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xh is potentially v ill

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lou33 · 21/03/2006 20:17

initial tests show he could have cancer of the oesophagus, he is going for more this week

i found out when i was away in thailand, i just got back today

i pretty much know what the outlook is for him if it is the case, but i wondered if anyone has any experience of it

it's such a huge shock, he is only 43

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WideWebWitch · 21/03/2006 20:18

God, sorry Lou, I haven't any advice but this must be very shocking and scary, poor all of you.

GDG · 21/03/2006 20:18

Sad oh lou, so, so sorry to hear this

No experience but wanted to acknowledge your post

Hulababy · 21/03/2006 20:19

So sorry to hear this Lou. :(

Twinkie1 · 21/03/2006 20:19

Goodness - no, no experience but hope you get some and can be of some help and reassurance to him.

SleepySuzy · 21/03/2006 20:19

Really sorry to hear that, Lou.

No experience of the same, but my dh has Hodgkins disease (lymphoma cancer), so don't know if I can help with any info. Some excellent websites are Cancer Bacup and Cancer Research for information.

Please keep us posted.

xx

busybusybee · 21/03/2006 20:21

:( thats awful for all of you

Piffle · 21/03/2006 20:21

Oh Lou after all you have been through in the last year or so - no advice but huge hugs for you and the kids and I hope that the outcome for xh is good
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Socci · 21/03/2006 20:21

oh how awful - I'm so sorry Sad

getbakainyourjimjams · 21/03/2006 20:21

Bloody hell Lou. How long will he have to wait for results?

Blandmum · 21/03/2006 20:22

Oh, shit! I am so sorry. I echo what has been saif re BACUP, they were great when dh had both his diagnoses.

Sending hugs for the best possible outcome.

niceglasses · 21/03/2006 20:23

Thinking of you.

Flossam · 21/03/2006 20:23

Lou, so sorry. I used to work with patients with this condition and will be going back to work there again next month. What would you like to know? What has he had done so far? A endoscopy? And are the further tests including a small operation to look at it from the inside? If you want to CAT me I can tell you about it, or I can reply here. If the initial tests are correct then he is going to need a great deal of support. Sad

Chapsmum · 21/03/2006 20:25

lou, I have a little experience of this as I briefly worked in a GI surgical ward.

I'm afraid to say that oesophageal cancer is a very aggresive form of cancer. It is usually treated aggressivly with radiotherpy and surgery.

However if it has not been confirmed he could have whats know as a barrets esophagus which can some times look like cancer, is a pre cancerous condition, but is not cancer and is treatable.

Am so sorry to hear this and am sending you ((((hugs)))))

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lou33 · 21/03/2006 20:37

i only got back form thailand this morning, he had the initial tests done when i was away, i have been telling him for months to go and get himself looked at but he has been putting it off Angry

he is going for more tests tomorrow i think, and he has to have a biopsy as well, but judging on his symptoms i would say it isnt good

he has lost an incredible amount of weight in the last couple of months, has had trouble with feeling there is something in his throat, and is now vomiting and coughing blood several times a day

he looks ill

i have no idea what to say to my kids if that time comes, my youngest is only 5

thanks for all your help tho

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LIZS · 21/03/2006 20:38

Sad what a shock for you .

sunchowder · 21/03/2006 20:40

OMG Lou, I am devasted to hear this. I just can't believe it. I am sending warm and healing thoughts to all of you. I hope for the best. Please email me if you want my support or if there is anything that I can do for you. Much Love, Sunny

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lou33 · 21/03/2006 20:41

i told him if he is sick he is not moving out, he has to stay here so i can look after him, and he can be about his kids

we are all he has, though we will never be a couple again

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Chapsmum · 21/03/2006 20:42

I had a dear friend who died at 23 leaving behind a 6 year old son, The macmillan cancer care foundation have some excellent books that help children to understand cancer as well as aspects of cancer treament.

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lou33 · 21/03/2006 20:43

he is vomiting blood as well

i dont think he could lose that much weight so quickly from stress

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Flossam · 21/03/2006 20:43

That doesen't sound good Lou Sad.

I typed out a long response detailing things but seeing as he dosen't have a definate diagnoses it dosen't quite seem appropriate. Like I said, feel welcome to CAT me or I can CAT you if you would like.
xxx

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lou33 · 21/03/2006 20:45

floss, can you cat me please?

thanks

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Chapsmum · 21/03/2006 20:50

lou, feel free to e-mail/MSN me if you need to
dollyburd12 at hotmail dot com

Flossam · 21/03/2006 20:51

Have done Lou.