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Help me, i have just had one of those phone calls you dread.

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:28

DD has seen a consultant for tests recently, she is behind at school and seems emotionally immature. We had lots of academic tests done, took about 2 hours. She seemed to do ok.

We were then sent to the hospital for blood tests. I have no idea what for. The hospital just phoned me and said can the consultant come to the house one evening this week and speak to me about the results. They said they need my husband to be home too.

I am terrified. Has anyone else had a consultant come to the house? Am shaking and cant get hold of my husband or my mother.

She is coming tonight.

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Pinkjenny · 01/04/2008 13:48

My auntie was visited by her GP at 10pm at night after my cousin's white blood cell count was found to be high. She was fine though, had a urinary tract infection that needed to be treated.

I know its not quite the same thing, but my family were completely hysterical about it, and it turned out to be nothing.

Big hugs to you. You've got my number if you need to chat.

xxx

Monobrow · 01/04/2008 13:48

LG&T - so easy for us all to say calm down and don't worry. If it were us, we'd be exactly the same as you.

I know its been asked before but do you have any idea what the blood was tested for? Did they tell you?

A few people on the thread have confirmed some consultants do pop in for home visits if more convenient and you do seem to have your hands full so maybe she is being considerate.

It seems there is a problem BUT it may not be as bad as you think as we always think the worse dont we? More likely she wants your DH there so she can answer all questions in one go.

My heart goes out to you. Will your DH get off the ship and be home tonight?

Megglevache · 01/04/2008 13:48

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EffiePerine · 01/04/2008 13:49

crossword? alphabetising CDs?

I think the best solution would be a silent friend who would come and sit with you but not talk IYSWIM. Maybe MN can be that until you have to head off

sweetgrapes · 01/04/2008 13:49

I was booked in to see the consultant the day after christmas on 2-3 days notice- again very unusual... The secretary called on the 23rd dec and said we had to see the consultant asap and booked us for 26 dec (a holiday!!). Spend the entire christmas period terrified.

Anyway, 4 years on, we are all fine. Dd is still the lovable little one that she always was and is doing fine at school. And we are still a happy family -just a bit different from a regular one, that's all.

Not much you can do at the moment except take deep breaths and try to calm down.

Bar of choccy and scrub the floors??

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:49

Psychomom how is your dd now? I have no idea what they were testing for. They did say Thyroid and congenital conditions i seem to remember. Wish i had the bloods forms in front of me. Or not, i suppose. Am so worried.

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laughalot · 01/04/2008 13:50

Keep busy hope all is going to be ok x

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:52

Sweetgrapes what happened?

Thank you for pat on shoulder. I am sure if someone was actually near me and asked me if was ok the floodgates would open.

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Psychomum5 · 01/04/2008 13:54

my DD3 is now undergoing many bloods (twice wkly for 6mks, we in wk 5 now) for cyclical nuetropenia, so no, we not 'out of the woods yet', but we are certainly getting well cared for tho, and she is 9 now too so easier to deal with.(well, ignoring the headaches and hormones)

how old is your DD??

just remembered.....My then 5yr old D1 ha one of these visits after bloods once....she was anaemic and needed supplements and diet started straight away, before they could fit me in at the paeds in hospital. god, can;t believe I forgot this but then, she is 14 now and panic feelings fae over time with new panics taking over.....

frumpygrumpy · 01/04/2008 13:54

LG&T, can anyone do the school run for you? It would be good if you could nap for a while (a) to pass the time and (b) to give you a break from teething.

Psychomum5 · 01/04/2008 13:55

ah no.....not meant to say 6wks!!

ingles2 · 01/04/2008 14:00

LGT... big hugs,...
just keep telling yourself there's no point in worrying until you know what you're worrying about over and over..it's quite calming.

triplets · 01/04/2008 14:01

Deare Lg&t,
I am not going to say don`t worry because we all know you are scared sick. Just hang on in there and know we all will be with you xxxx

shabster · 01/04/2008 14:01

G&T - oh sweetie - no matter what any of us say you are bound to panic like mad.

I know its not the same but when I was having Tom, my midwife called at 10pm to say she thought I should have an amnio!! Our house was on her way home. She panicked the life out of me when I saw her at the door.

Not sure what to say but just wanted you to know I was thinking about you xxxxxxxxxxx

frumpygrumpy · 01/04/2008 14:02

Traybakes LG&T, make a couple of traybakes. You are fabulous at that, the kids will love it, it will give you something constructive to do and the consultant can chew on one.

Pinkjenny · 01/04/2008 14:02

We are all thinking of you. Once you've picked the kids up the afternoon will just fly by.

xxxxxxxx

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 14:02

No one can manage the 3 school run and 6 children to fit in the car nightmare FG. Hugo at playschool too this afternoon so i will have to go and get him after the school runs too.

Farckinh hell. Where is my MOTHER!

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frumpygrumpy · 01/04/2008 14:03

Not going anywhere fast darling. Here for you x.

EffiePerine · 01/04/2008 14:03

Can yyou track her down somehow? Could she be at a friend's?

frumpygrumpy · 01/04/2008 14:04

Its all good. The busyness will pass the next 5 hours in a whizz.

piximon · 01/04/2008 14:04

LG&T hopefully the consultant just wants to be able to talk to you without the distraction of the DCs. I have heard of consultants visiting homes before.

There's no way you can stop yourself worrying so just try to keep busy till the visit.
Sending much love to you.

Megglevache · 01/04/2008 14:04

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frumpygrumpy · 01/04/2008 14:05
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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 14:06

Have mailed you FG and thank you Meggle for yours.

Good idea FG, will do that when i get home. Have to leave in 40 mins and wont have time to bake it. May chop something though.

Why can i not reach anyone?

Do you know i was having a panicky call to my Aunt last night over a dodgy smear i have had (have to go in for a Colposcopy in 2 weeks) and have been killing myself over it for days now. Now all i can think about is dd and sod me and my minutae dodgy cells.

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Psychomum5 · 01/04/2008 14:06

right, it could be something, it could also be nothing......however....she is your darling daughter and she isn;t going to change intrisnicaly (sp?) whatever the tests show.

panicking is normal, as is any feeling of read you have right now, which I am sure is HUGE if you are anything like any of us other mums here.

I would guess that somehting has obviously been flagged as either abnormal, or slightly ot right, and they need to see you to explain the 'what nexts'. they also are going to be aware that you have other kiddes (ie, making childcare an issue), and that your DH works away at times.....making them catch you both difficult too!.....hence, coming in an evening with you both there.

also, in your own home you are going to be more relaxed (well, not now maybe after the panic, but generally), and more conductive to what they tell you. especially if they are going to be needing to arrange either more tests, or more people to see you/her IYGWIM.

it may be that she needs meds starting ASAP, and so this way they can either bring them and explain them to you, or tell you how to go about getting them from your GP in the morning....