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my partner has just been diagnosed with cancer

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tjacksonpfc · 13/05/2006 09:19

my partner haas just been diagnosed with colon cancer weve got to see a specalist next week and i dont no how we will cope he didnt want to tell me at first as he was scared i would leave him. our dd is 22 months and our ds is 6months

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pecka · 30/07/2006 12:40

This is so very sad Really am very sorry to read about your loss

Millie1 · 30/07/2006 15:53

Am so so sorry to read this - such a shock and it all seems to have happened so quickly. Thinking of you and your family.

anthonykiedisbitontheside · 30/07/2006 16:05

I'm so sorry this has happened. Wishing you peace and strength at this sadtime.

claireh11 · 30/07/2006 20:13

Tjacksonpfc - I am so sorry for your loss.

Sending my love to you and your little one's.

I lost my grandma to colon cancer 3 days before christmas 9 days after diagnosis. I am not comparing the two as I cannot even begin to imagine the pain you are going through right now.

Just sending my love hugs and best wishes to you all xxxxx

lulabelle · 31/07/2006 14:28

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jaamy · 31/07/2006 15:32

So sorry for your loss, tjacksonpfc. Such a quick illness at a young age. Your DP will live on in his children and I'm sure you'll never let them forget about him. Be good to yourself.

Socci · 31/07/2006 15:39

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Scoobydooooo · 31/07/2006 15:44

This is so very sad to read, my thoughts & prays are with you at this very hard & terribly sad time

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tjacksonpfc · 03/08/2006 07:32

hi all thank you once again for the messages i have been down at my mums for a few days with our kids getting ready for the funeral which is on monday i am dreading it but its got to be done.

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Tutter · 03/08/2006 07:46

only just seen this thread - so sorry to hear of your loss. wishing you strength xx

zoeuk1 · 03/08/2006 23:35

i cant imagine how you are feeling. i hope everything goes as well as can be expected on monday. im sure i wont be the only one thinking about you.

swedishmum · 04/08/2006 00:05

Just saw this after following your thread earlier. So sorry and hoping it goes as well as possible on Monday.

suejonez · 04/08/2006 00:15

Good luck for Monday, so sorry you and your family are going through this.

rickman · 04/08/2006 00:24

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poopy · 04/08/2006 00:35

I have only just seen this ... so very very sorry tj - what a terrible thing to have to go through
You are in my thoughts xxx

cataloguequeen · 04/08/2006 00:59

So sorry to hear your sad news..take care babe(((hugs))) thinking of you xxx

PollyLogos · 04/08/2006 05:41

Very sorry to hear this tjacksonpfc.I'll be thinking of you on Monday.

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tjacksonpfc · 11/08/2006 09:44

hi the funeral went well on monday from what i can remmber but most of it is just a blur but i am now in the dog house with mother in law as we are having dps ashes scattered next week over his birth fathers grave who was killed in an accident when he was 6 weeks old and over his brothers grave who died 10 years ago. the mil wants to no why they are going over his birth fathers and not his dad who brought him up who died a year ago tommorow the 12th when i said it was dps whishes and i promised him they would happen she went into a huff and then kmoaned because i hadnt given her any money towards the flowers for fils grave for tommorow. doesnt she realise ive got more important things on my mind then giving her money for flowers. im a wreck at the moment im just glad that our kids are being well looked after at my mums as i couldnt look after them at the mo i cant sleep im drinking far to much and i miss dp so much it is killing me. sorry to go on like this.

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Spagblog · 11/08/2006 09:54

I am sorry that your MIL is being such an insensitive pain in the ass. Well done for holding it all together so well, and fulfilling his wishes regardless of the interference.

Lemmingswife · 11/08/2006 09:56

I am so, so sorry you are going through this. I am thinking of you at this difficult time.xxxxxxx

hulababy · 11/08/2006 09:58

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with MIL being insensitive also, on top of everything else.

I am glad that the funeral went well.

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tjacksonpfc · 11/08/2006 10:12

spagblog whos holding it together coz im not. fiofio our dd is 25months and ds is nearly 10 months

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fairyjay · 11/08/2006 10:20

tj
It's such early days, and you must be hurting so much. I know your MIL is grieving, but you need to be looking after yourself at the moment. Is your Mum with you?
It must be some comfort to know that you are able to do what your dh wanted, and that you had the time together to talk about what he wanted.
Really thinking of you.