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EMPTY NEST SUPPORT THREAD - PART 4

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madeinkent · 29/01/2015 13:15

DD and her friends secured their house yesterday. There are 5 of them, and a new house came on, and they dashed over to see it, and then straight on to the Letting Agents to confirm they wanted to take it. As they were filling out the forms another group came in wanting the same property, and both groups' details were sent to the Landlord who confirmed they'd let it to DD and her friends. Small matter of immediate deposit of £430 plus agent's fee of £180 (per person). She's given our names and details as guarantors, and says it will just be for her room, not for the whole house! Presume we'll get something through the post soon and will need to check it carefully. She's in Catered Halls this year, which she has really been enjoying, but this should be much cheaper even though it still seems quite expensive.

That sounds about right for what DS was doing in the summer last year, he left it until late and then just slotted in with whoever, and it has worked very well for their household. I wasn't surprised they asked him for a retainer, just that he had to do it so early. The whole thing has been interesting to watch.

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Notsoskinnyminny · 10/03/2018 16:49

mumeeee how did the interview go?

DD had her heart set on an internship with an american company based near her japanese uni but needed travel/hotel management experience. She's still working part-time to fund her travels with trips to Denmark, France, Finland, America and Japan lined up between now and October. Part of me's frustrated she's making no attempt to find something related to her degree and the other half's jealous that she's got the confidence to go travelling by herself. Her uni tutor recommended her for a job in London but the pay was £12.50/hour - how the hell can people afford to live there if the rates of pay are no better than here??

mumeeee · 10/03/2018 17:14

Hi Notso. DD3 says she thinks the interview went well. She should hear sometime next week. We went to a jobs fair and she picked up some leads there. She has already applied to 2 of them.
Hope your DD finds something soon. £12.50 an hour isn't actually a bad wage to start with even living in London. It's £5 above minimum wage.
DD2 was a TA in Battersea for a year and she got less than that.

mumeeee · 30/05/2018 11:57

Hi everyone. DD 3 has finally got a graduate scheme job in I T.
She went for an assement day a couple of weeks ago. She found out the next day thst she had got the job.
It's not completely final yet as she has 12 weeks training first. The training is not paid but they provide accommodation with all bills paid.
Its all go here as she tries to get everything packed. Its in Manchester and she starts on 11th June.

mumeeee · 02/06/2018 22:33

Notso how is your DD getting on with her job hunting?

mumeeee · 06/06/2018 23:14

Are any of you oldies still around on here.
As you see from my above message I'm about to become an Empty Nester again after having DD3 home for a year.

oldmillfieldparent · 07/06/2018 19:58

Congratulations to your DD mumeeeee!

Notsoskinnyminny · 08/06/2018 07:11

waves at mumeeee, congratulations to DD you must be so proud and a bit sad that she's on the move again.

DDs still working PT to fund her travels - currently somewhere in France. Part of me admires how she can flit off by herself but she needs to start looking for 'proper' jobs either here or abroad.

When your DD moves I can recommend some lovely cafes and restaurants.

mumeeee · 08/06/2018 22:08

Waves back to Notsoskinny.
We are very proud of DD3 she has worked very hard to get this job. DH and I will both miss her but am pleased for her. I've already shed some tears and she hasn't even gone yet. We will be taking her up to Manchester on Monday.She has to be at the apartments by 10.30 So a very early start for us.
Its good that your DD is confident to travel.
Is she looking at Graduate schemes or other jobs?

mumeeee · 13/06/2018 07:58

Well we left DD3 in Manchester on Monday. She is sharing her flat with 2 other girls.
I shed a few tears when we left her.
This might be the start of her leaving home for good. I know she doesn't want to come back. She actually could be placed anywhere after training.
I have yet to venture into her room

mumeeee · 13/10/2018 12:35

Hi everyone. Thought I would do an update on DD3. The thing in Manchester didn't work out as planned. She did finish her training and was going as a team to a client. However that fell through and she was told they wouldn't be able to keep her on.
So she came home a bit disappointed but the training has helped her in her job hunt.
She has now got a permanent job in Derby
Its a graduate level job in software development with a big firm and her starting salary is good.
She is moving up to Derby tomorrow and is starting on Monday.
So DH and I are going to be Empty nesters again this time permanently ( well for a while anyway).
Notso how is your DD doing has she managed to fine her dream job?

Notsoskinnyminny · 21/10/2018 16:17

That's fantastic news mumeeee. How's she settled in? There's some lovely places in the peak district so I'm sure you'll be able to find lots of excuses to go and see her!

DDs still hopful but she's also started looking at teaching jobs and accommodation in Japan for the new year when their academic year starts.

I can't believe its 5 years since they headed off to uni.

mumeeee · 10/11/2018 23:25

Thanks Notso. She seems to have settled in well although she says it's a lot of boring training at the moment. Going through policies and legal stuff all done by e-learning so mostly self taught.
She did go for a 3 day induction in London.
I helped her find accomadation well went with her to visit the ones she had put on
her short list.
She chose a fairly large house with tenants a mix of ages from 21 to 40.
She is getting well with them and they all went to a firework display together last weekend.
Hope you DD gets her teaching job.
Yes the years have gone fast. A lot of ups and downs on the way but she finally seems to have got there.
Talking about years going by my eldest daughter had her first baby 3 weeks ago. She's been married 9 years.
They live in Switzerland so I haven't met the baby yet. I am flying over tomorrow

mumeeee · 10/02/2019 21:17

Anyone I know still around? How are all your DCs doing?

Notsoskinnyminny · 18/02/2019 19:39

Hello mumeeee, I've not been on here for ages but thought I'd see if anyone had posted.

DDs still travelling here there and everywhere but realised if she went to work abroad she'd come back in a few years and be in the situation she's in now so she decided to start the management scheme after a lot of badgering from her new manager. She seems to be enjoying it and still has the flexibility to travel and visit the people she met on her year abroad. A group of them are meeting in Madrid next month and doing the grand tour of Europe then in September she's off to America with stop offs in New York, Chicago, Orlando, LA and Wisconsin - the last one makes me smile as when we lived in America Wisconsin girls were our Essex girls!

Congratulations on becoming a granny/nana

mumeeee · 21/02/2019 07:44

Thanks Notso. Glad you're DD is doing well.
Our girls have grown up. It seems like yesterday that they went off to uni.

Dunkling · 22/02/2019 09:01

I've just searched for a thread like this 'cos I feel like the softest mum in the world. Mummeeeee you sound about on the same page as me but further on.

I was heartbroken when my middle DS left for uni just over 3 years ago and remember writing on this board. And about 6 months ago I remembered that, and how I was feeling, and it seemed a whole other world away because I had adjusted. We even had him home for a lovely internship year.

NOW, where I had been looking so forward to, the final countdown, exams and dissertation and graduation, and I had expected to be so happy.. it hadn't occurred to me that it doesn't necessarily mean coming home, it means going where the job is. I am once again a pathetic blubbery mess.

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