This doesn't look terribly good, does it?

[Rindercella]

DH took himself to A&E this morning as he is in such pain and although he had a hospital appointment for a scan on Wednesday, he could not bear the pain and discomfort he is in any longer.

For the past 6 weeks he has been suffering from lower back pain which has become increasingly worse and for the last week or so has included pins & needles/jelly like sensation in his legs. Initially the GP said it was a kidney infection and gave him some ABs (the first he has ever taken, at 51 years old!). These had no effect whatsoever, so DH went back to the GP who then diagnosed possible kidney stones and got him booked in for a scan & ultrasound treatment. The GP said that the swelling in the groin area DH had was unrelated and probably just a strain (it didn't hurt DH so he was unconcerned).

The hospital have now admitted DH and have said that it absolutely has nothing to do with his kidneys, but they are concerned by a swelling in his neck and also the swelling in his groin and think it could be a problem with his lymph glands. They are hoping to do an MRI scan in the next few hours, but obviously being a bank holiday this might not happen until tomorrow.

Bloody Google - of course now I am imagining the worst and am worried sick. I guess there's nothing anyone can do or say to reassure me at the moment, but does anyone have any clue what this could be?? I feel so helpless - stuck at home with our two little girls, the youngest of whom has just turned 5 weeks old.

Shit.

[MoChan]

So sorry to hear it; good news that it's not spread anywhere though. Will continue with the good vibes.

[Monty100]

Rindercella

Prayer from here for dh and your strength. I do hope he gets well fast. Will be thinking of you.

Thanks goodness you have support around.

[PixieOnaBallotBox]

Oh, Rinders.

I'm so sorry.

Remember that we're all here for support.

[pureeandpearls]

Rinders- I am so sorry to hear about your DH. I can only echo all the others: send prayers for your strength and DHs vitality. Here if I can do anything xx

[Pingpong]

thinking of you Rinders.

[BCBG]

Sending you all the support I can: just wishing that you were closer so it could translate as useful support....

[QOD]

Thinking of you and your family

[Lilyloo]

So sorry to hear your news fingers crossed treatment will start very soon for your dh.

[MummyElk]

rinders sending you lots of love and good wishes and any sort of prayer tbh, if it works it works right?!
You are doing an amazing job with your two LOs and your DH is strong in so many ways - be strong and use us in whatever way you need us....

[LilRedWG]

Thinking of you. It is one of the more cureable cancers and it's excellent news that it hasn't spread anywhere.

Take care of yourselves. x

[Arcadie]

Ah Rinders.... So sorry to read the crap news. Will send up all sorts of prayers and post more tomorrow. Hugs to your new tiny person

[copycat]

Oh Rinders, so sad to hear this but Weegiemum, shiney, LilRed are right ... your DH is otherwise fit and healthy and I'm sure he has every chance of winning this fight. Make sure you use every offer of help so that you (and your DDs) can be with him as much as possible - you sound a great team By the way did the consultant explain what it was that they initially thought they could see on/near his spine?

I hope that you and your DC are able to get some sleep tonight. Wishing you all lots of strength and praying for health for DH.

[FlookCrow]

It's been diagnosed, now it can be treated. Strong vibes for you and family, we're never given more than we can cope with.

Don't forget to call on mates, family, whoever to get you through this. Keep us updated

[FlipFantasia]

Rinders I'm so sorry to hear of your DH's prostate cancer . As others have said, the fact that it is now diagnosed and can be treated is a good thing. But that doesn't make it any easier to deal with right now, when you've got to be strong for him, and DD2 aynd DD1...

My husband had testicular cancer so I have some insight into the horrible fear and panic of the initial stages. Pushing the c word to the back of your mind and then having to face it and then having to put on a brave face for him and for everyone else. Even people saying that testicular cancer is one of the "good", ie treatable, cancers didn't make it easier. It's terribly hard, so please do come on here and vent whenever you want.

But the treatments available today are so much more effective than even 10 years ago. My own DH had surgery and chemo and is now right as rain (bar the low sperm count which is why we had IVF). The fact that it hasn't spread is excellent and your husband will be treated speedily now.

Am thinking of you and him, and holding you in my thoughts (I guess that means some more non-religous prayers from me ). Very big unMumsnetty hugs for you m'dear.

[KnottyLocks]

Hi, so sorry to hear your news.

My Fil has this. He was diagnosed nearly 10 years ago and is still full of energy, enjoying life to the full today. It is certainly a 'manageable' illness if caught in time.

FIL shows no real signs of slowing down: he plays squash, goes skiing and can drink most blokes half his age under the table! His hangovers are pretty shocking but I suspect that's his age (mid 60s)and the drink combinations rather than his illness.

You really wouldn't know he had an invasive illness to look at him. It is amazing what modern medicine can do.

Sending you and your family masses of postitive thoughts.

[hellymelly]

Rinders-so sorry to hear about your DH-fact it hasn't spread and he is fit both good news though.Really hope he is treated quickly and recovering soon.

[lou031205]

Thinking of you all, Rindercella

[sundew]

Rinders just wanted to add to the MN hugs and best wishes - I'm sure it will al be fine but MN will be here when you need a shoulder to cry on / shout at.

[BelleDeChocolateFluffyBunny]

How stressful for you all. You know what it is now though, it's not spread and he's fit and healthy. There's alot of support on here for you for when you need it, please don't ever feel as if you are alone, I know that we may not be there in person but there's people that will be beside you when you need it and a friendly ear. Stay strong, I don't think we are ever sent more then we can deal with, it can be hard to see it at 1am though. There's always people here for you.

[Sariska]

Rinders, I'm so sorry to hear this news. I can't imagine what you're going through but I am sending all 4 of you lots of love and many, many good wishes. X

[ben10isgr8]

Hi, I just want to add my support and best wishes to you and your family.

I am glad you have a solid support network with you. Remember to take care of yourself during your husbands treatment.

Good luck

[SamanthaFox]

Rinders, I am sorry to hear that it is cancer of any sort - but do you know what, I was so relieved to hear what type! Sorry if that sounds weird, but it's one of the easier ones to treat, as others have said too. I know you will be feeling really scared and worired at the moment but please keep in mind that if DH was going to have any kind of cancer this was the one to have.

I think Andrew Lloyd Webber is getting over it, there are so many other people who have had it and come through, it is very very treatable.

Poor DH and all of you. What a horrid, stressful thing to happen. We are here if you need us x x

[JackBauerIsZonerrific]

Oh sorry to hear that RInders, but as others have said, it has been found, he is healthya dn fit and he is in absolutely the best place.
Look after yourself as well, x

[BudaisintheZONE]

Sorry it is definitely cancer but relieved to hear for all of your sakes that it is a very treatable one and that it hasn't spread. Thank God. Wishing you all well.

And as others have said - when ever you need to vent or moan or whatever - there is always someone here.