NEW THREAD FOR OJ - REST IN PEACE STEVE - STRENGTH AND LOVE FOR OJ AND THE CHILDREN

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Hope this is ok - both other threads seem to be full or almost full now.

We are all thinking of you Jo.

Trifles and rum and bubbles at the ready.

OJ - agree with bundle.

If you want to bring him home again, do.

(nice drop of cash for the rum fund )

Jo, you'll know what the right thing to do with Steve's ashes when you're there and if you are in any doubt at all there will always be a next time so bring them home again. Sorry that the tax credit people are giving you hassle. I hope you get your CB through very soon. I know its a pain but once its sorted, it will be well worth having.

I really do hope that you have a very restful time in Lanzerote and that as much as you will miss Steve and wish that he was with you & the kids, that you would also feel a comfort and even peace whilst you are there. I'll pray that you'll meet him in your dreams. I'll be thinking of you and the kids whilst you are away. Lots of love. xxx

Hi OJ, so sorry to see you are still fighting the "system" What a load of bollox you are having to go through eh ?

As for Mike, I dont think you should pee on him if he was on fire. He has no place in your family now, he has shown full well what he is capable of and he has nothing to offer you or the children other than pain.

I really do hope you have a peaceful holiday and can have some quality time with the children. Am very much liking the idea of the rum fund, maybe you could slip in a Southern Comfort too

Take care dear Jo x

Have a wonderful holiday OJ and kids. Leave all concerns about forms and annoying bureaucracy behind; get your holiday togs on, eat icecreams and splash in the sea... then pour yourself a lovely refreshing rum and coke - appletons though, i hope

Don't pressure yourself to do anything with Steve's ashes if you don't feel it is what you want to do now. You're absolutely entitled to change your mind about how and what you think is best. I'm sure Steve would be very happy with whatever decision you make.

OJ - I hope you have a good break with the children. As I said before, if you want to bring Steve home again, then do. There are always other trips. x

Hope you have a peacefull time away OJ. Thinking of you xxx

thanks for making me feel better I thought I would be a failure if I didn't do the ashes I put myself under a lot of pressure to do the right thing all the time, when I don't know what the right thing is, thing is we only get the one chance to get things right and this is all new to us.
Since august when we were told that Steve would die I have found so much comfort and support from MN I couldn't talk to Steve or his family as they were in denial I didn't want to burden mates in the earlier days either, debs has been a lifeline she says I am an inspiration but I think she is the inspiration without her tracey the kids and MN we wouldn't have got this far, thankyou all.
I am hhoping my iPhone will connect to MN if not I will send texts to keep in touch.

oj, hope you have a lovely time and manage to get some sleep for some of it (with or without rum )

You don't have to decide what to do with Steve's ashes until you are ready, even if that takes years.

Meanwhile hope you & Tracey & the kids enjoy the break (and some decent weather, sheesh)

(I was wondering, why don't you get CB already?)

OJ, the right thing is what is right for you, the girls and Elliot. You don't have a time limit, for the ashes or anything else. Enjoy yourselves, don't feel bad about any pleasure and rest you can get- that's what Steve would want.

I know I have to be up at 3 but I just can't sleep.
I didn't get CB cos Steve always got it cos he was SAHD whilst I went to work, we didn't change it over and even when he was told he was going to die he still insisted on getting the Cb cos he said whilst he got CB he got a NI stamp and he needed that so he got a pension at 65 I couldn't tell him different could I ?

No...oh, bless him for thinking about his pension

Not much point trying to sleep now if you have to be up in 2 and a bit hours anyway. If you're all packed, have you got any DVDs you could watch while you're waiting?

I am sorry you still have so much to do. You know we will help if we can.

Have a lovely holiday.

N x

waves hanky at the Oj family

Hopefully airborne by now!

OJ, hope you have a good flight and that you sleep well tonight. xxx

Hi oj. I didn't dream about my dad for ages after he'd died, but I sometimes do now.

Hope the flight was ok.

Hope you have a lovely holiday and manage to relax a bit.

Smiling here at your premium bond win - bet that was Steve pulling strings for you up above!

just checking in , the villa is lovely the weather is good. Izzy cut her foot open just after getting here so now has 5 stitches and has to keep her foot dry.
We have just opened a bottle of rum & tracey says she is going in the pool, I think I will watch!
I couldn't get Internet access but have now turned on data roaming I don't know how much it costs but I was missing you all.

xx

oj - relax, drink rum.

Rum in the sun, OJ, just what you need. Enjoy it xxx

OJ tried to reply to your text today but it took several goes to send it- if you get 27 messages from me..... apologies!!!

Glad you've got some sun anyway unllike the rest if us

Poor Izzy- what a pain literally hope she is Ok soon.

Cheers from rainy wet Britain!

bossy I think your texts have gonethe long way round!
I am laid here having a snuggle with elliot whilst he watches toy story for the hundredth time!
The girls are asleep still, the pool look inviting I may just have to go for a swim.

Go on spoil yourself!!

Are you getting any better/longer sleep?

Glad it sounds so chilled for you -just what you needed.

Enjoy the sun! You definitely arent missing the weather here.
I would definitely second what fortyplus said ..took me several years before my subconscious seemed to process that my Mum and Dad were not around and they came back in dreams ...I still find it very reassuring 14 years later ...I have found this true for other major life events ..your dreams take a while to catch up. Anyway, hope you get some rest and relaxation and some enjoyable moments.

Glad you are having a lovely time! x