Please can someone help me. Im in so much pain and I dont know what to do.

[spookycharlotte121]

I have had horrible pains all day..... they feel like periiod pains. As the day has progressed they have been getting worse and worse.

Nurofen isnt touching it. Im totally exhausted by it and just want to sleep. Im sat here crying because I dont know what to do. I took painkillers nearly an hour ago anf they just arent working and I just want to sleep.

I hope it's worked actually - sorry to be a pain but Lewis can you see it? I'm not used to using Paypal except through ebay.
I definitely typed your address in, but the confirmation page says it's sent the payment to my name, which is confusing

This thread's amazing. Sending get well soon vibes to Charlotte.

Will donate what I can.

Lewisfan, sent a small donation. Not a regular poster but I do live in Bristol - although won't be back there until Saturday evening! If you/toccata or spooky need any help let me know. I have a car and can do fetching carrying etc. E-mail is christi dot hopkinson @ hotmail dot co dot uk. Best wishes x

Have been following this from the beginning, but after realising poor Charlotte had lost a tube I went back and read the whole thing in closer detail - it's been like a boxset of 24!!!

I know lots of people have been hugely supportive in giving her advice and cajoling her to go back to A&E etc, and good on them, and there have been plenty of comments referring to MNers generally, and how great they have been throughout this. Well, yes, but I'd just like to big up AITCH specifically here - My God, girl, we are not worthy. You have been truly truly amazing through this - an absolute hero. The speed with which your gut instincts kicked in was like lightening and I'm sure the outcome would have been much worse if you hadn't kept on and on and on, forcing her to confront the fact that she may have been pregnant at all.

Looking back, at the post where she said 'Panic over...I've just come on' most of us would have said 'Poor you, nasty period, get that hot water bottle'. It was only your tenacious, relentless questioning that kept the rest of us on our toes.
I'm in awe of you, really.

I agree that it should be Charlotte's decision about how to proceed with this in terms of complaints procedures but I really do hope that every health professional who dealt with her along the line is made to read this at some point. It should be used in staff training. Very sobering stuff.

Lewis - I've donated but I forgot to put a message (doh!) and tried to stop it halfway through and write a message but don't think it worked. Anyway - initials are SR - could you let me know it got through ok? Ta

Good morning spooky I hope you got some rest and plenty of pain relief on board. I hope your mum and sis can get on the ward soon for visiting.

One of my antenatal board went through this 3-4 weeks ago- there are threads elsewhere with lots of support for you, as well as the amazing people on thus thread.

Thinking of you

Donation sent!

followed this a couple of days ago, now it's up to 900 posts!! Did spooky have an ep??

This whole thread has left me gobsmacked. Aitch in particular deserves an OBE in my opinion. All best to Charlotte. Any news on whether MN will support a campaign?

I hope Spooky is doing well this morning. Fingers, toes and everything crossed for her.

Jeez. Have sent something to you Lewis; hoping for the best for Charlotte. Some extremely disturbing stories on this thread.

Ps Send tiny donation but no idea whether it will get through or how you'll know it's for SC, as I couldn't do a description or owt. Hope it works & well done for looking after her.

Oh Charlotte - I am so sorry for your loss. Take it easy on yourself. x

Firstly, well done everyone for convincing spooky she wasn't being a nuisance.

I had an EP in October last year - I was lucky enough to have it spotted straight away in a scan I had at my EPU because I was bleeding lightly. The scan showed a baby with a strong heartbeat, unfortunately in the wrong place. I went for surgery that afternoon, and had the tube removed.

So, I didn't go through the hell spooky has to be diagnosed. I was, however, not told how surgery had gone until the next morning (I came out of surgery at 6pm). So I had a night lying awake not knowing whether I had one tube or two.

Then when someone finally did speak to me in the morning to discharge me, they showed me a colour photo of what had been removed - ie my baby (without asking or warning me first) and informed me that during surgery my other tube was not checked to see its condition because the probe was "inadvertently removed" before they got a chance to check it.

I had been told when going in to surgery that the other tube would be checked before removing the affected tube, to ensure I would still be able to conceive. I was obviously pretty devastated by the whole process, but much like Aitch has said, too tired to complain properly.

So I agree with others that there are issues throughout the whole process of dealing with EP that need to be tackled.

Also, as others have said this may be a while off, but when spooky is feeling up to looking into the impact of having her tube removed on her fertility, please have her look in the conception board at the thread "one tubers TTC again..." It has been going since October last year, and every single regular poster (including me!) has managed to get pregnant again, with not one of us having any complications so far. I know it's a long road to recovery before this, but I would have found it hugely heartening to read at the time of my tube removal.

And Katymac - your story is horrifying, too. Interestingly, my DH is also Afro-Caribbean. It would never occur to him he had anything to do with it though - his family are "strong"!!

Lewis - Oh I think I see the problem with the payment! I think we may have the have the same first name! The next page says payment sent to

How very confusing!

Lewis, sent a little something.

Spooky - I really hope you are feeling better my love.

oh i do hope spooky's doing okay, it's worrying not having any updates. i remember the 'morning after the day before' feeling very well.

i'm very complimented by the mentions of my name, thanks, but of course it's the sheer numbers of people on MN who make that difference in the end. one voice spookycharlotte would have found easy enough to ignore, but the whole lot of us are pretty hard to miss.

I'll send something when I get paid.

I am so sorry for Charlotte, what a terrible time she has had.

Is there any update on how Charlotte is today?

There have been no updates on FB since the one that she couldn't sleep last night, and no texts.

I did send her a text a few minutes ago though - will update as soon as I hear anything.

Hopefully she is just getting some sleep - I'm amazed she has found the strength to update as much as she has. She sounds very strong.

Poor Charlotte.

Has anyone gone to see her? Is anyone else planning to go?

Gosh,poor SC,she's really been through the mill .

I'm not sure if she will be offered,but I was offered a service and a burial for our loss through EP (we have a special garden in the local crematorium for little souls lost in miscarriage and those stillborn).
It really helped DH and I to go through the 'proper' grieving process as my EP and subsequent surgery really shook us both up (understatement).

Unsure if SC would want a burial/service,but if she's having to keep this all to herself ,she may benefit from it.

I bloody well hope she's been asked of what she would like,whatever her decision.

Sorry for your loss Sc X

if I lived closer I would go and see her, too far from here though. Is "doable" as a day trip - but got no-one to pick the boys up from school.