support thread for people who are about to lose a loved one

[saint2shoes]

my dear old dad who is 81 has a aggresive Brain tumour.
The doctor has just pretty much said there will be no treatment apart from steroids.
he has got bad really quick. in October I have a picture of him looking OKish(my sm died in early September) Then at Christmas he looks so ill.
he is in Hospital and looks so small and frail.
I know I am not alone and could do with talking with othere people who are going through stuff like this.
I know a lot as my mum died of a brain tumour when I was 18.

Oh I do feel for you.
if you need to talk, you know where I am.

Much love to you both. x I'm going away for a few days with DD but will be thinking of you. x

How are things with your Dad squonk?

How is everyone else?

someone has just made an offer on dads house(amazed face) no doubt it will all go pear shaped, but at least there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Squonk hope you are okxx

He seems to be a lot better actually - he has some colour in his face and, even though he gets very out of breath and he's lost most of his hair, he does seem a lot better than last time I saw him.

Apparently, he was very borderline for this new treatment, but because he'd had to wait so long over christmas and new year, they put him on it anyway - glad they did, they have said that he would probably be gone by now if he hadn't started on it when he did.

I'm going back in about three weeks with dd1 for a day or so.

Thanks for all your thoughts.

2shoes - fingers crossed that nothing goes wrong with the house sale.

How is everyone else doing? Thinking of you all.

xx

squonk I really hope(and would pray if I did) that your dad is ok.
we are doing Dads ashes on friday.
I wish JG wasn't having her weep feast on the saturday though. I feel very mean saying that.
but........well you know

Don't feel mean 2shoes, it's perfectly understandable. The whole coverage has made my stomach turn; every time I see a tabloid/ magazine on the shelf I have to look away.

How did it go on Thurs Lilred?

Good luck on Fri 2shoes.

That's good news Squonk, I'm sure treatment isn't the most comfortable of things, so great that he is responding. You must be quietly optimistic.

Myself, I've been bottling things up a bit and suffering headaches (and a migraine!) as a result. Anyone else having trouble finding the balance between containing your feelings (keeping the wheels turning) and allowing yourself to grieve?

I had another family funeral this week. Totally different situation but we sang the exact same hymns, which was extremely hard.

2shoes - I know exactly what you mean, so please do not feel mean. I am avoiding all tabloid press as far as possible at the moment. Keep taking it one day at a time honey, it's the only way. x

Squonk - I am pleased that your Dad seems to be responding to treatment. It is so great to hear.

Nancy - I'm am doing a great job of flicking a switch and coping (aka bottling up) and then losing the plot on a night when DD is in bed. Am having headaches too (but touchwood no migraine yet) and horrible dreams. I think it's just something we have to get through.

Thursday went okay thanks. Am glad it's over with though. I received a copy of my parent's wills in the post today from their bank which was a reminder I could have done without.