A Quango, a Quango, it made me eat the mango - 10 / 10 thread

[FrannyandZooey]

For anyone who wants a boost to their general health. The suggested goals are:

EAT 10 PORTIONS OF FRUIT AND VEGETABLES EVERY DAY - if you don't usually eat much fruit and veg I would build up gradually or you could upset your digestion.

DO (AT LEAST) 10 MINUTES OF EXERCISE EVERY DAY - can be yoga, stretching or something more energetic. The plan is that the idea of doing 10 minutes is not too daunting, and having started you may well find you want to do more.

There are no restrictions on what you eat so long as you get your 10 fruit and veg as well. The focus is not on weight loss but on improving our energy levels and hopefully our general mood and well-being. Sign up below and post here to tell us how you're getting on and how you are feeling.

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Oh dear I missed you.

Oh Franny, do you think you have PND? Having a child who is not well is stressful. I suppose what matters is how much the stress is causing you problems. Being constantly anxious or panicky isn't how life is meant to be though.

Avi Hope blood test is ok

Good title.

DS ate grapes, banana, green beans, mushrooms, corn. FIVE.

Franny......I know sometimes you and i seem out of kilter, but I do worry for you. I wouldn't begin to try and give an opinion on whether or not it is a form of PND or a level of overwhelming stress induced by your natural concerns for DS2 and trying to be a mum to DS1, and all the other stuff.

But I do think you need some extra care for yourself, in whatever form it takes. Some good suggestions, and the plan thing would be a good start, listing all options......

A manly pat on the shpoulder.....take care..

Actually Avi....could ds be anaemic? Symptoms similar to mine. Took a while to diagnose. I fall asleep everywhere, and drink a lot...they thought it was diabetese at first. No one mentioned my breath!!

thanks chaps
avi that is what i keep saying - i don't need someone to fix me, i need someone to fix ds, then i will be ok
but everyone just makes polite noises and screw up their faces, and says "mmm well you know it may not be possible..."
and dp has started to talk to me in a kind voice and phone me during the day to see if i am all right
which is so unlike him i reckon it must be about strait jacket time

anyway

good morning

dh keeps a strait jacket under the stairs for me, does your dp want to borrow it for a short while

I hope today seems just a little brighter

Franny - I have quite a lot to say about it but I have to go back to bad music class to leave on my own terms.

I will be back later. I am sure you can hardly wait. [wait]

thanks all, sorry for dumping - it isn't awful all the time, but i do feel tense nearly all of the time, and i hardly get to talk about it because i am with ds1 and he gets very worried about stuff, and then when i DO talk about it it all comes out, and there seems such a lot of it
i think, like a lot of you, that anyone would be very bothered by it, but when i talk about it, people keep looking concerned, and thinking about it, you know when i phoned those people about ds1's anxiety? well they more or less said it was not really him, it was me
so i am lost tbh
god knows
i do feel like i could do with some help, but the only thing i can think of that WOULD help is ds2 getting better
hence homeopath tomorrow

anyway
this is all hideously personal and probably shouldn't be on this thread
if you know me in RL and are lurking please be decent about this and don't gossip about me
thank you

guad i will look forward to hearing about it actually! the class that is
hope it is ok

Oh sweetheart. Thing is his skin won't get better over-night but it will do eventually, and this is why people are probably concentrating on how it is making you feel, rather than on the skin itself.

Yes, the skin getting better would make everything okay. As it is unlikely to do this immediately, then it makes sense to work out ways for you to feel okay on a day to day basis, so the three of you can have the enjoyable life you all want.

I think that is why people have said it. They aren't questioning your sanity, or your ability to parent. Don't let it knock your confidence, as his skin has nothing to do with your confidence or your parenting. It isn't a huge leap of imagination to think that ds1 is picking up on the way you are feeling - children do this, you know that. That doesn't mean it's a bad thing, we shouldn't be putting on a front or a performance for our children, but we do probably as adults have to pretend to make it all right, and tell them that we are worried but not undermined, and to talk about how it makes us feel and then to find a final, perhaps fake, conclusion, that it's not that bad, and it'll come good in time. Then they can skip off to their sandpit content in this knowledge.

Tiredness is dreadful, and feeling like you aren't coping is dreadful too. But we ALL don't cope sometimes, and it's allowed.

Keep confident. See wood, see trees, take deep breaths and then Go For A Walk.

Molly - sounds like a good meeting, hope it helps to clarify stuff. Atilla - hope things work out okay for you, it sounds tough.

I have eaten some dried cherries in a muesli.
And had a glass of orange juice.

Huhu....wow...was expecting this thread to be wel long again and there are hardly any messages

Where are ye all hiding ....lol, Toot....

Avi...oh hope you get it all sorted...

Lemur, wow at Lemur jnr being 6 month already....I think Babies just grow to fecking quick, ya know...

molly...I think it is o.k. to laugh at ones own "jokes"...

Franny...remember your friends are only worried about you...! How is the little guy, btw?
It is, as others have said, normal and natural to worry, but if it does impact on life in general, than it might be worth looking into that, if you know what I mean...

FK, always easier to advise others, isn't it....I am always great at advising others, but never to good taking my own advise...sigh...

(((Boco)))

SB...how are you?

Atilla...where is the hairy arsed trucker gone????

Well...my F&V intake is a bit dire and not really worth mentioning ....really letting myself down....sigh!
Well, not sure if I mentioned my Inlaws before, but my MIL is in the later stages of Alzheimers, and my FIL finally got her into a Respite HOme, where she broke her collar bone on the firstday, so, she has been staying longer than the week she was meant too...having this time helped FIL getting a bit of eprspective and looking at his life and he has finaly made his decision that a Carehome is the way forward...and a good decision that is...the poor man was imprisoned in his own home, and MIL didn't really get any stimulation neither...she seems really happy in the Respite Home, so, hopefully she will settle down in the Care Home, too....poor FIL feels all guilty, but knows he could not go on any longer like that. Difficult times for him!
As for us...still enjoying Placement and sad it's nearly finished
Dh and I went out the other night, it was one of his mates 50th Birthday and we were able to catch up wiht some friends from our Army Days...had a good night and it was lovely to dance the night away

Anyway, am waffling...

Oh Franny.............

I have a dilemma which I am hoping you can make me see the funny side of....It would appear, through one of my jobs that i have a real life 'Hairy A Trucker' for an admirer...(although I have no actual knowledge on his arse)...he fits the stereo-type.

Oh crap, he is about 60 and comes and stands as near as he can and tells me how lovely I am....and I make his day...ew! And wears dodgy overalls.....and he was lurking outside the shop this morning so I hid in a doorway.......oh oh oh oh.......

I am SO crap at this stuff.

HHEEEEELLLLPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!

Poor In laws FairLady...they shouldn't have to make those kind of decisions at that stage in life but I hope it is a step forward for him.

Glad you had a good night out.

Fairlady, for MIL.

Fran, the feeling anxious and panicky all of the itme is horrid, that's how i felt at Xmas.
And, Like your dp, dh seemed concerned about me, rather than humoring my usual neurosis worries.
The main thing that has helped me is working out what would be the worst case scenario, and what I could do about that, and how likely that was ot happen. I suppose rationalising it all. (if that makes sense)
Hopefully the Homeopath can help with ds2, and then you can feel better about that.

Raisins
carrot cake
baked beans

Guad, tell us what happens when you leave on your terms

oh rofl atilla...sorry, I know it's not funny but ...well...still made me rofl....

lr...how are you?

Guad...oh, never meant to leave you out up there...how are you? But be nice to Franny, o.k.

for

franny

x

hello Atilla

hello everybody

where have YOU been young lady?.....

in the wrong room

I want to go out in a skimpy dress and get hyper on red bull and dance all night and giggle and be blardy silly.

skimpy dress...tststs...
those days are over for me anyway, lol although...on the photo that is on facebook (from the party) , I look at least relatively slim...phew..I look like an idiot, but at lest like a reasonable slim idiot

Hello TooT.
Hello Attila

I have the biggest spot in the world on my cheek

How can I get rid of it?

It isn't sqeezable.