my partner has just been diagnosed with cancer

[tjacksonpfc]

my partner haas just been diagnosed with colon cancer weve got to see a specalist next week and i dont no how we will cope he didnt want to tell me at first as he was scared i would leave him. our dd is 22 months and our ds is 6months

so sorry

hi all thanks for all the kind words i am just in auto pilot at the moment it hasnt really sunk in i tried to sleep in our bed last night and i just couldnt do it with out him being there it felt so empty. the children are still at my mums they are going to be to young to understand but i no the 2yr old will ask about daddy

Have you got good family and friends supporting you at the moment? I was so sorry to hear about your partner.

If you find Delgirls post below, she is lovely and maybe able to support and comfort you.

Is there anything any of us can do? Whereabouts are you?

how very sad .. I am so sorry for your loss .. I hope you have good support around you and are able to grieve ..

So sorry to hear your sad news

the grieving process is difficult and quite primal .. I don't know if it would help you to know what emotions you may experience but you need to know that whatever you feel and whenever your feel it is normal and necessary to allow you to cope with your great loss .. but I know it helped me so I am posting them anyway in the hope that it helps

.. you may pass through different stages .. there is a well documented 'stages of grief' .. denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance (you can go through any of them at any time and go back to any of them .. they are not sequential .. so for example I found myself going from denial to depression to denial and anger to acceptance and then back to bargaining etc)

I wish you strength and whatever support you need to grieve for your partner

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I am so sorry for you and your girls xxx

So very sorry for your loss

so sorry.thinking of you.

I didn't see this thread before but just want to add my condolences, Tjacksonpfc. Thinking of you and your family. Sue x

I am so very sorry

So sorry to read this.

Look after yourself and your LOs.

You may (when dust settles) find it helpful to get in touch with one of the organisations that suports the bereaved -Cruse etc. When my mum died (also colon cancer, aged 49) my little sister got a lot of help from a local charity specialising in bereavement care for children. There is help out there if you want it.

take care

tjacksonpfc, ive been following this thread,but hadnt been here for while. just read the really sad news. i'm thinking about you. i really dont know what else to say. im sending you my deepest sympathies.xx

Only just seen this. I am so very sorry to hear of your loss.

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i havent seen this before, just wanted to add my condolences.
so sorry for the loss of your partner
{{hugs}}
xx

tjacksonpfc, sending you love during this awful time.As do so so many of us here. thinking of you.

My sister works for CRUSE the bereavement counselling people and they have a very good telephone service if you need to speak to anyone

Phone 0870 167 1677
EMAIL [email protected]

www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/

I'm so sorry this must be such a shock for you all coming so quickly after diagnosis.

I'm so sorry to hear this . I'm thinking about you and your little girl & boy.

Oh! I'm so very sorry tjacksonpfc. Thinking of you and your little ones xxx

OMG - you poor poor soul ... don'tbe alone ... perhaps you should stay at your Mums ... Having those around you that love you might just help the tiniest bit.

Love to you all xxxx

Im so so sorry tj.

xxx

This is so very sad Really am very sorry to read about your loss