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I've just been reading your other thread on this. It's good that your DH is being supportive. Your goal of sharing a bottle of wine at the weekend might be achievable, you just have to try it and see. For some of us, abstinance is the only way forward, but others are managing to control what they drink. You'll only know what works for you once you try.
I'm 3 weeks sober tonight after doing an out-patient detox, so those first few nights are still fresh in my memory. The hospital make me do an activity plan for each day. I have to do something nice for myself each morning, afternoon and evening. I don't have that much free time, but I always manage to fit something in, even if it's just 15 minutes of peace and quiet whilst reading a magazine. I usually try to have an hour of reading or watching a DVD or something in the evenings too, rather than just sit up at my PC drinking. In the afternoons I'm either at group therapy or I plan something like getting my hair cut or going shopping and buying lots of nice fruit and vegetables. All this is really helping to boost my sense of self-worth, and that's important when you feel ashamed of your behaviour (like you said on your other thread). It also replaces alcohol as a reward and gives you something to look forward to regularly.
Don't save the money you're not spending on booze. Instead spend it on yourself. Keep rewarding yourself with time and little gifts to keep up your resolve. Try to avoid the mind-frame of sober = bored and deprived. It's also good to do things that you'd find really difficult if you were drinking - craft projects are ideal, if you like that sort of thing.
Keep a look out for the benefits of sober living too - waking up feeling refreshed, skin getting clearer, losing a few pounds, psoriasis (if you get it) starting to improve, no more worrying about what you might have done during a black-out etc. There are loads of positives. Sex is better too, without the numbing effect of alcohol .
I really hope you achieve your goal. It wouldn't work for me as half a bottle would just get me in the mood and then I'd be left feeling deprived.
Keep posting and ask for help if you need it. When you feel fed up, really have a good think about why. Try to define what you're feeling, other than just recognising a negative emotion that drink would ease.
Sorry for going on so much. I'm just sharing with you all the things that have helped me get this far, this time around.
Good luck xx