desperate fag quitter! Anyone similar, fancy mutual support group?!

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To my shame it's about my 167th attempt to quit fags... anyone out there trying the same who would like to start a support thingie here where we can rant and vent our frustrations and praise each other? I'm starting tomorrow...

thanks for the understanding fg, i know your situation was a lot more demanding...twins, goodness! i'm hoping to do something with myself eventually when ds1 goes to nursery this autumn perhaps? like i said, most days are fine, but like you said, there are those where the secs just can't go fast enough!

going to spend quality time w/dh and then shower. see you later!

p.s. you never preach!

I think in some ways having 2 little ones of diff ages like yours is tougher as they're at different stages whereas with twins you can feed em by spooning into alternate mouths, really pack thenem with food & milk, then push them round the park for an hour, creep back with buggy into house and they sleep... simultaneously! Making this happen used to be my life's work!

S and d were completely wild toddlers. I know what you mean about ds 1 charging off and getting up to all sorts, but the people at the parent/baby/toddler places I went to were fantastic & very supportive. Mind you I did bloody envy mothers who could sit on their rump ends and have nice relaxed chats for 2 hours!

do you think cc has sneaked off for a herbal??

Er yes, and a bath and I even dyed my hair Must stop this....
My next door neighbour had a dd who was 6 months when my dd was 18 months and our dds grew up seeing each other every day, we'd meet each other in the back garden for coffees at 7am!
Thats what kept me sane a lot of the time, just having another mum to dribble nothing to, and we still do even though shes moved MILES away but we do it on the phone now.
I would definetly get out and meet some folks.
If only so you know you have got 2 hours out of the house a park a week. Its something to strive for...
On the upside, when they are bigger they will give each other and you so much joy! Well im sure they do now, but hearing your babys giggling together in thier room is Heaven.

So you've sneaked away & pampered yourself cc... sounds lovely. I find a baff the very best thing for stress, kiddie related annoyances - anything. A real escape. Sometimes I think, Bugger, am just gonna have a baff... them realise I already had one.

I know what you mean about your dp smoking & you smelling it cc, my workroom is at other end of house from 'smoking quarters' (back yard) but I can SMELL A FAG right now... mm, luscious... think he might be having one in kitchen, may have to stab him..... no, gonna rattle off upstairs with all the wise words of cc and mm banging loud in my head. RACE! OILS! HAMMER! GAZELLE! KIDS FINDING FAGS IN FRANCE! GUILT! GAZELLE! OILS!

btw cc I know what you mean about being horrified at being without mm's oils - am pretty addicted myself, amazing how soothing and bad mood unravelling they are...

gonna hit the sack early tonight girls, all leg shaved and yum oiled from bath, night night xxx

hi girls,just finished watching tv, off to bed now, but you're both right i do need to find more than my 1 friend across the road!

fg, i spend the entire day jumping from one baby to the next - feed 1, feed 2, cuddle 1, cuddle 2, get 1 to sleep rest 5 mins, 2 wakes up etc....i do really enjoy them now, they're quite sweet together already. ds1 can comfort ds2 better than i can at times! when they hold hands (yes, even ds2 reaches out for ds1) it nearly brings tears to my eyes!

i was just having a lonely day, feel much better now thanks you two! night night xx

Morning girls, gonna get myself out and about today as its back to the grind on Tuesday. Slept like a log, not sure how im going to get up for school..Must run for coffeexx See you Laterxx

I mean Thursday, It is Tuesday today DUH. Ill put my brain in now too!

hope you have a lovely day out cc, and an un-lonely day mm, sun is splitting the sky here which is good for the mood... got up v early, showered and slathered on mm's oils, feeling GOOD!

mm is there an nct group in your area? I did find my bethnal green one brilliant with lovely people but the one where I live now was crap and faded away due to lack of interest - think they can vary massively. When my pal moved from london to devon she found the nct group a huge help in getting settled & making connections with people -they meet once a week, on the beach in the summer...

Have a massive target to meet with work this week as have been slow and actually pretty crap lately, too much dithering... so had better crack on, think I'll have to ban myself from coming on here till at least lunchtime!! When I find myself starting to type in mumsne... will have to give my hand a big slap!

Have a good day girls... xxxxx

have a good day cc - do something good!

fg, work hard, you can play hard later. think you should ban yourself till after dinner. since cc is out anyway, i will not speak to you till then to make sure you do your work (v. mum-like tone ) will check just in case you're in need of ciggie support tho :)

aargh mm, I made it till 12.25 (I think, clock on my pc is wrong) and had to post! I like your stern 'mum' tone, just like when you were urging cc to have a massage!

I hope cc is out in the sunshine doing something nice with the girls. am planning to cook a load of the horrible wee willy winkie sausages my kids like so much and do tea in the park, have been too cooped up with the rain this summer.

Have had a really good work morning & barely any cravings so maybe things are getting easier? Haven't even been doing tortoise face much. How about you?

Also - and I will stop harping on about this I promise mm - the other thing that really helped me settle in here was joining a writing group - most of the people just write for fun, it's a lovely friendly group, I'd go daft without it. Ours is all women. I've been in mixed groups before and have found that some of the men like to dominate, ranting their opinions, or reading out lengthy diatribes about their wives!! Whereas women tend to be pretty generous about each other's work & are more supportive. Huge generalisation I know...

Anyway it's prob v v hard for you to do an activity regularly just for yourself, but maybe it'll be easier as the boys get a bit older? I did start going out once a week when erin was about 6 months, but that was to blinkin' scottish slimmers (or Cake Club as dh called it!)

love f xx will catch up these eve...

WORK!!!

Hello Girls, had a lovely day in a very expensive charity shop that was having a sale buying loads of things for a pound...
Poor children hated it so while waiting for my mum to finish browsing we played down a little alley where you throw the pennys up the wall and see who can get nearest the wall...does that have a name?
Then we came back here and the kids played in the garden while we had a fry up...fry up started mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm cravings for nicotine...and so I am here whinging.
LOL
Did you get all you needed done FG? And MM what did you get up to?
Kids want to play monopoly on here must go xxxxxx

apart from ordering fg about (seems to have worked, she hasn't come back!) i have had a pretty boring day i'm afraid, although the sun was shining so that made it nicer. was actually too tired to go anywhere anyway and when i do, i seem to end up spending money...even if it's £3 for a coffee at Starbucks! went to bed late last night first mnetting about the return of Sunset Beach and then feeding the kids.

I'm glad you had a good day cc, know exactly what you mean about fry-ups tho, god that feeling of being nice and full & washing it down with a nice cup of tea and a fa...

Having fun doing the housework here...dp going to get out the bath and hog this so see you tommorowxx

Goodness me friends, where have you gone?????

it was bonusprint doing 50 photos for 5 quid btw...just remembered!!!!!!!!!!

yeah had a really good work day thanks but things did go downhill later...

poor dh hogged the pc last night not for fun but cos he had a pile of work to do - he was slogging away till 2.30 am so I didn't get a look in last night! Which is perhaps why...

...after losing it in the park with Sam (he was throwing his sister's sandals about to wind her up, being mr attitude, or mr arse as we call it, a persona he slips into sometimes), then losing it back home cos he wrote for his homework sentence MY DAD WENT TO WORK AND GOT THE SACK... I just went mental. totally over reacted. yelled at him to get in the shower and then started slapping at the glass shower door with a towel.

I sent him to bed then felt the tears coming & snatched one of dh's ciggies and went out with back with a big glass fo wine & smoked it. Then another one later. Am prob due on, was v tearful & irrational and none of this was any excuse for smoking.

am feeling a bit ashamed of myself this morning and also craving v strongly but am just gonna throw myself into work. have decided to squeeze in another 10k race which is this sunday in paisley nr glasgow, should keep me off the ciggies & give something to focus on - will also stop me getting to p&ssed with dh at weekend so hopefully will keep on the straight and narrow!!

like I've said before girls I am the weakest link.... you two are doing so brilliantly too, not one slip-up!

will check in at lunchtime girls xx

Not one slip up just a few, justifyed in my mind, joint...same thing really...cheating.
Had to LOL at the composed Gazelle type image I have of you slapping the shower with a towel Dont woryy about it, we mothers are entitled to have a hissy fit every so often...We Are.
You need to stop having these fags FG so you dont wake up feeling ashamed of yourself.
You WANT to stop smoking...and that one or two fags does not stop the fact that your pissed off or one of your kids is being an arse...it just undermines your confidence that you CAN do it.
You are stronger than others as you are perserving with it, but you are making it harder by feeding MR Nicotine.
Give me your address and I will send a Large Hammer... I think you need it
Tasha wants on P.C so going to go but BIG HUGSxx
Chat Later...Get you A.C Book out Fiona, get cramming in all the important bits.xxx

BTW I am feeling vunerable at the mo, not quite enough anti smoking and i am going to get my book back of my neighbour as she hasnt even lkookeed at it yet and I feel I neeeeeeeeddddd it.

you know you're not gonna do it cc - you've been such a brilliant support to us. Get that book out, deep breaths,look at all the v v true succinct nuggests of advice you've given me and mm.

are you feeling weird and a bit panicky cos you're back at work this week (is that right? sorry, head is a bit scrambled). Think how wonderful & proud you'll feel being at nursery and not thinking shit, four hours without a fag...

you have gone through the hard bit now and it's only gonna get easier from now on, promise. bung on some oils. chonk chonk.

have to confess I had a puff a wee while ago (plucked from ashtray, how vile...) ...am not gonna beat myself up, just start again (AGAIN! how can you put up with me?! I am madenning!!!!) tomorrow in a refreshed & determined frame of mind, with sunday's race looming.

will catch up later IF I get a look in with the pc!

How is your day going mm? xxxx

not getting a look in at the mo girls, ds2 is being v. clingy and no chance of typing much, so just wanted you two to know that i am here and thinking about you and your present cravings, do not give in, they are JUST CRAVINGS. they will pass, you know they will. think of them as contractions, only better because they're less often and you DON'T have to have them, one day they will disappear!! Think of them as a steep hill that you cross and when you get to the bottom the pain is gone.

Sorry that's all i can type for now...good luck with the rest of the day!!!

Aw Fiona...get out of the ashtray ffs...thats soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo not how a gazelle behaves!!!!
Work not bothering me, thats next Tuesday im back BTW, that will be ggggooooooddddddd, I hope.
Whats bothering me is the fact ive had a joint/fag each night this week and they havent choked me to death, they havent tasted that vile and indeed ive rather enjoyed them.
I much prefer to be in the stinky vile revolted frame of mind.
Saying that though, I am waking up in the morning knowing you couldnt force me to smoke a fag on its own. I am/am not on the edge IYKWIM.
And when I find dog-ends I fling them in the garden without a second thought, dp and mum have a habit of leaving them dangling on the doorstep.
I think in the next 48 hours we should all write why we have stopped/are stopping smoking.
For a reminder.
And FG this may be totally inappropriate, and its based on my experiences not yours, but I find if im tripping up every few days as you are, its been best to smoke for a few days, guiltfree-ish. Then start a fresh on a specified day...Good Idea or Not?
How are you MM? How are your little ones? Does your dp work all day nearly everyday? My dp works 6.30ish-6.30ish everyday except halfday Sat and off all day Sun. Barely see him...

Crossed posts MM..theres nothing worse than trying to type with a baby sitting on your knee and they bang away typing for you like this kkfhldkjhgjgfhiut329855lol

Where are you??? Have checked in at least 3 times and didnt want totalk to myself, but I will anyway!
Had a moment in tescos today, really hungry, nerves on edge sort of thing and I was breathing REALLY deeply, shoulders on the move to relax etc and trying not to pull any dodgy faces...nearly laughed out loud when I realised what I was doing and what i would look like to the other folks in Tescos!!!!!!
Gonna have a Reef tonight, one of those Orangy Alchopops.
Tasha back at school tommorow, got all the stuff ready, I tidyed my house and my mum followed me with the hoover which was lovely!

hi girls,

had a good day today. weather was nice so we popped out after lunch to do food shopping. well, it sounded more fun in my head :)

big clean up tomorrow (again) as in-laws are coming this weekend! that's another good reason not to smoke, not feeling guilty about hiding it or wanting to get away for 10mins in sad desperation.

well done cc, i'm sure you didn't look too crazy and anyway what's the point to all of this if you can't laugh at yourself?!! speaking of laughing, watched 'freaky friday' the remake and thought it was v. entertaining.

why did i give up? because i didn't actually like some of the fags i ended up smoking, didn't like putting the kids second to my fag, didn't like the person it could make me whenever i was desperate for one and didn't like the whole dependancy thing. tbh, the health stuff comes after that but at least i wanted to give up whatever the reason huh?

dh works 5 days a wk, 9-7 (gets home at 7.30), 1 day a week needs to go in at 7am-7pm and has to work sundays (fri&sat off). long days for both of us i'm afraid.

thanks for the bonusprint btw, but isn't it a post off thing? don't want to take the risk with the memory card if so...

forgot to say ages ago, i didn't know AC was english!!