The Fruits of our Labour? 10/10 thread, all fruitmunchers welcome......

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For anyone who wants a boost to their general health. The suggested goals are:

EAT 10 PORTIONS OF FRUIT AND VEGETABLES EVERY DAY - if you don't usually eat much fruit and veg I would build up gradually or you could upset your digestion.

DO (AT LEAST) 10 MINUTES OF EXERCISE EVERY DAY - can be yoga, stretching or something more energetic. The plan is that the idea of doing 10 minutes is not too daunting, and having started you may well find you want to do more.

There are no restrictions on what you eat so long as you get your 10 fruit and veg as well. The focus is not on weight loss but on improving our energy levels and hopefully our general mood and well-being. Sign up below and post here to tell us how you're getting on and how you are feeling.

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I made the mistake of going back and looking and it made me want to writhe with misery. So tempting to shriek but they'd take it the wrong way.

TooT don't be sad I know what you mean. All the 'break the cycle' 'I know it's hard but leave her to cry' stuff sounds really harsh but co-sleeping/ap stuff isn't for everyone. They'll find thier own way.

But what's with 'dh goes mad if I bring baby downstairs'??!!

a lot of x posts. Tatties, avi said it beautifully ikwym about having been an adult since you were a child - mine has been more a kind of beyond-my-years type melancholy - otoh I am in many ways very immature childlike still. I am a mass of contradictions I feel more 'myself' as a mother than I ever have done, really, although I know in some areas I am not a great mother and in some I am rubbish - it frightens me what I have the potential to do wrong - I had a very odd epiphany last Christmas Day when I was cooking lentil roast and had had rather a lot of mulled wine and had a sudden, terrifying sense of the responsibility of it all that I had never had before, and an overwhelming instinct to run.

What a lovely image TooT (the plait)

at excelling! I am happy to be mentor Do you think she would want to write to my niece? She is 12, has been doing English at school and is a very lovely girl.

Avi mainly that I thought it would be as simple as loving and liking my child, showing him respect and wanting to be with him... and that if I did all these things then things would be easy. But of course they are not! I will stop blethering about it though because it is late and I am emotional and I need to remember the mantra "children kick off against the people they feel most secure with"!

I probably rank high up the list of loonies atm as all 4 dcs are sleeping with me
It's great really, huge story time, working from young books to older. Am making the most of it

about the thread. ikwym. I think shrieking (at a fairly quiet volume) is OK, tbh. The rod-for-your-own-back proponents shriek as well, really, if you think about it.

So pleased for dd1 TooT!

Oh Tatties, you are so lovely!!
You need to develop a variable skin, one that is all soft and barely there for good times, then a rapid thickening for the shouty, kicky, screamy times.

Tatties, what I do with ds1 (who is rather testing atm) is remember how difficult it so often is for us adults to work out why we are feeling what we are feeling, and multiply that by 100000. Of course they kick off where they are most secure. I can almost see ds1 pushing the boundaries. Children are constantly engaging with and sorting out their place in the world and their feelings about it - it must be pretty exhausting, as well as amazingly wonderful.

Oh yes please Bero, your niece sounds splendid

She is fab. We're going to visit for a few days next month - I shall ask then

You know ds was a bit unsettled earlier in the evening so I went up and fed him back to sleep, then just lay there for a while with his head on my chest, thinking, there's nowhere on earth I'd rather be. That's what makes me angry about certain routines/methods - they seem to aim to deny us of some of the most beautiful moments of motherhood!

Bero! That's a great idea. I have considered it myself but it wouldn't work for me atm. You are silly for being so shy about it - you have obviously put a lot of thought into it - I am glad everything is coming together.

I excelled at German (until I gave up)

Thank you Bero

You are so right Tatties. There seems to be some unwritten rule book that says things must be difficult and upsetting, and that enjoying certain things is not actually realistic

Thank you bero and TooT, that really helps I know I just get things out of perspective at times

Really must go to bed now. Night all xxx

Tatties - those are the monents that make all the tough times worth it. It would be such a shame to miss out. Those threads make me sad too. I do think we all have to do whatever works for us but

Hello UR How are things?

Things ok Toot. Should be cooking, cleaning or making myself presentable as bf is coming over but I have a sink full of dishes and am sitting here instead

How are you?

Oh, sinks full of dishes are no fun.
I am tired. Ridiculously so, and achey, for no good reason. It's annoying.
BUT we had a good day out today and am hoping to take dcs to fly kites up a nearby hill tomorrow
So nice to have finished our ill week in.

Am glad illnesses are better.

Kite flying is fun - DS has one but I keep forgetting to take it out with us.

It's hard to find open places without electric wires, isn't it?

OH yes, that can be problematic. We have 2 large areas of open space where we could fly kits but one is quite a long walk and the other has 2 really busy roads either side. I suppose the beach would be a good place but our have lots of rules and threats of being arrested if you break them. I suspect Kite flying may not be allowed.