anymore, having a lazy day

Poor Black, it'll be an adjustment.

Brandishes pointy stick in zoo's direction.

My Ta Da's:
some Guiding emails
breakfast dishes done
more decluttering/flinging from living room (filled up large paper carrier with recycling, added some to the file bag and nearly filled yesterday's emptied box with things for the jumble sale)

To Do:
more Guiding emails
empty bathroom bins (bin and diaper pail); take to outside bins
some computer work (saving pictures, updating spreadsheets, etc)
town for errands
organize some of the toys and MrScout's power cords/electric-y bits I've unearthered today

Since TS and I didn't make Tots this morning we're going to go to Creative/Messy Play this afternoon. He's been loving the extra space -- he's spread out his train set and is happy as a pig in mud. It's still nice to go somewhere else and play with different toys (and gives me a chance to talk to other adults for a few minutes during the day).

The monster patch is fab cairn. Ds has a pair of jeans that have split right across the kneee. I was going to cut them into summer shorts but if they are still long enough I might have a go at this. Infact, if they are short I could cut them off as 3/4s and then do this to the knee as they are too wrecked to ebay.

Haggis is ready to cook in the oven tonight, muffins are all on the cooling rack, my bed and dh's bed are made (still separate rooms until ds is sorted out ) and I am waiting for the washing to finish to hang it. I am going to watch 15 kids and counting and do some ironing hopefully, if I can get the website to work as I would like it to.

BlackCat I know exactly what you mean. It is very strange to be alone after so long. When ds started school I have been at home with a child for 8 years I think.

I keep the radio on a lot of the time and the year ds started school we got the dog (not for that reason but it does help).

Do you tend to have the radio on? I find it better than a CD as it brings a bit of what is going on in the world into the house - there is a bit of chat, a bit of music etc.

Have you met any other parents dropping off their dcs at nursery? You could invite someone for a coffee. The worst that can happen is that they say no and you never know, they might be really glad of some company.

Maybe that's where I went wrong today. I had no telly on. I usually always have the telly on even if I'm not really watching it. It was too quiet!

I'm not very good at the whole making friends/socializing thing. I have a bit of social anxiety so I don't really talk to many people. It's not that I don't want friends it's more a case of not knowing what to say without sounding like an idiot. I do alright on MN because it's different to actually being with people.

I have had phases of social anxiety too BlackCat. I had worked really hard at it and more or less overcome it but I went back to square one when all the problems with ds first started up, especially because it began with parental bullying from people I thought were my friends. It can be really, really difficult.

I tend to have a mental stock of questions I could ask people or I compliment their jacket or handbag or whatever if I like it. I find it very hard to do but I have realised that most people are really pleased someone spoke to them and are feeling much the same themselves. Only someone who is an idiot themselves would think you were an idiot for trying to make chit chat and who cares what an idiot thinks?

It is much easier on here as you get time to think about what you are going to say and to edit it to an extent, but people's personalities still come through and I, for one, would love to come and have a with you

That's nice carrots Thanks.

Just popping in to say hi, (glad you had a reasonable night carrots) DD2 & I have been swimming this morning, had lunch then I had a shower while she attempted to move around the floor (still no crawling - lazy baby!) as I'm going out tonight straight after the kids go to bed so I need to get a bit ready now. I am very tempted to have a nap though!

I'm not very good at socialising either Black, and hate doing small talk - i have to do this loads at work (in the lift, at the tea point etc) but I have a rule that I have to try to talk to someone at every baby/toddler thing I go to! Even if it's something crappy about the weather!

I'd better get a move on, need to do some washing up & prep DD2s tea as well as doing my hair.

Right, I better try and do some work so will catch up with you all a bit later.

I'm rubbish at socialising and smalltalk too. I could quite happily stay at home for days at see no one other than dh and the dc's.