No dog-ends. No roll-ups. No 'Just One's. NO SMOKING!!!

[minkmama]

Morning girls, not subtle i know but hey, some of us need this

I walked out this morning FP when I handed DD to DH at 6.30 and he told me to put her back to bed because he was tired. FFS. I get up at 5am so I can get her ready for him, he has to do NOTHING for her in the morning, and I have to do everything and get myself to work for 7am. I just handed her to him and told him to f off and stomped out in a huff. Well I was walking out the house to work anyway, but still it felt empowering.

Thats why I said I was having a nervous breakdown but hadnt had any fags.
I think I have just worked too much and havent had much time to do anything for myself and its been a constant swirl of school run work school run dinner bed mess mess mess...next day, again gagain again...driving me quite literally mad.
So when dp said he was gonna wrap his mums birthday pressie...in my head that meant he wouldnt be helping me with any of the mundane shit that was left...id already had a mad mission doing the bilk of the house including scrubbing loo and bathroom room on hands n knees...anyway I said Ive had enough and buggered off to my mums.

OMG you get up at 5 to leave at 7??? You poor bugger. What do you do? Is it worth it?

I find getting to school at 8.55 a big struggle, well not so much a struggle as an effort...and one id rather not do. And i work in a nursery which is "easy" but still...I find the whole day in day out shit very draining sometimes.

I work in a hospital as an auxiliary nurse, so when I work earlies (i work a lot of these) i have to be at work for 7am, which means leaving at 6.30.

Even on the days I don't work I am usually up at 6 because thats when DD gets up and DH won't get out of bed to sort her out. I just get mad that on the days when I HAVE to leave the house, and so need to spend time making myself presentable etc he can't be arsed to help me and his daughter

Jeesus...well I will be thinking of you next time im growling about the 8.30 leave the house thing...and your still up at this time of night? Id be curled up snoring...your dds still very young as well...does she sleep well? Or do you have to get up for her as well?
Is dp a SAHD or does he work different shifts?

DH works a 9-5 job. With one weekend a month.

I am working later on tomorrow 10-7 so not too bad I am up early but at least I can chill for a bit. DD gets up at 2am in the night as well, and he won't help me with that.

Basically he argues that if I am getting up for work I may as well sort her out, but getting showered/dressed and having breakfast AND bathing/dressing/feeding DD in an hour and a half is a challenge. Oh well! On the days when I am not working in the morning, he argues that he needs to be rested for work.

2 tics....

This is so woe is me. I adore getting DD up in the morning and don't resent my early starts at all, just would like DH to get up early with me to help. I am also lucky that I function well on very little sleep, and sometimes grab a nap in the afternoon before I pick DD from nursery.

Sorry having sleepover here and 4 kids withonly 3 blankets doesnt work
I hate the fact its me who has to do everything...with very little help...and im expected to clap when dp does help
its depressing to think im just the maid...

Cor you sound like superwoman to me...like really...

Thats how I feel! DH is very very bad, its a huge problem between us tbh. I hate that I do everything then when he makes her a bottle or makes up her dinner its something special.

I am dreading the days when DD wants sleepovers!

Oh I am not. I am lucky that my job means I am often home in the afternoon so I can sort my house out then. I have also being doing 7am starts since I was 16 so I am used to it quite nice starting work at 7 actually, gives me a buzz. I don't start at 7am every day. Usually do 2 12hr shifts then one early and one late (starting at 1pm)

I have been a SAHM for 7 years now and its just been 7 years of dredge, you know the stuff, wake up kids clean food mess dishes paint more mess...blabla and i have enjoyed it but i do everything and dp just falls out of bed and returns and everythings done for him and around him and i feel he would do more if he lived in a bedsit..you know feed himself, wash up after himself...put the washing machine on sometimes....
I just as sick of doing everything for everyone with no help and no appreciation...SIGH

OMG my DH is the same!! Aren't men pigs. How you cope with more than one child I don't know, seriously at this point with the way DH behaves DD will be our only one.

Its very hard for me because we both do work full time, and so I don't understand why he thinks I have the time to do everything and he doesn't! Mind you I suspect you will do more than me, i do bare minimum to scrape by.

I only normally work 2 mornings a week but this past fortnight ive been working everyday and its contributed to me going off my head last night. Im not up for it at all its nearly killed me.
The mess form the day before hasnt been tidyed so we have woke up to a half messed house...made more mess...left it...came back...dinner needs done...more mess...so ive had a couple of Dive in and do its...but theres been a few bits not done...and they grow those bits so small heap of clothes to be put away becomes mountain.......
Sleepovers are good BTW They entertain each oher and ive had a night off bar getting some food and drinks together and taking 5 mins to make some christmas crackers with them!

I have to say that I do see work as an escape, it keeps me busy at least.

The mess just builds up and builds up and then DH wonders why our house is so messy and whinges at me to clean it! I want to know where the mess comes from though, it breeds doesn't it!! I don't balem you for wanting a smoke fp.

I live in a very small house with 10x as much stiff as i need. The place is usually a tip but i hate it so spend a lot of time shit shovelling trying to deal with it...but the kids have fun making the mess...its just i tear my hair out tidying it up when they have gone to bed.
They are tryingtoo though, simple things like putting shoes away...throwing coats near to where they should be...as i said to dp last night ...they put in more effort to help than he does

I like working as i cant see the mess of my house from the nursery

LOL strangely I am very very tidy at work quite anal about it actually.

Our DHs sound the same, and you have 2 (?) kids to deal with and that. Sounds like a nightmare. I couldn;t do it.

What pisses me off most is dp claims that its easy...that the place shouldnt get such a tip...yet hes woke up on a saturday morning when the place has been done the night b4 and by 12 oclock theres a sink full of dishes the front rooms covered in toys...theres washing dryed/drying hanging everywhere...its never ending here.........

Well the good thing about having 2 kids is they can play with each other which means i dont have to play monopoly or noughts and crosses all the time...i can say bugger off and go and ask your sister...and 1 extra lunch box/set of clothes...well its not that much harder, honestly!

I know! I think my DH thinks the pixies come and clean our house. No. Its ME after a long day at work whilst you are outside having a fag. Grrrrrrrrr.

Have you saw the thread about the nice dp/dhs? Made me want to cry...if only....