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Original poster

Please can someone help me. Im in so much pain and I dont know what to do.

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spookycharlotte121 · 19/04/2010 00:02

I have had horrible pains all day..... they feel like periiod pains. As the day has progressed they have been getting worse and worse.

Nurofen isnt touching it. Im totally exhausted by it and just want to sleep. Im sat here crying because I dont know what to do. I took painkillers nearly an hour ago anf they just arent working and I just want to sleep.

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AitchTwoZone · 22/04/2010 09:46

can some of the money be used to send somethign to her bedside this morning, at all? i know they're frowning on flowers, but could a local shop pop round with some smellies, maybe? riv, any idea? i remember when i had my cs with prem dd, getting cards and gifts from mn was a complete SHOCK and really meant the world to me.

Fliight · 22/04/2010 09:49

There are loads of us in Bristol, aren't there - surely one of us could go. She might just appreciate a few magazines or something - they could be left with the nurses if she didn't want a visitor. And maybe some nice drinks or something.

littlelapin · 22/04/2010 09:49

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Clarissimo · 22/04/2010 09:50

Riv will you be going to see her? I'd llike to make her a card but don't know her rl name. Could I post it on to you? O)r can someone let me have her details otherwise? (Riva nd LF both know my identity (as does everyone else as I am the worst namechanger in The Entire World))

toccatanfudge · 22/04/2010 09:50

Flight - do you think it's worth starting a thread calling for Bristol MNers to see if any can go and see her?

Some of them may not have seen this thread?

AitchTwoZone · 22/04/2010 09:51

lapin, i know you are going through your own loss at the moment. sympathies right back at you, i'm sure.

fliight, mags and drinks, yes, and hand cream ime, because that antibac stuff strips the skin right off you.

Clarissimo · 22/04/2010 09:51

and Fllight did I know you were only a few miles away?

Fliight · 22/04/2010 09:53

No, Tocc, I think it should be someone who's already on the thread and knows the story, really. If that makes sense.

Anyway it might be worth checking first whether she DOES want someone to come.

ADuckCalledBill · 22/04/2010 09:53

YY Aitch, I think receiving something while she must be so upset, probably in pain and away from her dc would be lovely. What do you think Lewis?

Fliight · 22/04/2010 09:53

I'm in Kent! Sorry

M44 · 22/04/2010 09:54

am in bristol...what can I do?
about to catch up on thread from last night so hang on...

toccatanfudge · 22/04/2010 09:55

good point - haven't had much coffee yet this morning.

AitchTwoZone · 22/04/2010 09:56

true, but even if she doesn't want to see anyone (which i would personally quite understand btw) it could be left with reception. like i say, i bet you could do a phone order with a nearby smellies shop and they would swing round with it, if riv or someone can think of one. you'd be very persuasive, lewis...

Clarissimo · 22/04/2010 09:57

Ah thate xplains it fllight (not in Bristol but S E Wales lot notoriously shite at ever meeting up LOL)

OsbegaEthewulf · 22/04/2010 09:57

sending spooky all my good thoughts and wishes

AitchTwoZone · 22/04/2010 09:57

oh, and tea tree for the wound and PEPPERMINT OIL, lol. it's not called an essential oil for nothing, let me tell you.

Haliborange · 22/04/2010 10:05

I wonder if Mumsnet could maybe carry a link to the info on the Ectopic Pregnancy Trust website? That way there could at least be some information on the symptoms at all times, in case there is noone about who knows about this subject. Tbh I would also like to see the EPT give some training to HCPs in Charlotte's area. Ectopics can present very strangely but pain, bleeding and a positive pregnancy test are BIG signs. I was also a bit that they did an internal exam on her - I was always told these are a huge no-no with suspected ectopics in case you cause a rupture.

I'm very glad Charlotte is ok. Losing a tube is terrible, but like Aitch I am not a fan of metho (I also had two eps on the same side, followed by a normal pregnancy once that tube had gone). My first ectopic was diagnosed in plenty of time, and so of course was the second one because after the first I merited extra attention. But whenever I hear of people who didn't know they were pregnant or knew they were but thought all was well and then suddenly found out they were pregnant, were in terrible pain, needed surgery, had a tube removed, baby lost all within a really short space of time... I just think it is an awful lot to process.

Katymac, so sad your DH felt like he had done it to you. There are so many risk factors for ectopics, and none of them are anyone's fault at all.

AitchTwoZone · 22/04/2010 10:07

that second one's a killer, isn't it? so sorry it happened to you too, haliborange. yes to the idea of linking to the ept site.

toccatanfudge · 22/04/2010 10:10

M44 - have just had DutchOma on my facebook - think she's about to contact you

sarah293 · 22/04/2010 10:11

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ihearttc · 22/04/2010 10:16

Ive been following Spookycharlottes story as well and Im totally overwhelmed by the amount of support she has had...this really is mumsnet at its absolute best.

When I was first pregnant with DS I had really severe abdo pain but luckily I had an amazing GP who actually thought it was ectopic and sent me straight to hospital to be scanned. It actually turned out to be a huge ovarian cyst. I think every single GP should be made aware of just how dangerous an EP can be so mistakes like this don't happen ever again.

I'll also send you a small donation if thats ok? Could you confirm when you receive it...initials are JH.

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toccatanfudge · 22/04/2010 10:17

M44 - presume you're catching up with this thread - have just found you on FB and sent you a friend request.

Haliborange · 22/04/2010 10:17

Yep, the second was the worst. The first time I was all "phew, at least I survived that", although waiting for my hormone levels to drop I really felt like I was waiting for my baby to die. Not a process I recommend.

Second time was such a kick: disappointment, anger, sadness all at once. I already had a DD, otherwise I would have considered suicide because it felt so hopeless. The hospital staff were fantastic though, especially the nurse who waved me off as I was wheeled into theatre from the EPAU. I said "I hope I don't see you again!" and she said "The next time you see me it will be because you are here with a viable pregnancy." And she was right. The surgeon was fab too, he said without that tube I had a really good shot at a normal pregnancy which was exactly what I needed to hear. It's a shame not everyone gets such good care.

AnnaJ81 · 22/04/2010 10:18

Basildon Hospital would have been right on top of that. If anything they were TOO involved in my pregnancy. That went into over drive when I took a fall at 5 months and had to have a scan I was scared out of my wits but they were really supportive.

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