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Help me, i have just had one of those phone calls you dread.

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:28

DD has seen a consultant for tests recently, she is behind at school and seems emotionally immature. We had lots of academic tests done, took about 2 hours. She seemed to do ok.

We were then sent to the hospital for blood tests. I have no idea what for. The hospital just phoned me and said can the consultant come to the house one evening this week and speak to me about the results. They said they need my husband to be home too.

I am terrified. Has anyone else had a consultant come to the house? Am shaking and cant get hold of my husband or my mother.

She is coming tonight.

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FluffyMummy123 · 01/04/2008 13:28

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:29

No.

We had the tests done about a month ago.

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mellowma · 01/04/2008 13:29

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Iklboo · 01/04/2008 13:29

Maybe consultant is uber busy during surgery hours and you're on her way home?

claricebeansmum · 01/04/2008 13:30

Hold on there.
Feeling your panic.
Take some deep breaths and try to stay calm.

Lulumama · 01/04/2008 13:30

oooh, honey, what a concern... i would love to say, don;t worry.. but you will! can DH be there tonight? can you call them back and ask for more info, or speak to the Gp, at least find out what blood tests they did?

claricebeansmum · 01/04/2008 13:30

Iklboo - I thought that too. Consultant being really nice and knowing hassle to bring DD to hospital, time from work etc

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:31

She wouldnt speak to me on the phone, it was just her secretary. She just said we need an evening this week and your husband must be with you.

Oh fuck, i am so scared.

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Tutter · 01/04/2008 13:31

you poor thing

try to keep it together

cod, the consultant coming tonight, so doubt could be brought fwd

NorthernLurker · 01/04/2008 13:31

Ok - well it does sound like there is a result which is going to take some discussion. It's really good that she's coming tonight - you will know very soon what's going on. Try to stay calmish for just a few hours.

edam · 01/04/2008 13:31

OK, it is entirely reasonable for you to be worried BUT worrying will just make you feel bad. So take a few deep breaths and do whatever makes you feel calm - nowt wrong with having a relaxing bath, if it helps. Or going for a brisk walk. There is nothing constructive you can do before the consultant comes so just look after yourself (and try to get hold of dh - make sure his work know you need to speak to him urgently).

themoon66 · 01/04/2008 13:31

I work for a consultant and he often calls to see patients at home if they are on his way home from work. Saves booking them into clinics with long waiting lists etc.

Hope all goes well for you.

Tutter · 01/04/2008 13:31

have you no idea what they were testing for?

Jackstini · 01/04/2008 13:32

What time is she due LGT - I know there is not a lot we can do to stop you worrying but we can try and take your mind off it/count down the time with you

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:32

The consultant does know i have lots of children, she could be being very nice. Surely they dont do that though, they have to be nice to everyone and must be busy.

Am shaking with fear. She is at school and i want to go and get her home now for a hug.

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NorthernLurker · 01/04/2008 13:33

Oh and I work in a hospital and I have herad of consultants going out to homes - not very often certainly but it does happen and is usually because they know it will be difficult to get everyone in to clinic within a reasonable timescale. Her clinics may be very overbooked for the next few weeks.

dejags · 01/04/2008 13:33

LG&T! You poor thing - how worrying.

Try and keep calm, ring back and tell the secretary that you are very worried because of this and that you would like some idea of what the consultant has to say to put your mind at ease - the consultant can surely just give you a quick call to confirm?

doggiesayswoof · 01/04/2008 13:34

Poor you. Never heard of a consultant visiting the house but in a way it is positive - means you don't have to wait days or even weeks to have the discussion

If I were you I would get out of the house and try and distract myself until tonight. You will know in a few hours and until then you can't do anything.

I would be beside myself too. Really feel for you.

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:34

Really themoon? God i hope so. She is coming at 7.

Lulu dh will be home tonight thankfully.

Why cant i get anyone of the phone, i need my mum. Feel about 12 years old.

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artichokes · 01/04/2008 13:35

How worrying for you.

I hope it is of some comfort to know that a close friend of mine is a consultant and does this quite a bit as her clinic hours aren't long enough .

NatalieJane · 01/04/2008 13:36

LG&T Go and make a good strong cup of tea with lots of sugar in it, it will help you calm down.

Then read themoon's reply again. I am sure it will be something simple like that.

We'll help you pass the time.

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:37

Cant drink, have the children to get from school later. Twins have science club tonight too. Bbay teething and miserable.

I might be insane by the time she arrives. Have just tried to phone and the office is shut for the afternoon. I must have been her last call.

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Psychomum5 · 01/04/2008 13:38

immediate thought is....calm down.

easier said than done I know, as you are her mummy and you are scared, but panicking isn;t going to change anything.....this I know.

I would say that if serious serious (ie, illness wise) they would have had you go into the hospital to see them NOW, not wait until tonight when the kiddies are around too.

I have heard of this, normally to do with somehting that requires something staritng quite quickly, and more quickly than they can start if they wait for the next avvaliable appointment.

also, if by saying tonight, and saying can DH be there, it makes certain that you have support.

you think of the amount of mums who go for appointments with out DH as he is working.....

so....calm down, and see ig you can get hold of your DH, if nothing else, to see if he can get home to give you a hug!