dd needs a liver transplant due to obesity related reasons... would you give part of your liver?

[louispa]

this is a really hard situation for me and i am struggling with my choices. i feel like it isn't my place to talk about her medical history, she is in her early 20s.

however, she does need a liver transplant. there is the option of using part of a living match's liver.

would you do it? i think to myself would i do it if it was alcohol reasons and i think i dont know... its the same, isnt it? i dont know though.

Yes I would. I wouldn't consider NOT doing it.

What an awful dilemma for the OP.

In view of the fact that she is a lone parent with sole responsibility for three other children, the youngest of whom is only 9 years old, I can understand her feeling torn.

There are risks for her as donor, a long convalescence and no DP to keep things running for her. She has the financial aspects to consider as well as the practical ones. If she were to die during/following the operation, what would happen to her other 3 children?

It's all very well saying that the risk is "only" 1 in 200, but nobody knows in advance if they will be that unlucky one.

It must be heart-breaking to see your child destroying herself the way your DD is, OP, and going through so much pain and serious illness all these years. Unless her deep issues are addressed and she can be helped to help herself, then a liver transplant will be just a temporary dressing on a psychological wound that runs too deep to heal.

You really are between a rock and a hard place, OP. Whatever decision you make is going to impact your children. It would be easiest for you if the decision were taken out of your hands and you were unsuited to be a donor. Have you been tested? What is the medical team's opinion?