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desperate fag quitter! Anyone similar, fancy mutual support group?!

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fionagib · 08/08/2004 21:51

To my shame it's about my 167th attempt to quit fags... anyone out there trying the same who would like to start a support thingie here where we can rant and vent our frustrations and praise each other? I'm starting tomorrow...

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minkmama · 29/08/2004 22:25

LOL this is too funny! you have to ask her tomorrow and let me know! i remember being drunk and blabbering away because i wanted to seem sober...mum and dad promptly told me to go to bed and get some sleep!!

i'm off now to wrap up some presents for a new baby, but i will be back check just in case you DO remember. Ha ha!!

charliecat · 29/08/2004 22:26

Ok but trying to think is making me laugh

charliecat · 29/08/2004 23:07

No, recollection..duh..must go to bed now, night night allxx

charliecat · 30/08/2004 12:34

Im back now...normal Its 3 weeks today, which is nearly a month, and when weve got to a month that with be 1/12th of a year meaning we only have another 11ths to go....till weve been fag free a whole year...

charliecat · 30/08/2004 12:37

spot the spelling mistake here gave me a good laugh!

minkmama · 30/08/2004 12:44

That's too funny!!! Liked her reaction tho, classic.

how is everyone today? are you all out bank holidaying except for me and cc? we're still child-minding it seems...

i'm getting to my bored phase now where i would just like to have a fag to relieve it. am waiting till ds1 wakes up to clean house instead!!

minkmama · 30/08/2004 12:44

how are you charliecunt, do you remember anything yet?

charliecat · 30/08/2004 12:53

Im fine Minkmuff, still looking after the kids and not up to anything in particular.

charliecat · 30/08/2004 12:58

I have just tryed on a jacket, It had a huge great spider on it that was crawling round my bloody neck when I took it off....It wasnt until 5 mins after I realised my first instinct WASNT I wanna fag.
What r u bored with im fed up with it being in my head 98% of the time, but that is an improvement on 100%

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fionagib · 30/08/2004 13:40

sorry to be so absent girls, just one of those bitty weekends where you're to-ing and fro-ing from kids' parties, then had friends over - plus me and J had 2 v v late nights so was bushed last night - too knackered even for black pepper scented baff!

God mm I know what you mean - it does feel like we've known each other a lot longer than a piddling 3 weeks! Maybe cos we've exchanged so much info? Or cos we chat so often? I don't know, but I do think it's lovely & am grateful every day for all this support... blub... simper... awww, shut up fg, you've gone all emotional again...

v funny about forgetting what you spoke to your mum about cc - perhaps you were just a bit 'overtired'?!

having a good day girls except cooked seabass for my preg earth mothery pal & she couldn't stomach it

still crave every day but do forget fags for maybe an hour or even 2 hours sometimes - great improvement!!

got till 3 to do some work so better crack on....

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fionagib · 30/08/2004 14:01

lovely to have you with us Carla, have read your other thread, think you're v brave for acknowledging it and starting to figure out how to tackle it
good luck xxxxx

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charliecat · 30/08/2004 14:36

Happy Working FG....only 25 mins to go!
You are doing brilliantly without our support FG...and sounds like you and DH have been having a great time
When you guys say crave, what do you mean?
I am still getting erm,,,..like moments where I cant concentrate and loud noises irritate me ...like all my nerves are shattered and very sensitive to wind etc.{LOL} dont know what thats all about but I get that..
Chewing moments where I chonk like mad.
Mad moments where I MUST get up and do something before I...pop??? Dunno But must get up
And a tight rrrr feeling in my chest, which I just KNOW would go away if I had a fag, but then id just be swopping an occasional tight feeling for a constant clogged one.
Throat and chest feel..fab now though..do yours?

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fionagib · 30/08/2004 15:11

yeah cc when I say crave I mean all of what you listed there - plus rabid desire to clean teeth and march around house saying f off under my breath a lot. Also do weird thing when I try to put tension on my shoulders by jutting my neck forward like a tortoise...

v attractive.

gotta dash to school! f xx

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charliecat · 30/08/2004 15:48

Oh Yes, I do that too, with a strange raising of eyebrows as I do it

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fionagib · 30/08/2004 16:37

strange raising of eyebrows, yes - do you also pull a funny wide mouth fish face - like the sort of face people pull when they're applying mascara? I do that all the time. Relives tension I guess.

Just as well am not looking for a boyfriend!

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minkmama · 30/08/2004 16:54

i do that too, although my expression is more like pushing a baby out :)

cc, when i said i was bored, i meant BORED...just not speaking to an adult till 7.30 is quite taxing on my brain. i feel it dying away sometimes....having a fag on my own for 10mins used to stimulate my brain into thinking about stuff non-baby related. that's why i miss it so. not quite the same sucking a lozenge. with 2 babies it's quite a lot of hassle to join any of these mother/baby groups, and anyway i'm quite happy at home most of the time as i'm usually too busy to think about it. just those down moments iykwim?

nice to have you back fg!

charliecat · 30/08/2004 17:28

I feel for you MM, thats why im sticking to 2. Couldnt do that again, babys are incredible suffocating I feel! I enjoyed mine at the time, mostly, but the thought of it again. Oh God NOOOO!!!!
Is now not a good time to get out and about before ds2 gets on the move, or would he not be happy being rocked in his buggy/carseat while you and ds1 socialised?
With 2 so young id think people with older ones would rush to your assistance to give one or the other a cuddle!
I have been a sahm for nearly 7 years and OMG its tested my sanity :) I did do crossstitch for a while...do you have any time consuming activitys?
Screaming kids must dash...

minkmama · 30/08/2004 20:24

it's not ds2 i'm bothered about. as long as he can see that we're around him in the same room he's quite content. ds1 is so curious and active - he must investigate EVERYTHING. it means that i have to run after him making sure he doesn't do something terrible. so if i'm in an environment that's not familiar/child-friendly, i can't really concentrate on chatting which is the point isn't it? don't even have time to knit, he has to try it as well! tend to read magazines or something...i don't know what i do!!!

how are you guys getting on?

charliecat · 30/08/2004 20:29

Been huffing and puffing since early evening, in out in out. One of dps fags got up my nose and smelt delicious. This means I am due on. I always get like this when im due on, but I know it and I will fight it.
My name is Charliecat and I am a nonsmoker.
Did you get your cleaning done? Ive been battling on and off with a sinkful of dishes...what fun.

charliecat · 30/08/2004 20:30

Isnt it a good job we are not looking for boyfreinds btw, what a lot of fun we sound! LOL

charliecat · 30/08/2004 20:31

Isnt it a good job we are not looking for boyfriends btw, what a lot of fun we sound! LOL

minkmama · 30/08/2004 20:31

yep, all done. i just came off, maybe we're becoming cyber-synchronised? :)

clearly fg doesn't need us anymore cc...

minkmama · 30/08/2004 20:32

whaddya talking about, i'm always looking for a boyfriend.

charliecat · 30/08/2004 20:45

I know its ridiculus, she started this desperate thread, and now shes gone all independant on us

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fionagib · 30/08/2004 21:21

I haven't! Got erin all sorted in bed with story etc, then took boys out for 55 min bike ride through country lanes while I ran beside 'em! How's that for desperate measures to combat those face-pulling cravings...

came back, crammed 8 oatcakes with ham & mustard on into gob (as I can't eat before I run or I puke).

anyway ladies am back now and about to have a baff as I stink then am gonna do some work...

oh mm I really feel for you when you talk about not speaking to another adult until 7.30. I used to tell myself - only 92 mins till J gets home... only 46 minutes blah blah... a v forceful friend took me to all these things in london - one o'clock clubs, parent and baby places, nct coffee mornings - lordy! not my scene at all I thought, would rather poke my eyes out. But I went and what a difference it made. Saved my bacon. Banished the loneliness and made the first 18 months a lot of fun - hanging arond in parks with friends etc - instead of lonely. You do sound pretty happy most of the time - I think maybe I had a twinge of PND so was v downcast before I got 'out there' as it were...

one of the girls I met at a group is (7 years on) one of my best friends - she lies in Devon & we go to stay with them every year.

I'm not preaching I hope mm but I think it really can help.

see you after baff! xx

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