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EMPTY NEST SUPPORT THREAD - PART 4

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madeinkent · 29/01/2015 13:15

DD and her friends secured their house yesterday. There are 5 of them, and a new house came on, and they dashed over to see it, and then straight on to the Letting Agents to confirm they wanted to take it. As they were filling out the forms another group came in wanting the same property, and both groups' details were sent to the Landlord who confirmed they'd let it to DD and her friends. Small matter of immediate deposit of £430 plus agent's fee of £180 (per person). She's given our names and details as guarantors, and says it will just be for her room, not for the whole house! Presume we'll get something through the post soon and will need to check it carefully. She's in Catered Halls this year, which she has really been enjoying, but this should be much cheaper even though it still seems quite expensive.

That sounds about right for what DS was doing in the summer last year, he left it until late and then just slotted in with whoever, and it has worked very well for their household. I wasn't surprised they asked him for a retainer, just that he had to do it so early. The whole thing has been interesting to watch.

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scaryteacher · 05/06/2017 19:25

Picking ds up after marking meetings in London on Friday. Suit bought in March, plus new shirts and ties; Ede and Ravenscroft order in, tickets booked, hotels organised for graduation ceremony, and he will be trying to order another ticket for my Mum. We had to bring both cars over to UK on holiday to ensure enough space when clearing out his house.

He has promised endless tea whilst I am marking GCSEs, but I expect it will be him rolling out of bed at 1500 for a week after I've taken him tea in bed.

Notsoskinnyminny · 09/06/2017 13:55

Results are in - 2:1 with N2 proficiency (it'd have to be your first language to be N1) so she's over the moon because she thought she'd been over ambitious going into the advanced class and would only get a 2:2. Bubbles are in the fridge for tonight Grin

zizza · 09/06/2017 22:03

Fantastic news - huge congratulations to her x

mumeeee · 11/06/2017 17:42

Congratulations to you DD notso and to you too for all the support you have given her through a lot of hard times. That result is fantastic.
DD3 should get her official results by the end of this week

zizza · 19/06/2017 22:08

Ds got provisional results from his tutor today. Thankfully he passed all his exams and had an overall mark of 68 giving him a 2:1. Thrilled for him as he found it a real challenge to start with but his marks have been getting better and better. There's a vague chance he could get upgraded as he's been on a steep upward curve but he's perfectly happy with his 2:1 and so are we (his sister got a 1st last year - just - and there's always a slight element of competition between them - but very different courses). Dinner booked at lovely restaurant near us for graduation day (uni is only 40 mins away), now just need to get his gift (seen some nice cufflinks) and find the decisions we used for dad last year lol!

mumeeee · 20/06/2017 17:07

Well done to your DS Zizza. You must be very proud of him.
DD3 got her results today. She has a 2:2 which we are all very pleased with.
Those of you who have been on this thread for a long time will know the difficulties and ups and downs she has had.

Notsoskinnyminny · 20/06/2017 17:39

Great news Zizza and mumeeee

mumeeee what do you reckon the next 4 years will have in store for us? I think we deserve a medal for getting through the last 4 and still being relatively sane Grin

mumeeee · 20/06/2017 19:25

I think we do need a medal notso. DD3 was my third and final daughter to go through uni. DD3 is currently applying for lots of jobs. She has an assessment day in Manchester next week.

goinggetstough · 20/06/2017 20:35

mumeeee I have been watching your DD's progress from a far and just wanted to send her and you congratulations! Good luck to her in the future.

mumeeee · 20/06/2017 21:04

Thank you goinggetstough ( a good name).
She has had a lot of set backs and dissapointnents in her life but she is a very dertimined young later and just kept going

zizza · 21/06/2017 19:25

Really pleased for her mumeeee - I have kept up from afar!

I've got one more year (dd doing vet course) then I'll put my feet up and start spending some money on myself lol. Eldest ds went through full-time dance school from year 7 so we've been skint and driving up and down the country for years!

(And as I can't correct my typo in my previous post, I meant I need to find the "decorations" - finding some decisions could be more tricky.)

Doilooklikeatourist · 21/06/2017 21:26

DS has had most of the results and fingers crossed will get a First 😀
He and his Gf have found a flat for September when they're both start the Grad entry jobs
We've booked the hotels and the trains for the graduation , he's booking dinner somewhere
What do I wear !!!!!!!

He and GF will be staying with us for a couple of days in July , as we are all off to see Coldplay !!
WooHoo !

The years have flown by, my DD has one year to go , and it's been interesting and helpful to find out how everyone else has been getting on
Well done to all the students and their mothers 💐

zizza · 28/06/2017 18:40

Ds had an interview earlier this week and they've offered him the job today :-) First full-time job - that makes going to graduation next week even better and he starts after our camping holiday a couple of weeks later. Not a "dream" job (although as he had no idea what he wants to do that would be tricky!) but it'll be great experience (admin role in a big company - helps that it's also walking distance from home) and he's happy as Larry! So pleased for him as I think he was dreading having to keep spending hours every day job searching/applying. Now to discuss rent lol

Notsoskinnyminny · 29/06/2017 18:03

Great news zizza. When DS started work I let him have 6 months before he started paying rent but I had to ask him for it - I'd hoped he'd offer something. My mum was mercenary, rent day was a Friday and I even had to cough up on my wedding day, and I don't want to be like her. I'm banking what he gives me to help when he moves out and I'll do the same with DD.

mumeeee · 29/06/2017 19:31

Well done to your DS Zizza. DD3 had an assessment day for a job in Manchester yesterday. She said she thought the day went well but unfortunately she found out this afternoon she didn't get the job.
She is a bit disappointed but has a few more interviews coming up. Two of them are telephone interviews

zizza · 01/07/2017 09:32

She must be disappointed about the job after getting that far, but good experience that will help her in the future. Good luck for the next few - she's doing well to get interviews!

mumeeee · 01/07/2017 13:18

She is disappointed but we discussed it and she feels a bit better now.
One job has asked her to send some examples of the work she did at university.
She has managed to find the work and has emailed it to them now

sayerville · 04/07/2017 20:11

So three years have gone by....I still miss her and want her back.
I know she will have to come back for a while at least as she doesn't know what she is doing next (another crisis!) but I just wished I could turn the clock back. I feel so very redundant.
I am just being selfish but I really don't like the way of my new life and I still can't get used to it, anyone else feel this way?

Kez100 · 04/07/2017 22:06

DD waiting on her final award. Should know in next few days. She's starting a freelance career, all big stuff!

Graduation tickets booked. We will camp though, so no accommodation as such needed.

Kez100 · 04/07/2017 22:38

Congratulations to everyone's DC on their fabulous results

Notsoskinnyminny · 07/07/2017 07:04

Aww mumeeee it's so competitive out there but the right job will come along.

sayerville I said the same to DH - must get a hobby!

kez enjoy the graduation - DDs registration is 8-9.15 so I'm glad I booked a hotel although but we won't have much time for the leisurely breakfast I was looking forward to and hoping not to bump into her ex best friend and family who are staying there as well - ooh one final drama Grin

Kez100 · 07/07/2017 07:42

Still waiting for final results here!

zizza · 07/07/2017 07:58

sayerville I know what you mean. I don't feel too redundant yet as youngest ds (graduation today) has moved back home and dd has one more year of vet school left so her bedroom's still here. But I do miss doing all the children stuff (mostly involving dancing!!). I've just gone back to an adult tap class and now do more with my dogs (showing and agility) as a hobby, so that helps.

Graduation today is at a very civilized hour (mid afternoon) and not too far away so we'll set off about 1pm. I was up late last night decorating the kitchen with a large banner and balloons (about to have building work done and that's the only bit downstairs that I'm trying to keep clean and tidy)

kez - can't believe you're still waiting for results! Fingers crossed it'll be soon

Kez100 · 07/07/2017 08:14

Well done all your DCs.

Enjoy being the proud parents at all of today's graduations! Exciting times.

Needmoresleep · 07/07/2017 09:53

Congratulations everyone, and enjoy graduation ceremonies.

DS was supposed to get his results 'before midnight' but they did not come through till 0.40am. He got what he needed to carry on with a Masters, and is clearly very pleased. Graduation is next week, and starts at 5.00pm. We would like to take him out to dinner after but have no idea how long it will last. His subject will get their certificates first, but I assume he can't just sneak out.

The bigger question is what we might get him. He has worked very hard and done well and I feel it would be nice to get something to mark the occasion. It doesn't need to be big or expensive. Just something he might value. I would get my daughter a pretty bracelet. But a boy? Ideas welcome!