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This doesn't look terribly good, does it?

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Rindercella · 03/05/2010 14:20

DH took himself to A&E this morning as he is in such pain and although he had a hospital appointment for a scan on Wednesday, he could not bear the pain and discomfort he is in any longer.

For the past 6 weeks he has been suffering from lower back pain which has become increasingly worse and for the last week or so has included pins & needles/jelly like sensation in his legs. Initially the GP said it was a kidney infection and gave him some ABs (the first he has ever taken, at 51 years old!). These had no effect whatsoever, so DH went back to the GP who then diagnosed possible kidney stones and got him booked in for a scan & ultrasound treatment. The GP said that the swelling in the groin area DH had was unrelated and probably just a strain (it didn't hurt DH so he was unconcerned).

The hospital have now admitted DH and have said that it absolutely has nothing to do with his kidneys, but they are concerned by a swelling in his neck and also the swelling in his groin and think it could be a problem with his lymph glands. They are hoping to do an MRI scan in the next few hours, but obviously being a bank holiday this might not happen until tomorrow.

Bloody Google - of course now I am imagining the worst and am worried sick. I guess there's nothing anyone can do or say to reassure me at the moment, but does anyone have any clue what this could be?? I feel so helpless - stuck at home with our two little girls, the youngest of whom has just turned 5 weeks old.

Shit.

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snowflakesarahandco · 06/05/2010 09:08

oh Rinders so so sorry to hear of your husbands illness, you are clearly doing a wonderful job of caring for you two little girls, and your DH, xxxx hope you are ok too x

take care, lots of love x

Lizzylou · 06/05/2010 09:14

Rinders, sorry about your DH's diagnosis, but have to agree with posters that say how treatable Prostrate cancer is.
Both my Uncle and DH's Uncle have been treated for Prostrate cancer, my Uncle recently (prognosis is good, he is recovering well) and DH's Uncle was about 5/6 years ago (totally fine even though he was a heavy smoker/drinker, though he is a health freak now). It is very treatable.

Wishing him and you well

annamama · 06/05/2010 09:44

Rindercella - hope he gets better very soon, and the chances are great since it hasn't spread and he's fit! Thinking of you... x

LisaD1 · 06/05/2010 09:57

Hi Rinders,

Firstly, I am so sorry to hear your news, it must be a terrible shock for you and your DH.

The good news is he is young and fit and it hasn't spread.

I thought you would like to hear a positive story: My FIL, aged 68 at diagnosis, already in fairly poor health (has had 2 previous strokes and is on all sorts of meds) didn't go to the GP for ages, eventually diagnosed with prostate cancer. He underwent chemo and was given the all clear last year. We celebrated his 70th birthday a few months ago.

My main point is he was an old, unfit man and he beat it. Prostate cancer is one of the most treatable (as far as I know) and the sooner it is caught the better.

Wishing your DH a speedy and full recovery.

tartyhighheels · 06/05/2010 09:59

I wanted you to know there is another family here thinking of you all

PacificDogwood · 06/05/2010 10:04

There is really nothing I can add to what has been said already, Rinders .

Thinking of you and your little girls and wishing you nothing but the best and lots of strength to get through what is likely to be a worrying and stressful time.

xx

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Rindercella · 06/05/2010 11:47

The kindness of family, friends and strangers at a time like this is astounding. Thank you all for your lovely, kind and supportive messages.

I know you are all so right about it being better to be in the prostrate, that it hasn't spread, that he is (relatively) young, that he is fit. One thing also is that he is - and has always been - the most positive people I have ever met. Nothing gets him down.

When I got back from the hospital last night, my lovely friend was here with her husband. Her DH had fixed a leak in our bathroom (water dripping down into the kitchen) and then she fed and bathed DD1 while I dealt with DD2 and spoke to a thousand people on the phone. I have no end of offers of help.

We just need to get through this one day at a time. I'm exhausted, but actually feel stronger than I ever imagined I could be in these circumstances.

Just need to say though FUCKING BASTARD FUCKING CANCER

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OrmRenewed · 06/05/2010 11:48

Keep us posted as often as you can rindercella. We're all thinking of your and your chap.

MmeLindt · 06/05/2010 11:52

Thinking of you Rindercella. I know that prostrate is in the "if you have to get cancer, then this is one of the ones to get" box.

Keep strong, you know we are behind you.

venusonarockbun · 06/05/2010 11:52

Another one here thinking of you all, Rindercella. Also another positive story; my lovely Dad has PC, has been treated and is absolutely fine.

SamanthaFox · 06/05/2010 11:54

Yes please feel free to rant away...through our reassurance, in no way did any of us want to try and diminish what is a very frightening situation, for you and all your family. Cancer is a bastard and it can be terrifying to consider, let alone face, so you are well within your rights to freak out a little!
Sounds as though you have some good support. Please allow us all here to add to that, whenever you need us.
One day at a time is good.
Much love x

MayorNaze · 06/05/2010 11:58

thinking of you and your family Rinders. positive thoughts

OhYouBadBadKitten · 06/05/2010 12:01
Egg · 06/05/2010 12:03

Rinders just wanted to add that I am so sorry to hear of your DH's diagnosis. My dad has just had radiotherapy for prostate cancer and will find out in a couple of months if he has the all clear.

Also to add that my next door neighbour (now 65) had it when he was 51 and had surgery followed by radiotherapy to remove it and has had the all clear for the last 14 years. Fingers crossed for your DH.

Lizzylou · 06/05/2010 12:04

Sorry my post sounded so "clunky", this must be such a massive shock to you and your DH.
I am pleased you have people to support and care for you and your DDs.

It is so unfair, but it is also so treatable (which was what I was trying to put across), thinking of you all and wishing your DH a very speedy recovery.

electra · 06/05/2010 12:10

So sorry to hear this but very, very glad it hasn't spread. Here's to hoping your dh gets the best treatment and thinking of you all xx

moonmother · 06/05/2010 12:15

So sorry that it's this news.

On another positive note, my Dad had this 3 years ago, after having brachytherapy treatment (radioactive seeds inmplanted into his prostrate) he is now fit and well again.

As others have said prostrate cancer is one of the most treatable cancers.

Thinking of you all

cyteen · 06/05/2010 12:50

Rinders, having to be super-quick as I'm rushing about but just wanted to say, like lots of others, that I'm glad you have a diagnosis now and that if it must be cancer, it's a more treatable one that hasn't spread. That is so important.

I was very frightened for your DH when I read your original post because his symptoms sounded just like my brother's initial symptoms - my brother had an incredibly rare and difficult to treat type of bone cancer, and I was praying that your DH wouldn't have the same. Thank goodness he doesn't He's getting good care and so are you - that is brilliant.

Wishing you and yours all the positive vibes in the world

Rockbird · 06/05/2010 12:53

Sorry to hear this

Another positive story though, FIL (mid 60s) had this about 4 years ago and has made a complete recovery.

Fingers crossed for you all x

ShadeofViolet · 06/05/2010 12:54

So sorry to hear your news.

Sending you lots of positive thinking and get well son vibes

lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 06/05/2010 16:35

sorry to hear your news.
Keep strong, use the support that is offered and never be afraid to cry. My husband always says being positive is the hardest parts on some days but it gets you though the worst ones, sometimes you need to fake it to get though the day. Do what you need to do it keep yourself, him and your family strong.
The macmillian nurses are wonderful but you will find a way to manage. Life will change but your find you slip inot a new routine that involved hospitals, test and words like chemo, but you will be ok, i promise
thinking of you x

Lulumaam · 06/05/2010 16:43

just to add my positive vibes to your DH and you at this difficult time, wishing MrRindercella a speedy journey to remission xx

FlipFantasia · 06/05/2010 22:21

Rinders fully agree that cancer is a fucking bastard to face, so glad you can shout that on here! Your friends sound lovely - it's great when people provide practical support. Hope your husband is holding up. Does he have an idea yet of what his treatment will involve?

CarGirl · 06/05/2010 22:25

So sorry to hear news but so encouraged that you've had so much help and support offered.

Thinking of you x

TinyPawz · 06/05/2010 22:37

OMG Rinders....so sorry to hear about your DH.

Hope he has a speedy recovery.

God Bless (if that is your thing)