NEW THREAD FOR OJ - REST IN PEACE STEVE - STRENGTH AND LOVE FOR OJ AND THE CHILDREN

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Hope this is ok - both other threads seem to be full or almost full now.

We are all thinking of you Jo.

Trifles and rum and bubbles at the ready.

why cant they just leave us alone

oh Jo because they're vile They will get bored of hassling you and leave you alone eventually. Do everything you can to avoid engaging with them.

OJ, where did all their venom towards you come from? I can't believe she sent that text.

Block their numbers.

IMO the most hurtful thing you can do to them is to be indifferent to them.

You need to get on with your life and they don't have any right to provoke you.

#Have the anti-b's started working yet.

it all comes from the fact that they didn't bother with him until he was ill, his sister left her fella and kids 14 years ago to go live with boyfriend on a narrow boat, she only came back on the scene when steve was ill, for some reason his family thought that steve should go live with them

It is all so . As others have said best not to respond at all to these barking messages. (the word barking makes me chuckle but the whole situation is not funny at all)

This is the night after her brother's funeral and she is sending spiteful texts to you. She must be one very unhappy lady.

Jesus OJ thats the last thing you need,re relatives.How bloody insensitive can they be!!I would be furious if someone had sent me a text like that! I would block number as Margo suggests.

Sending hugs if you do them.

Oj go shove your phone up her bloody arse ... and go now! How dare she. who the hell do they think you are.

OJ they are terrified that now Steve has gone you will ignore them! They have tried to bleed you dry with their festering, toxic minds. You have had the courage and dignity to rise above it all - and they must be so frustrated that you won't stoop to their level. Buy a cheap pay as you go phone - give the number to all your friends - and leave the other one switched off for about 6 months. No good blocking her number - she can just send texts from another phone.

I loved your friend's account of Steve's funeral - what a shame the nutters tried to spoil it. Still - you don't have to pander to them any more - I can't imagine how you have kept it up for so long - you're amazing!

Hi hun, hmmm sounds like there is a pattern of guilt in Steve's family that follows the women who have left their children. I don't mean to be disrespectful because I know grief can do many things to a person, but Steve's sister does sound a bit deluded. I'm sure that the SW's will have a good idea of her aggression, having witnessed it firsthand. I really do hope they leave you alone. You don't need this right now.

The paper work thing is strange. Every time you write a new form its almost like telling your brain once again that it has actually happened and wasn't all a dream. Seeing things in black and white brings home the reality of it all. Good to hear that you are getting a break from it all. Hope you sleep ok tonight. xxx

I actually meant who the hell do they think THEY are.
But, in retrospect, who do they think you are? .. for crying out loud, you are the mother of their neices and nephew, the loving, devoted wife and carer of their brother, I would be on my knees with gratitued if you were my sil/dil. Not this, its awful.

I am so angry Oj on your behalf ,what ever are they trying to do/prove.What a horrible text to of sent you,after all that you have just had to go through,i wouldnt waste a single thought on them.Just delete the message .x

OJ, I haven't had a chance to read all of the thread but just want to send you continued albeit cyber support. Saying thinking of you at this difficult time sounds trite but I sincerely mean it. (((((OJ)))) xxx Mhamai

oj - I was looking at your photos earlier and it looks as though you've lost a lot of weight lately. Look after yourself - keep eating trifle for Steve

Good morning OJ. I am so sorry that Steve's family are still causing you pain and being so hurtful. I hope you are able to rise above it and not let it bring you down any further. I also hope that the SW is able to do something to stop this harrassment from them!

You take good care. I am thinking of you xx

I can't believe that text either but am left wondering just WHY they feel so strongly that Steve should have gone to live with them? And why such anger and animosity?

Could the SW sit down and ask them and maybe get them to see things differently? (Or am I hoping for the moon as they seem so unreasonable?)

What were things like before Steve was ill? Was there any contact?

I am not in any way excusing them but trying to understand and maybe find a way to stop the hassle. You have enough on your plate Jo without all this nastiness.

Bloody hell OJ only just caught up on this-so for you.

What pathetic specimens they all are, you are well rid of them. You know you gave them every chance and more to have calm loving input into Steve's last days and they threw all your selfless gestures back at you.They are the lesser people for it &you can quite smugly claim the moral high ground.

40+ idea of a temporary PAYG number is a good one.

hi oj.

i love that poem you put up....its truely lovey, and although very sad, kind of warm and fuzzy too.

your friends email too has a lovely warmth to it....sounds like your goodbye to steve was fitting to you all.....another mn horrified at the behaviour at steves famly....why are they doing it? what do they stand to gain?

ignore the text your sil sent....do nothing, and stay the wonderful, dignified lady you have been throughout this last few weeks....

STILL thinking of you! x

Delete the text Jo and get her number blocked from your phone!

I'm glad that you and Tracey had a nice time in the beer garden

i will keep all texts from them and the letter from mike and anything else that comes my way, it will on be on file wih SWs and others will be aware, then later on they will only have themselves to blame when they are not allowed to see the kids, i wont need to do anything as they will have done it to themselves.
i was sick last night and on the was to be sick i cut my hand on gawd knows what so i have a bandaged hand with the help of elliot, it is a shame it is my left hand and i am left handed

OJ. Good luck at the doctor's this morning.

Mornin' oj, ye have been in my thoughts,sending ye love from norfolk x

My mum always used to say, give these people enough rope and eventually they'll hang themselves, sounds like Steves family are there already. They are nasty and hurtful but will get their comeupance. Sending hand healing vibes your way, thinking of you as always x

She (SIL) is barking mad!! In fact they are all mad, ignore ignore ignore. It probably really got under her skin when you behaved with such dignity at the funeral. They can't hurt you. Keep all of the correspondance of course, dont reply to any of it, its harrasment and you will, im sure, be able to take legal steps to prevent contact.

You owe these people NOTHING and your children will never have to see them, unless of course they really want to. But if i were you i would make sure that they are kept away from the poisonous bastards.

Now is the time for you and your children to remember their daddy, dont let these people interfere with that.

Could you possibly get new phone numbers and be ex directory? or would that be too much to sort out as you obviously have contact with SS etc for the children.