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my partner has just been diagnosed with cancer

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tjacksonpfc · 13/05/2006 09:19

my partner haas just been diagnosed with colon cancer weve got to see a specalist next week and i dont no how we will cope he didnt want to tell me at first as he was scared i would leave him. our dd is 22 months and our ds is 6months

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blueteddy · 13/05/2006 09:23

Oh, I am so sorry to hear this. How awful for you.Sad
xxxxx

crazydazy · 13/05/2006 09:23

Oh no, how terrible for you Sad and for your poor DP Sad

Cannot imagine what you are going through. He was scared you would leave him???? Poor man. Thats typical of the way men think though isn't it?

Hope everything goes okay for you. If you don't mind me asking how old is your DP, I always thought colon cancer was a cancer which mainly affected people who were older i.e 60's.

jellyjelly · 13/05/2006 09:37

I am so sorry, my thoughts are with you.

Socci · 13/05/2006 09:39

Sad I'm so very sorry - how awful for you. I really hope that it has been caught early enough and that you get good news next week from the specialist xxxx

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tjacksonpfc · 13/05/2006 09:45

my dp was 50 in march crazy. thanks you all for your thoughts

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PeachyClair · 13/05/2006 10:26

I am so sorry. I can direct you to a few resources- Macmillan Cancer care (formerly relief) is the one I worked for, as well as their Ino line \link{http://www.macmillan.org.uk/home.aspx\here} they can give grants if your DP is unable to work and you end up on a low income. Not a lot of people are aware of these, but they're really useful and if you fit the criteria RE income easy to access. their line can also signpost you to any info you need, or support.

Also recommended are cancer bacup.

I am sorry you are hving to go through this.

crazydazy · 13/05/2006 10:28

That is still so very young isn't it?

Unimaginable, hope everything goes okay when you see the specialist.

bootsmonkey · 13/05/2006 10:42

My MIL had colon cancer about 20 years ago and made a full recovery. She had checks for a certain period of time and has now been given the all clear. HTH..

tamum · 13/05/2006 10:54

I'm so sorry, you must be worried sick. The main thing to remember is that it is eminently curable if it is caught early. If it is more advanced, there are some drug trials going on that might help if your dh is eligible. Good luck with the appointment next week.

Blandmum · 13/05/2006 10:58

This must be a very worrying time for you and your dp.

The thing to remember is that Cancer can now be a very 'survivable' disease. As others have posted caught early it is very treatable and treatments are getting better all the time........my dh has alaready survived on cancer and is surviving his second, quite nicely.

It is a dreadful old cliche but cancer is a word, not a (death) sentence.

Good sources of support (other than MN where you should post as much as you want/need) are Macmillan nurses and Cancer BACUP.

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tjacksonpfc · 13/05/2006 11:13

thanks all its hard to no what to think or do at the moment we are in limbo untill we see the concultant next week so jutst trying to keep our minds off of it as much as possible till then we have even invited people round for the football and a bbq today to try and help as its easier to keep mind off of it when we are busy

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spacedonkey · 13/05/2006 11:14

Really sorry to hear this tjacksonpfc ((( hugs )))

Blu · 13/05/2006 11:17

so sorry to hear this, it must have come down on you like a blow.

In support of tamum's post, my brother's best friend has just become a father having been successfully treated for colon cancer 4 years ago.
I wish you all the best.

suejonez · 13/05/2006 11:21

No-one knows how they will cope with this kind of news but somehow you do. Take all the help you are offered (or find some mentioned below if its not offered)

It is a horrible, horrible time, my mum was diagnosed with advanced bladder cancer which had spread and given a 5% chance of living 2 years. Over 2 years later, and no sign of the cancer coming back yet and life is good.

I feel for you but you will be amazed how much you can cope with and it may sound mad but having little ones will help you both.

notasheep · 13/05/2006 12:09

Speak to CancerBacup they will give you fantastic support

Squarer · 13/05/2006 13:10

My next door neighbour had this and he is in his early 40's. He has just been given the all clear Smile

This is \link{http://www.cancerbackup.org.uk/Home\CancerBacup}
I found it a very helpful and informative site.

Wishing you both well

SaintGeorge · 13/05/2006 16:02

Sorry to hear your news.

Lynn Faulds Wood (Watchdog) is a survivor of bowel cancer. Her site is \link{http://www.bowelcancer.tv/cgi-bin/page.pl\here}

biglips · 13/05/2006 16:36

im so sorry to hear Sad x

martian · 13/05/2006 22:49

What sad news for you. It's something we all dread isn't it? Did you have any suspicions? Has he been unwell for a long time? As others have said, it is a curable cancer, you may have a very tough year ahead though. I wish you and your dp all the very best. Smile

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tjacksonpfc · 14/05/2006 06:28

no martian we didnt have any suspisions he hasnt been unwell for a long time or anything its something that has come on recently

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red37 · 14/05/2006 06:55

I am so sorry, hope all goes well for you all. My thoughts are with you all. xxx

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tjacksonpfc · 15/05/2006 08:36

well in an hour its d day time to go and see the consultant and see what they have got to say.

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throckenholt · 15/05/2006 08:41

good luck

brimfull · 15/05/2006 08:44

what a stressful time you're having,I hope it all goes well at the hospital.Good Luck

bossykate · 15/05/2006 08:47

very sorry to read this and hoping you get the best possible outcome this week.

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