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Non student in DDs halls!

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kittybiscuits · 04/09/2016 10:22

My DD has a place in halls and is moving next week. It was supposed to be a 5 person flat, but her new flatmate visited it this weekend and said it is 6 beds and an adult/non student male has already moved in and left a note saying he will be living there for 8 weeks. I'm not happy about this. She applied on the first day you could apply so it's not a last-minute place for her. Has anyone else encountered this? She thinks it sounds great. I don't.

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VeryBitchyRestingFace · 04/09/2016 10:54

I sincerely hope that they don't just allow 50 year old paedophiles to book a room with a flat full of 18 year olds.

Hmm Hmm Hmm

What would a "50 year old paedophile" want with fully grown 18 year old women?

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kittybiscuits · 04/09/2016 10:55

The uni knows he's there. He is not a lecturer, post doc etc. He has no connection with the uni. I'm guessing they have just rented out the room as it was unexpectedly free.

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Trifleorbust · 04/09/2016 10:55

I don't get how he has secured university accommodation if he isn't a university student. Is he on some sort of training programme offered by the uni?

Anyway, surely what matters here is whether your DD is happy and comfortable.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 04/09/2016 10:55

Oh, what a load of nonsense.

elQuintoConyo · 04/09/2016 10:56

A 50 year old male living with 18 year olds does not a pedophile make.

Is your dd your PFB?

Please, contact the university and post their reply here.

GeneralBobbit · 04/09/2016 10:56

Why would a 50 year old be a paedophile?

Why do you not understand a paedophile is someone sexually interested in pre-pubescent boys and girls?

Is your daughter suffering from very delayed puberty?

carabos · 04/09/2016 10:56

So a younger paedophile who was a student would be ok then OP? Hmm

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 04/09/2016 10:56

Woah - 50 year old paedophile?

I think the chances of a paedophile being interested in 18 year olds is remarkably slim; by definition they are a risk to under 13s, not young adults.

If it's an actual university hall and not a student let or private halls, your daughter and her flat mates can go and speak to the accommodation department if they are unhappy. I presume this is why they've been given notice that he'll be there.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 04/09/2016 10:56

My son and his mates got a flat in a small private student hall, through the student accommodation office and advertised online as student accommodation (I checked). There were a number of non student working (not in academia) people living there (probably because it was relatively cheap and nice (£70 a week all in).

Okay, to be honest, and a bit snobby, some of them were a bit rough, possibly one step up from a hostel. And there was a lot of conflict over noisy messy students, people working shifts, that kind of thing. My DS is pretty robust and was not fazed, but a young girl might have been.

Marcipex · 04/09/2016 10:57

DS had this in his student house, an older male non-student living there.
The girls there didn't like it and complained that he was constantly watching them. They continually asked DS and the other male student to stay in the communal areas with them, because they were creeped out.

It became rather a nuisance for DS having to always be in the kitchen or living room to keep the girls happy. Yet they felt they had no legitimate complaint......he was only watching them, not touching them...

Trifleorbust · 04/09/2016 10:57

I think it's fairly clear the OP is worried the man is a pervert. Her daughter doesn't have to be a child to be vulnerable. Yes, she is a adult and it is up to her at the end of the day, but it's not ridiculous to be concerned about a university placing fresher students in accommodation with private renters from outside the university. Halls are meant to be an in-between home and totally independent living accommodation option, with other tenants who have been selected on the basis of common age groupings etc.

insancerre · 04/09/2016 10:58

Op, are you finding it hard excepting your dd is now an adult and is going to uni?

Paedophiles are sexually interested in children. 18 year olds are not children

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 04/09/2016 10:58

Is your daughter suffering from very delayed puberty?

Or a maths genius 10 year old on accelerated entry.

If she's ten, OP, I don't think she should be in residence. Best you send her into uni everyday on the bus.

wobblywonderwoman · 04/09/2016 10:59

Accusing someone of being a paedophile is really dangerous and unkind.

You are being ridiculous

Creatureofthenight · 04/09/2016 10:59

I've no idea how someone unconnected with uni could get a room in halls, especially since halls are often oversubscribed.
How old is this guy?
If your DD is not happy (which doesn't seem to be the case?) she could ask uni to transfer to another flat /hall.

FoxSticks · 04/09/2016 10:59

Hmm paedophile?

bigTillyMint · 04/09/2016 11:00

Is he even 50, or were you just making assumptions, OP?

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kittybiscuits · 04/09/2016 11:01

It's not funny to me but great that it's giving some of you such a laugh. I am very well aware what a paedophile is. I used the term as short-hand. I really don't think it would be appropriate for some random bloke to book himself in to a halls. I can easily see how this situation could be exploited by people who want to prey on teenagers, because though they are adults, they are still teenagers and not used to independent living, at least in my daughter's case.

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LordRothermereBlackshirtCunt · 04/09/2016 11:02

Why has your mind jumped immediately to this guy being a paedophile? Perhaps you could provide us with a bit more detail seeing as you mentioned the note said what he is doing in the area, as this is starting to feel like a bit if a drip feed. Being 50 has nothing to do with things anyway - not all students are 18, and there will be older students, even in their 50s, in halls.

pieceofpurplesky · 04/09/2016 11:02

Maybe the 8 weeks will be up as soon as your daughter arrives. My university used to rent out the rooms over summer and sometimes there were hangers on for a couple of weeks - often visiting lecturers/researchers from abroad

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kittybiscuits · 04/09/2016 11:02

I don't know how old he is and no one has met him yet. I am sure we will wait and find out more. I am concerned on principle though.

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BlancheBlue · 04/09/2016 11:03

"50 yr old paedophiles" Hmm

Daily mail reader are we OP? Any random guy is a paedophile?

Lorelei76 · 04/09/2016 11:03

also if you are worried about a 50 year old hitting on your daughter - she's going to go to pubs, go to lectures and in future she'll have a job.

Trills · 04/09/2016 11:04

Renting out spare rooms in student accommodation is normal.

Assuming that a person who makes use of this accommodation might be a paedophile is not normal.

I agree with LRD.

JenLindleyShitMom · 04/09/2016 11:04

I think it's fairly clear the OP is worried the man is a pervert. Her daughter doesn't have to be a child to be vulnerable.

If she is vulnerable then she is vulnerable whether this man is present or not. There are other men at university, just because they are other students does not mean she isn't at risk from them.