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Help me, i have just had one of those phone calls you dread.

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:28

DD has seen a consultant for tests recently, she is behind at school and seems emotionally immature. We had lots of academic tests done, took about 2 hours. She seemed to do ok.

We were then sent to the hospital for blood tests. I have no idea what for. The hospital just phoned me and said can the consultant come to the house one evening this week and speak to me about the results. They said they need my husband to be home too.

I am terrified. Has anyone else had a consultant come to the house? Am shaking and cant get hold of my husband or my mother.

She is coming tonight.

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TigerFeet · 01/04/2008 13:38

Poor you LG&T

Is there anyone other than your mum who can come round until you get hold of her?

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:38

Am relieved to hear that consultants do visit houses sometimes. She was very nice when we met her. Surely it must be something terrible if they need my dh here too.

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OrmIrian · 01/04/2008 13:38

Good luck largeg&t. I can imagine how sick you must be feeling . Please try to get hold of the consultant or at least the secretary. I'm sure they don't want you sitting on pins all day.

Hope it is all OK.

claricebeansmum · 01/04/2008 13:39

Maybe it is nothing too serious but a bit complicated so she is thinking two heads are better than one?

NatalieJane · 01/04/2008 13:40

I expect they like to go over results with parents at the same time to avoid you relaying things to your DH and then DH ringing her tomorrow and her having to go through it all again.

It does sound like maybe something has been picked up in the tests, but it doesn't have to be terrible.

Keep trying your mum.

tkband3 · 01/04/2008 13:40

How horrid and scary for you LG&T. Hope you manage to speak to someone close to you v. soon. Would be happy to talk to you on the phone, if you'd like a chat - let me know and will email you my number.

Will be thinking of you.
xxxx

Psychomum5 · 01/04/2008 13:40

it may also be that she is thinking that she needs to refer your DD to maybe.....e. psychologist or some such, and rather than write or tell you on the phone, she prefers the personal touch of being face-to-face....

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:40

No one else around, no family close by. My mum is a 4 hour drive away and is probably working. DH is doing some bloody radioactive course on a ship.

He is away next week, i was worrying about the school holiday without him and all 6 home. Now i wish that was all i was worrying about.

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shrinkingsagpuss · 01/04/2008 13:41

No experience, but just wanted to add to the support. Hope it goes as well as possible.

did they give you ANY clues about what they were looking for in the blood tests?

sarah293 · 01/04/2008 13:41

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cornsilk · 01/04/2008 13:41

I'm sure they like to to have both parents there if you went to the clinic so try not to worry.

NatalieJane · 01/04/2008 13:41

Are there any MNers near by that could drop in?

EffiePerine · 01/04/2008 13:42

I would be petrified

Is there anything you can do to keep busy until it's time to pick up the kids? Cleaning out the kitchen cupboards? Sorting some drawers? Washing the windows?

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:42

Thank you tk, i am sitting quietly as the baby has just flaked behind me having yelled most of the day. I fear my voice may wobble if i say it out loud.

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HarrogateMum · 01/04/2008 13:43

LG@&T sweetheart, try not to worry. Do you have any ideas what they were testing her for when they did the blood tests? I know you wont be able to stop worrying but do whatever it takes to take your mind off it until later, either get really busy and do stuff, or sod it all and do nothing, whatever works for you. Is your DH there with you? xxxx

ImflightbutIcantlogintoday · 01/04/2008 13:43

LGT, try to remember that in essence, nothing has changed - except you might have some questions answered.
DD is still your lovely DD whatever is the matter, you and DH are still both there and all it might mean is that she can have some treatment to help her. It's got to be a good thing, yes?

All they are giving you is information. DD is still the same as she was yesterday xxx

TillyScoutsmum · 01/04/2008 13:43

(((LG&T))))... No advice - but will keep everything crossed for you

Psychomum5 · 01/04/2008 13:44

plus, for one of my friends whose D has AS (not suggesting this, just background info really), her consultant came roun to explain all the different things they were going to be looking into, and all the new people that were going to be involved in their DD's care.

and, when my DD3 was tiny and very very poorly, we had the GP come to us a couple of times to help explain things to DH as I was in utter panic (over nothing as it turned out each time), and DH could not make head nor tail of what was going on.

not suggesting you won;t retian any info given, but there are mums who don;t an they often like the DH's there for that very reason!!!!

DragonFaerie · 01/04/2008 13:45

LGT, you poor thing, it must be a horrible wait. Sending you lots of positive vibes. xx

frumpygrumpy · 01/04/2008 13:45

sweetheart, I just saw your link to here.

Jeez, they must know its going to send people into a blind panic when they do stuff like this.

Right, breathe deep and make tea.

It is very comforting to know consultants often do this as they know their clinic times are difficult.

Next, keep reminding yourself that you won't know any more until 7pm and that there is no good to be had imagining. Your DD went to school fine and happy this morning, she's still fine and happy.

Any luck with your mum? It would be good if she could sit with you a while, even if you just talk and analyse. Its good to talk it out.

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:46

Effie have cleaned the entire house since i got in. Bbay strapped to me yelling all the time. Keep trying my mum but no reply and dh must have his phone off.

School run soon, hope nobody speaks to me or i may blub on them. Have not really made any good friends at the school the boys go to. DD school is lovely and i have made some friends there. They are at 3 different schools as dd was the only one to get in to our catchment area school.

Thank you alll

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Psychomum5 · 01/04/2008 13:47

do you have any rescue remedy, or some camomile tea????

if so, go take/make/drink!!!

frumpygrumpy · 01/04/2008 13:47

LG&T, I don't do talking but I will email you my mobile number if you want so you can text. If you need it [email protected].

Psychomum5 · 01/04/2008 13:48

when were the bloods done by the way??? I know you say recent, but how recent???

wannaBe · 01/04/2008 13:48

how worrying for you.

Where did they do the blood tests? was it at the hospital or through the gp with referral on to the consultant? Can you ring up and find out at least what they were testing for? seems wrong that they can take blood and you don't even know why.

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