Preparing for Uni in 2015 continues...

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Quietlly I would also be tempted to visit if not too far. Take her out to lunch / coffee to give her a boost, or take cake to share as already suggested.

Quietly I too would be tempted to visit, it might make all the difference to how she feels if it's not too far.

We are considering visiting DS next weekend (2 hour journey) so that our other DC can see where he lives, they couldn't come with us last week as there wasn't room in the car. He struggles with making friends too and a few times this week I know he was in his room alone while the flatmates were out or in the flat next door but last night he said they all stayed in together. He has actually been quite forward for him and joined some societies at the Union so I'm hoping this will help him meet as many people as possible.

I would also say go Quietly. Or encourage her to come home at weekends if it helps. As a forriner I find the whole sending your child to the other end of the country thing hard to get used to anyway. Where I come from, most ho to their local uni unless the course they want isn't available. I went home almost every weekend (I had a part time job I didn't want to give up) and it didn't stop me making new friends etc

I would visit if you can. I've just spoken to dd and she was a bit tearful for the first time. The reading is mounting up and she was feeling a bit overwhelmed. We had a long chat and made a to do list. She definitely wants us to visit tomorrow. I want to take her out for lunch, all she had eaten by 6pm today was a bowl of cereal and a yoghurt. We'll take over a few bits she's asked for and try to find somewhere that does a nice Sunday lunch, no pizza or pasta. I'm sure it will get better when the timetable starts next week.

THANK YOU EVERYONE - I have messaged her asking if she wanted a visit but she has a lot of reading to do and is coming home on Thursday so says she will be ok xxx

Quietly another one here saying go.

DS not sure what they are doing this weekend. He said they are all very tired...apparently they have had too many late nights!

I asked if he wanted me to do a click and collect order of alcohol for him (after all they live above a a Tesco Extra, so easy to pop down and pick up an order that has been paid for) he told me they have enough alcohol . Oh well it has saved DH some money!

I met up with a friend yesterday for coffee. A friend of hers has a daughter who started ed at Edinburgh a couple of weeks ago. She has come home as she hated it and said she isn't going back.

Shame about your DD's flat mates circular.

beau nice to hear your DS is settling in.

Horse my whatsapp convo's with DS are very much answered with one word.

I hadn't refreshed and didn't see your post Qiietly. Hope your mind has been put at rest now.

Is anyone else's DH shouting at the bloody rugby?

I suspect a lot of them are finding the first weekend away hard. We facetimed dd earlier & she seemed quite subdued - a bit at odds with the "having a great time clubbing every night" vibe we were getting earlier in the week. I think she is very tired & the novelty is wearing off

Cardiff have apparently lost a student - died from taking synthetic marijuana? Please warn your lovely DCs to be careful.

Oh that's awful fanny

Spoke to Ds last night - his ankle is still v sore and he's hideously snotty and has gone through all the lemsip I sent him with. The rampant socialising has calmed down as they're all very tired and lectures have started.

Dh is going to see him this week and take him stuff he's forgotten and leave him stocked up with supplies

PUG dh is watching and shouting here and ds is watching and shouting there, but both supporting opposing sides and sending viber messages to each other.

At least DH has got one thing right beau he forgot to put some more beer in the fridge and the only alcohol in there was a bottle of champers, so that's what we are drinking!

Fanny

Quick update from me. Dd has finally made contact. She has been very busy and "thought she'd messaged me" the other day . Won't have time to talk until Monday or Friday!

Her parcel did arrive (but no comment on or thanks for the contents ). She starts her part time job tomorrow & as it is the same company as dh I'm hoping she gives him some feedback.

She has been out watching the rugby tonight, which she has enjoyed (being Welsh!)

I feel much better, but would like to talk with her to get a better feel for how it's all going.

Oh dear. Dd had her first day at work yesterday...supposed to do 6 hours but did 9 hours with one half hour break as they were short staffed. Theyve told her she wont get paud fir the ladt hour as it was cleaning the shop when it was shut.
Said the assistant manager shouted at her four times and made her cry for being slow. She's had no training on the till .
I've told her fuck that. She doesn't need the money desperately as she has a grant and bursary, and ex h is making up any shortfall.
All her friends went to the beach yesterday and she just felt so miserable.
She's due in today...so is going to do that but then phone on Monday to say she's not coming back.
This is a major coffee chain

Apologies for my fumbly fingers

That's outrageous Savage, especially not paying her for last hour

Savage that's terrible.
Hope there's no problem getting paid for the two days worked.

She was so excited about getting a job...was offered another one but wanted to work here.
I'll see how she feels today.
Her brother has just startedstarted at weekends at a major retailer and the training/ conditions are fantastic. Such a contrast.
Her OCD emerged again..she had to clean the toilets although there was no mention of this at the interview. Poor girl is on medication for it...she'd never have taken the job if that was the spec.

fanny how awful will be googling for news.

savage so disrespectful towards your daughter! Poor girl! My daughter worksfor a restaurant chain and has asked for a transfer - she too won a bursary and also was very sensible snd saved a large amount of her wages and with just a small top up from me and her dad would survive without a job this year! Hope your daughter has a better day today

Oh your poor DD savage

Savage, my sister had a job like this. The boss didn't want to pay her for the first 2 days because they were 'training'. Iirc citizens advice said they can't do that. If your dd was at work, she is entitled to get paid.

I don't think working there will improve though. The boss sounds like a total cow!

Another little text exchange with DS last night, not much information gleaned, but he seems OK

Fanny, that is very sad news.

Savage, am so cross on your DD's behalf, especially knowing how conscientious she was and all her hard work setting up job interviews before she arrived. You must be furious, I know I would be.

Have been catching up on all the news. Savage, so glad your daughter will leave. Have heard of shouty managers at big coffee chains before and expecting extra hours.

My DS seems to be having a nice time. Brief contact - a quick hello back if I text. Has joined in all social activities which is just so pleasing as he is under confident.

He got a place in football team but feels he is not quite good enough so is wondering whether to join - to which we are sending loads of encouragement. Frustrating! He's the boss now, we can't push him. We just want him to include himself in all the fun.

Read with interest, those that want to visit or have visited. We were going to go for a coffee but he is busy - so mixed blessing. We miss him but are so glad we don't need to drive all that way because he is homesick.

I'm sure, as has been said up thread, he'll need us soon enough.

Thank you for your outrage!!
No text from her yet.