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my partner has just been diagnosed with cancer

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tjacksonpfc · 13/05/2006 09:19

my partner haas just been diagnosed with colon cancer weve got to see a specalist next week and i dont no how we will cope he didnt want to tell me at first as he was scared i would leave him. our dd is 22 months and our ds is 6months

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martian · 18/05/2006 13:11

Good luck. Keep us posted? Thinking of you both. Smile

SSSandy · 18/05/2006 13:21

How did it go?

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tjacksonpfc · 19/05/2006 11:59

hi all it went ok yesterday made dp sick and very weak but he is at home at mo and resting much to his annoyance but he will be back in again on monday and they want him to stay in for 2 days for more chemo and tests so we are going to have a nice quiet weekend to prepare for monday

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suejonez · 19/05/2006 13:42

He will need lots of rest so he will have to get used to it for a while! My mother had chemo every week, then once a month chemo which required an overnight stay so I don't think keeping him in overnight is unusual.

Glad you got through the first one OK. How are you feeling about it all now?

martian · 19/05/2006 15:27

Did he feel particularly bad immediately after the chemo? Then slighly better today? Sorry, I'm clueless re. chemo, just trying to imagine your situation ...

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tjacksonpfc · 20/05/2006 06:00

hi al me again just to update you dp isnt doing to bad today hes still very tired but restless at night which doesnt help and explains why i am up at such a daft time he is getting ready to go in again on monday and stay overnight so i am spending monday night at my mums with the kids dp has been talking about if the chemo doesnt make any diffrence to the size of the cancer then he wont have any more he would rather live with it for as long as he can and enjoy life and the kids instead of being in and out of hospital and feeling awful all of the time.

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suejonez · 20/05/2006 09:59

I can't chat lng now, i'm on my way out, but it is FAR too early for him to be making his mind up about chemo now. He doesn't know how bad he'll feel, if they decide to use the chemo as palliative care (ie there's no chance of survival but they're trying to prolong life) then they are MUCH more careful not to make you too sick. I doubt very much if they are at that stage yet, I'm sure that they are still going for a cure (they dd with my mum) - hwever bad it is being sick for 3 months is a price worth paying.

Hope I'm not being clumsy in my rush out the door, will catch up later.

take care of yourself.

SJ x

martian · 20/05/2006 19:21

I can understand why he said what he did. When you feel really unewll you just want it to stop, don't you? Is the plan to shrink the tumour, then go for surgery and radiotherapy?

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tjacksonpfc · 26/05/2006 06:13

hi all sorry i havent been on for a while but dp went in on monday for 2 days so i went and spent some time with our kids at my mums. he had 2 days of treatment in the hospital and hes is now at home recovering he is very tired at the mo but seems to be doing ok he is back in again on tuesday so if he feels up to it we are going to make the most of the long weekend and take the kids out for the day some where.

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martian · 26/05/2006 22:43

I hope you have a good weekend. Hugs to you both Smile

martian · 31/05/2006 22:53

how are you getting on? Thinking of you ... Smile

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tjacksonpfc · 06/06/2006 09:37

hi all sorry its been a while but things have been up and down dpgot a chest infection last week so was kept in hospital till it cleared up so i made the most of the time to go and stay down at my mums with the kids at night and visit dp in hospital during the day he is coming out today so hopefully things will be ok now.

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tjacksonpfc · 25/07/2006 09:24

hi all just to let everyone that was so kind to me know that my dp passed away last night the cancer spread and there was nothing they could do that is why i havent been on here for a while.

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throckenholt · 25/07/2006 09:26

I don't know your story - but jsut wanted to say how sorry I am that your partner died. Look after yourself and take one day at a time.

CountessDracula · 25/07/2006 09:27

Oh no I am so sorry

puff · 25/07/2006 09:30

I didn't see this thread before.

I am so so sorry .

CheesyFeet · 25/07/2006 09:30

So very sorry sweetheart .

golds · 25/07/2006 09:32

so sorry to hear your sad news x

BettySpaghetti · 25/07/2006 09:35

so sorry to hear this

Carmenere · 25/07/2006 09:35

So sorry for your trouble

ssd · 25/07/2006 09:37

I am so very very sorry, my heart goes out to you and your kids.

katierocket · 25/07/2006 09:40

Words fail me - so sorry to hear your sad news. Do you have family close by who can help you through this terrible time?

MissyCocker · 25/07/2006 09:55

So sorry for you and your children, you must be devastated

foxinsocks · 25/07/2006 09:57

oh no sorry for your loss

ponygirl · 25/07/2006 10:13

So, so sorry to hear your news.